Archive for October, 2007
Forget About The Vaginal Orgasm!
One of the biggest misconceptions people have about female orgasms is that they are all created equal. The truth is that not all orgasms are the same: they may all be equally pleasurable but they are generally arrived at through different means.
Basically, there are two types of female orgasms: vaginal and clitoral.
Today, we’re going to briefly discuss both types.
Vaginal Orgasm
This type of orgasm was the only type Freud and other men of his time felt to be legitimate types of sexual pleasure for women to experience. Unfortunately for women, only about 20% can receive an orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. The other 80% need something a little extra.
Before we get into that, let me explain exactly what we mean by vaginal orgasm. A vaginal orgasm occurs solely because of stimulation of the vagina. That stimulation is usually in the form of the thrusting of the male penis during vaginal intercourse.
The reason most women do not receive an orgasm just from penetration is that the vagina is not a highly sensitive area. This is actually a good thing. Remember that the vagina is not just used for sex but also for delivering babies. If the inside walls of the vagina were made up of concentrated nerve endings like we find in the nipple, the clitoris, or the penis, then childbirth would be even more difficult for women.
In fact, only the first two inches of the vagina are sensitive at all.
So why do some women have orgasms solely from vaginal stimulation?
The answer is they probably aren’t. Women who report vaginal orgasms benefit from their anatomy. In some women, the labia minora are formed in such a way that vaginal penetration actually causes the labia to rub against or gently pull on the clitoris.
This, not vaginal stimulation, is leading to the orgasm in most cases. Technically, however, this would still be considered a vaginal orgasm because there is not direct stimulation of the clitoris.
Another reason why some women report having vaginal orgasms is that the shape of the penis and their preferred position allow for stimulation of the G-spot. Because the G-spot is linked to increased pleasure and may also induce orgasms, this is another possibility worth considering.
The bottom line here though is that vaginal orgasms are not common. Men and women need to realize that penetration is often not going to be enough to accomplish the goal. The good news is that gives both partners an excuse to experiment with some new things and ideas!
Clitoral Orgasm
By far the most common way for a woman to regularly reach orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. First, let me share with you some information about the clitoris.
The clitoris is located just by the vaginal entrance and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh which contains a high concentration of nerve endings which make it highly sensitive. It is often covered by a clitoral hood. Many people don’t realize that only a small portion of the clitoris is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.
Two things are particularly interesting about the clitoris. First, all female mammals have a clitoris. This is interesting because the sole purpose, at least according to biologists, of the clitoris is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels.
Second, the clitoris is made from the same material as the penis. In fact, in men the clitoris becomes a full-fledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.
The only real difference between a clitoris and a penis – besides location in the body – seems to be that the penis is also used for urination while the clitoris is not.
With that said, it’s important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen. Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse could stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris as well and this can also cause orgasms.
What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually cannot stimulate it. Because of its position in the woman’s body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.
The question is how does one engage in clitoral stimulation. Some male partners take the approach that the women should be responsible for the stimulation themselves, which has always seemed a bit unfair to me since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. However, this is one way to deal with it.
Another method is by, what I like to call multi-tasking. Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris in one way or another (we’ll discuss those ways a little later). If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option.
Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to an alternative approach. One person reaches orgasm at a time. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility but it’s usually not the most satisfactory approach.
The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships which may have become less enthusiastic over time.
And the key is experimenting because different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have masturbated will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.
So, bottom line: Please understand: there is NOTHING wrong if your woman requires clitoral stimulation besides penetration to reach an orgasm. And actually, it IS more fun!
Once you understand this fact, you´ll both start to get more “creative” in bed. And trust me, she will NOT be frustrated anymore!
Sex In Public Places?
Important Note: Having sex in public is not legal in most places. The ideas expressed below are not intended to encourage you to break the law in your area. If you do so, then you do so at your own risk. Of course, the danger IS part of the fun.
What to Do:
Sex in public places can cover a wide range of sexual activities depending on the where and when of the place. For example, a woman might perform oral sex on her partner in a movie theater while the rest of the audience is enjoying the film. The thrill for the man is even greater because he has to resist the urge to vocalize his pleasure for fear of being caught.
Public restrooms can be a fun place to try out some sexual positions, too. Almost all public places have them (although not all of them are sanitary enough for sex) and they can be fairly easy to sneak the opposite sex into. Many of the same techniques you might use in your own bathroom at home would work just as well in a public bathroom. Of course, you can always minimize your risk of getting caught by hiding in a stall – you could do it standing up or with the woman on the man’s lap as he sits on the toilet.
The beach and the park are both wonderlands of sexual possibilities if you’re not afraid of getting caught. On the beach, you’d have to either wait until dark or try to find a very secluded area where you could enjoy each other without being disturbed. In the park, you’re better off waiting until the sun goes down – then you can try out the park swings, the picnic tables, the benches, even the basketball or tennis courts (not as comfortable as a bed but much more exciting).
The important thing here is to keep your eyes open for possibilities at any public place. If you’re turned on enough, you’ll be able to find a way to sneak away together for a little fun. Remember people even find ways to have sex on planes – if they can do that (and you might want to try that, too) then scoping out a quiet area at your favorite restaurant can’t be too difficulty.
Why It’s Hot:
Sex in a public place is the ultimate taboo. Nothing else even comes close and not only is it a culturally taboo but as mentioned earlier it’s also illegal in most places. It’s called public indecency.
For some people, having sex in public is a powerful turn-on. They love the idea of getting caught, of taking risks, or being watched by others. If that’s you, then just the mention of giving or getting oral sex in a crowded theater probably started getting you hot.
Other people find the idea interesting but find the fear of being caught or watched to be so strong that it overpowers the pleasure of the sex. They can’t even relax enough to get in the mood.
If this is something you want to try, then you have to agree to try it as a couple. Pressuring your unwilling partner into having sex in a public restroom is not going to give either of you a great sexual experience. It’s just not going to happen.
With that said, those people who really find public intercourse exciting or who think they’d at least be willing to try it should choose their locations carefully. Getting caught by the cops can not only be embarrassing but it will also immediately kill the mood.
Fun Fantasies:
A couple was clothes shopping at a retail store. The man wanted to try a few things on, so they headed to the dressing room area of the crowded shop. No attendant was outside of the room, so he slipped in and had her follow him into one of the changing stalls so she could give her opinion of the clothes.
As she watched him undressing though, a powerful urge came over her and she kissed him passionately and pushed her whole body up against his. Outside the stall, they could hear people coming in to try on clothes but that didn’t stop her from quickly stripping down to her bra and panties in front of him.
She placed her hands on the small bench inside the changing stall so her bottom was raised higher than her shoulders. He stood behind her, grabbed her hips, and began penetrating her with the sounds of other shoppers in the background. Both of them had to hold back from vocalizing their pleasure too loudly.
When they were finished, they both forgot about trying on the clothes.
Sex Fact: Did you know that the strongest muscle in your body is your tongue? That’s why you should be exercising it regular through kissing and oral sex.
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Her Boobs Will Turn You On…
Hi everyone!
If you´re like me and you are instantly “turned on” by watching gorgeous women with great boobs, then you will enjoy this video.
You can CERTAINLY watch it with your partner. Trust me, it will turn both of you on! But promise that after you watch the video, you will BOTH enjoy a sensual moment together.
Watching a sexy video together is one of the best FOREPLAY techniques!
So, please relax and watch this sexy video with your partner.
Enjoy!
Gabrielle Moore
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