Archive for September, 2008
Four Easy Steps to Creating a Sacred Sex Place at Home
It’s likely that one of the reasons everyone has more sex on vacation is because there’s a sense of ‘specialness’ about staying in a hotel room. It’s quiet, there are no children, or dishes, or jobs. And yes, the lack of distractions and stress make it easier to focus on lovemaking!
But you know, it’s possible to create that special and sacred environment at home too. It might take a bit of work, but if you want to create your own sacred sex space, the rewards will be well worth the effort.
Here, then, we offer four spectacular tips to creating your own homemade sacred sex space.
Figure out where this special sex space should be.
The obvious choice will be the bedroom, and that’s the most reasonable. Here’s why: if you have children, it’s the most private and special place in the house for you to create a sacred sex area. It’s also the one area of the house you can make off-limits to kids. But even if you don’t have children, your bedroom is still your best bet simply because it’s the place people will likely enter the least. People generally won’t invite themselves into your bedroom during a party or visit, so it’s a space that you can keep private, special and even a bit naughty, if you like (and we’ll get to that in a minute).
Make it special.
What does this mean? Essentially our recommendation here is that you think about what your woman wants in her special sex space. Your needs are important too, don’t misunderstand but she needs more to get and keep her turned on. She will be affected by smells, touch and a feeling of luxury.
And her utter appreciation of the time you took to make this space special with her needs in mind is sure to benefit you, if you know what I mean.
Think about your lady. Is she a pink kind of girl? Perhaps she’s into candles, incense, and things of that nature. Pop into a candle store and buy some beautiful candles that have a great smell that will NOT bother you (think vanilla or lavender). After all, it’s your sacred sex place too, right?
Music is important. Can you bring in a small boom box or set the TV to bring in satellite radio? How about buying an iPod compatible system in so you can listen to your (and her) favorite tunes?
Making this space special also means getting rid of clutter. If your sacred space is the bedroom, get rid of the dirty laundry on the floor, the papers on the dresser and the kids’ toys sprinkled about.
This is about you and her, and keeping that focus is important. Don’t just keep it clean when you’re ready for a little loving. Keeping your sacred lovemaking space all clean all the time lowers stress levels, helping you to relax more, whin in turn makes you more receptive or in the mood for lovemaking.
Think about BOTH your needs.
What do the two of you like to do while making love? Are you all about the spiritual connection? In that case, be sure that you do have the candles, music and wonderful sheets. Do you like to have lots of fun with toys? In that case, fill a box or basket (that has a lid) with a few of your favorite adult toys. Be sure to keep it near your sacred love space so you can reach into it at any time.
If you are a fan of long lasting lovemaking sessions, you might consider adding a small fridge to the room. This way, whenever you guys want a drink or snack, there’s no need to break the mood. You can even plan ahead and fill the fridge with champagne, strawberries and other special treats for a special night of lovemaking.
Create the right mood.
We’ve talked about the décor and the candles, and even adding a fridge and toys. But creating the right mood means keeping everything sacred. That means you think about everything. Is it time to get rid of the picture of your parents that hangs on the wall? Should you consider investing in some fantastic new bedding or even matching furniture? If you want to create that hotel feel, think about what is appealing about a hotel.
Of course, you might not be able to replicate having a maid and no schedule for your day, but you can replicate other desirable aspects of a hotel room, such as matching furniture, cleanliness, and the sense of being away from the world for awhile.
If you create a good retreat, you’ll feel as if you’re getting away without leaving the house. And the feeling of ‘getting away’ is often what makes people feel like they have all the time in the world for making love.
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How to Foot Worship Her
Many men suffer unrequited foot fetishes. Maybe it’s the painted nails or the look of a woman’s foot in a perfect high heel, but something about a woman’s foot makes many men swoon.
If you want to get some of that obsession fulfilled, you need to know how to bring your lady into your need to worship her feet. You need to worship her feet so she’ll know that you desire them. You want to make her feet feel as special as you make the rest of her feel.
If she’s completely out of the loop when it comes to your obsession, then by all means go slowly. She might get freaked out if you come on too strong. But if you work up to full worship mode slowly, you’ll likely be able to bring her along for the enjoyable ride.
Top 5 Tips to Feed Your Foot Fetish
1. Begin by treating her feet with tender loving care. The next time the two of you bathe together, gently wash her feet by lathering up your hands, and gently caressing her feet. Give the feet a massage as you do this. Even if she’s ticklish, if you give the feet the right amount of pressure and gentleness, the massage will feel good.
Take your time when you massage the feet, and let her know that you really enjoy touching her feet and giving them special attention. In a subtle way, you’ll be satisfying your own fetish while making her feel special and loved.
2. Buy her some fantastic shoes. Only you know what kind of shoes turns you on the most. Buy her the ones that do. If it’s a stiletto heel, get her some black ones that she can wear out to a party and then later in the bedroom. If it’s a strappy sandal, get her a fantastic leather pair that will make her feet feel like they’re walking on air. Then ask if you can be the one to put them on and take them off on her.
3. Give your lady complimentary input about her shoes, her nail polish and the overall look of her feet. Encourage her to get pedicures and offer to be the one that massages lotion into her feet at the end of the day.
After you’ve bathed her, bought her shoes, and complimented her feet, by now, she might have an inkling that you are into feet. This is, of course, assuming that you haven’t just come right out and told her. If she asks, be open about it but don’t scare her. If she doesn’t ask, then feel free at this point to start discussing it.
4. Start to explore the online world of foot fetishes together. Start to buy sexy shoes together, watch adult movies that feature foot fetish elements, and others. You can also join a forum and talk with others who have feet fetishes or who enjoy worshiping feet. You might find ideas for how to satisfy your foot fetish.
If you’re a bit shy, you can also use the online world to buy special items for your lady’s feet. Be it nail polish or those fantastic shoes we talked about, use the anonymity of the online world to explore your fetish in more detail.
Best of all, you might find that you’re not alone. You can commiserate with other worshipers and get ideas for how to make your lady’s feet feel like they are the greatest things ever.
5. Finally, if you want to take your fetish to the extreme, use those feet in bed. They can be licked and sucked; they can be used for masturbation or other sexual satisfaction. Use your imagination; only you know what will do the trick for you.
Remember, this is as much about her as you. While you have a desire to worship and focus attention on those feet, she needs to feel like it’s OK and that her feet are something to be worshiped. It’s important that in this process you don’t ignore HER, and continue to worship her other body parts. Unless she shares your obsession, you could turn her off if you only focus on the feet.
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Kitchen Lovemaking Tips
It you’re interested in having some hot and steamy sex, head to where it gets really hot and steamy – the kitchen.
The possibilities for sex in the kitchen are endless. There are warm, cold, hard and soft surfaces. There are positions that are ripe for oral lovemaking, and those perfect for intercourse. It’s a virtual buffer of options.
Top 6 Ways to Make Love in the Kitchen
By the stove.
Make sure the stove is turned off, of course, and not warm at all. But here, you can have your lady bend over, and hold onto the sides of the stove, while you make love to her from behind. Make sure you don’t ignore other parts too; curve one arm around the front and fondle her that way. If you’re very tall, you can have her sit on the stove and you can make love facing each other. However, for most men, coming in from the backside works best.
By the sink.
Washing dishes has never been this fun. Sometime when your woman is doing dishes, slide up behind her and start kissing her neck. If she seems receptive, fondle her breasts and then move down to caress her thighs and the area between them. If she’s still receptive, bend her over and take her from behind. You can also choose to turn her around first so she’s facing you. She can brace herself with her hands behind her on the sink as you make love to her.
On the table.
Oh, the stories that abound from making love on the table! You can have oral sex, missionary-style intercourse, doggy-style intercourse, sex while on a chair, sex without a chair. It’s probably the best surface in the kitchen for lovemaking too! It’s flat, it’s clean and it’s versatile (as we just outlined).
Just make sure the table can handle both your weights. If your table is a pedestal style, it will be less sturdy than a table with legs. The last thing you want is the table breaking right under you guys. It will be hard to explain that one at breakfast the next morning!
One of the best table positions is with your woman sitting on the edge of the table, using her hands behind her to hold herself up. Have her bend her knees up toward her chest and you hold onto her knees and use them as leverage to push yourself in and pull yourself out of her. This is a position that will bring both of you great pleasure!
By the freezer.
Is your freezer a top mount? That is, does it sit above the fridge? If so, open it up and have your lady use the bottom shelf to hold onto while you enter her from behind. The freezing cold air will harden and tighten her nipples, which will be exciting for both of you. The cold air in general can be an exciting turn-on. This is perfect for a summer sex in the kitchen session.
On the counter or kitchen island.
This one is for you. While she pleases you orally, you can lean back and enjoy the view, or simply the sensations. Sitting on the counter gives her the best view and position to perform on you, and you the best view of her doing that. We know you’re visual, guys, so this one is for you.
On the kitchen floor.
I saved the obvious for last. The floor of the kitchen makes an obvious and easy background for lovemaking, but it can be uncomfortable. If you plan to do it on the floor, be sure to place something down first (a towel, a blanket, a rug) as it can be hard and cold without some cushioning. Doing it on the floor allows you to be a little more creative with lovemaking so do give this a try.
Also, while on the floor, consider adding some fun elements to your sex play. You can feed each other (simply reach over and open the fridge where you might have strawberries, watermelon and cherries waiting), or play around with kitchen tools. Some might end up being great sex toys.
We’re always being told to get creative in the kitchen. And making love there is about as creative as it gets as there’s no end to the possibilities. So go ahead and create a new recipe for your sex life!
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