Archive for July, 2007
Oral Sex Secrets For A Great Female Orgasm…
Pleasuring your partner is an important part of a great sex life. You definitely know that, right? Well, one of the best ways to pleasure her is by giving her a little selfless attention – that means doing something hot to make her feel amazing even when you’re not getting anything back . . . at least not at that moment.
I’m talking about oral sex or, in this case, cunnilingus.
The good news is that oral sex can be amazingly pleasurable for your partner. The bad news is a lot of guys just don’t know what their doing and that ruins the experience for both of partner. But you’re not going to be one of those guys.
Let’s look at some pointers to improve your oral sex aptitude.
Oral sex is one of those things guys have to pretty much learn how to do on their own. It’s not like driving a car where they can ask their dad for advice and it’s not even like vaginal sex which you learn how to do from watching a couple of X-rated films. You’re pretty much on your own with this one so let’s look at three techniques you can use to become outstanding in the oral sex department.
First, you’ve got to know how to move your tongue. The best analogy to describe this is a cat or a dog drinking water from a bowl. When they’re lapping up that water, their tongue is going in and out of their mouths pretty fast, right? Well, that’s the same type of movement you’re trying to achieve. Short and fast is the way to turn up the heat and rev up her clitoris.
Of course, using just “lapping” techniques won’t necessarily win you a prize in bed; you’ve got to know how to spice things up. After you use the first technique for a little bit, mix it up and try a rotation technique. Instead of moving your tongue in and out, keep it in and moving it a circular motion. This motion works amazingly well with the clitoris (circular motion also does the trick in vaginal intercourse, too) and can sometimes be just what she needs to push her over the top.
Now I know some of these cunnilingus sessions can last a pretty long time and a man’s tongue can get pretty tired (we do appreciate the effort though!), so when you start wearing down, give your tongue a break and try humming instead. That’s right – I said humming. Pick any tune you want and hum away but the trick is to keep your face in position. The vibration from your humming will travel up through her vagina and stimulate her clitoris. Basically, you’re becoming her own special vibrator.
Sometimes, guys, you just can’t do it alone. Now I’m not suggesting you bring in a friend, but I am suggesting you pack along a special surprise in your pocket for her: a sex toy. You can choose almost any type of sex you want, but keep in mind one thing: Where am I going to use it? If you don’t mind sharing your tongue space with a vibrator or dildo – and many guys don’t – then any of those choices are fine. My suggestion though is to invest in a toy designed specifically of anal stimulation. Even though your woman may frown on anal intercourse (especially if she’s had a bad experience), the truth is that stimulation in that region – when done correctly – can be pretty intense and can even lead to G-spot orgasms! Plus, if you’re pleasuring her in one area and your “friend” is pleasuring her in another, then your partner is definitely going to be one happy lady, especially after a few minutes.
And you’re likely to be happy, too. A satisfied woman is very likely to turn right around and repay you for your efforts. Maybe with a little fellatio. After all, what man doesn’t love getting oral sex?
While we’re on the subject of oral sex though, I want to mention safety. I’m not trying to kill the mood but you’ll have a lot more fun if you’re protected than if you end up seriously regretting your actions a few months down the road if you know what I mean. While oral sex won’t cause pregnancy, you and your partner can still transmit diseases that way. It may not be romantic but you need to invest in dental dam which covers your teeth and tongue during the act so you don’t exchange bodily fluids during the act. Trust me, you’ll be thankful you did.
Now go out there and start pleasuring your woman with amazing cunnilingus . . . safely.
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Is Stress Killing Your Sex Life?
Do you know what the biggest problem getting in the way of most couples’ sex lives is? You might be surprised by the answer.
It’s stress. Think about it. All day long you’re probably stressing about your job, you’re stressing about the traffic, you’re stressing about your finances, you’re stressing about the kids, then you go home and start stressing about whether you’ll be able to help your partner get off. With all that stress, it’s a miracle you can get an erection at all!
Stress does a lot of damage to our bodies as you probably already know. But besides raising your blood pressure (not in a sexy way), it can also reduce your libido. And that’s not what you or your partner wants. Plus, if she’s feeling overwhelmed by the pressures of life, you’ll have a much harder time getting her to warm up and climax at all.
The combination is simply disappointing sex lives.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. By finding ways to reduce your stress levels (and your partner’s), you’ll be able to find more fulfillment in bed and I know that’s definitely something you’d want.
One way is to practice meditation. You don’t need to learn any complicated positions, although it wouldn’t hurt if you also want to become a little more flexible in the bedroom. All you really need to do is find a comfortable spot, close your eyes, and picture something very comforting. When I’m meditating, I always picture a garden of flowers because that helps me feel good. Don’t picture your significant other – while she may make you feel wonderful in lots of ways she’s also probably going to make you feel stressed.
Make sure you can really picture whatever your image is. Make it so real you can feel it, taste it, touch it, and smell it.
You should do this at least once a day for ten minutes or any time you feel particularly stressed. The best part is that you can use a similar exercise to help you get ready for the bedroom. Instead of visualizing something that relaxes you, picture yourself and your partner in the middle of some hot sex and imagine her screaming your name in pleasure. Picturing this will not only rev up your libido, it will also give you more confidence in the bedroom.
Another stress reliever is a warm bath or shower. I could soak for hours in a bubble bath, especially one filled with aromatherapy bubbles. Sure, most people think relaxing in the tub is just for girls but guys can enjoy soaking, too. Just lay back so most of your body is enveloped in the water and close your eyes. The water will feel like warm lips or hands moving softly over your body. It’s an incredibly soothing feeling.
Even better is taking a warm bubble bath with your partner. Both of you can strip naked and crawl under the bubbles with your bodies entwined under the water. You can either face each other or you can have her sit between your legs and lean back against your body. If you’re a smart man – and I know you are – you’ll choose the latter. Once you’re both relaxed, your hands can start doing some exploration under the bubbles: stroking her breasts, running your fingers along her inner thighs, even stimulating her clitoris a little with your finger or a waterproof vibrator. You could even use one of those shower head nozzles to direct water right onto her most sensitive areas if you have one handy. And don’t worry, if she’s half the woman you deserve she’ll return the favor by giving you some special ways of relaxing even more.
After you’ve enjoyed some stress relief in the bathtub, you’ll be ready to go even further in the bedroom. Don’t think about your performance. Don’t think about how long you need to last or anything like that. Concentrate instead on giving her all the pleasure you can. When she’s feeling amazing, you’re going to be feeling amazing.
The best part is that amazing sex and particularly sex that results in orgasms is also a great sex reliever. That means by practicing some of these tips and getting as much great sex from your partner as possible is going to help both of you be happier and healthier in bed, in your relationship, and in life.
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How Women’s Libido-Boosters Work
Women have finally gotten their fair due in the category of all-natural sexual arousal and pleasure enhancers. Currently, there are dozens of such products on the market for men (not to mention several prescription meds that cater only to men), but only very recently have women’s products moved into consumer focus. It’s a booming segment of the natural supplement market that’s more popular than ever.
However, the use of herbs and nutrients to enhance women’s sex drives and pleasure is nothing new. For many years, folk medicine and naturopathic healing have had a variety of natural and botanical ingredients in their arsenal of tools to combat women’s flagging sexuality due to fatigue, stress, dietary deficiency, aging, hormonal changes or emotional upset. What’s new now is the availability of specialized, pre-calibrated formulas in new standardized dosages using many of these time-honored ingredients.
The great news is that the formulas work — so well that women are buying them in record numbers and celebrating the results. The bad news? That the natural supplement market is easily infiltrated by fakes and poseurs, products that do nothing but cost as much as the real thing.
The wise consumer should first gain an understanding of how these products work, and what goes into a quality supplement, then make an informed choice to enjoy the best results.
What you’re looking for is a non-prescription, balanced formula that can be taken as a daily supplement without side effects or interference with birth control or other medications you might be taking. The specific formulation varies by manufacturer, however, all formulas worth purchasing are created in a cGMP pharmaceutical-grade facility, of top-quality ingredients. Here’s what else to look for: The ingredients in a good supplement individually will work to promote better blood flow and increased muscular relaxation, plus act on hormones for increased, more energetic sexual response. In addition, the hormone-balancing factors in the formula may combat the negative effects of menopause, such as night sweats and hot flashes, and may even balance mood and attitude before or during menopause. Taken together, in a blend that is thoughtfully created and precisely calibrated, the effects on the overall female reproductive system are overwhelmingly positive — from a healthier, more satisfying sex life to natural fertility.
With all the choices out there, it takes a diligent researcher to find out which are the effective formulas. One that meets all the critieria above is Provestra™, which in addition to being an effective and very popular libido-booster for women, is also provided by one of the top legitimate companies in sexual health improvement for men and women. Here’s a partial list of Provestra™’s ingredients, and a description of how each works specifically on the female reproductive system:
Maca - legendary South American herb with centuries-old reputation for increasing libido
Red raspberry leaf - a female tonic, uterine contraction regulator, pregnancy herb
Red clover - a blood cleanser and nutritive, positive effects on hormonal systems regulating pregnancy and lactation
Cayenne pepper - a stimulant that equalizes circulation and strengthens the heart
Licorice root - a botanical that strengthens and tonifies the adrenal glands and enhances hormonal function
Bayberry fruit - natural ingredient that increases blood flow and capillary dilation in the mucus membranes of the vagina to enhance lubrication
Damiana leaf - a centuries-old remedy used as an aphrodisiac for its ability to stimulate genitals
Valerian root - a time-honored remedy that reduces tension and emotional stress, aids in a restful sleep, and eases menstrual cramps
Ginger root - a total system stimulant that enhances the action of other herbs
Black cohosh root - a favorite of midwives that acts on the uterine and vaginal ability to contract, balances hormones and has a mild sedative effect
Notice that the blend described above goes to work on the libido from multiple fronts: circulatory, hormonal, stress reduction, female-specific tonification and overall effects on the genitals. Other formulas may contain amino acids, vitamins, enzymes or various vegetable extracts. Though many of these ingredients are available individually from health food stores or herbal pharmacies, the prevailing wisdom today points to the superiority of formulas like this, that are pre-calibrated and blended to take the guesswork out of herbal extracts — not to mention the more economical approach of buying a complete tablet as opposed to a bewildering array of pills or tinctures that must be measured, mixed or calculated each day.
Results vary for individual women, but most report positive effects after only about a week or two on the supplement. Unlike prescription meds, these natural supplements have no side effects and can be obtained without a prescription or costly doctor’s office visit. Because of their safety and efficacy, natural supplements are the number one choice today among women seeking to improve their libido and sexual pleasure.
