Archive for October, 2008
Top 10 Things Women Wish Men Do Before, During and After Sex
Before sex, a woman wants her man to…
1. Take a Shower – Going caveman on her is a turn on only if the man smells and tastes good. She would definitely volunteer to give her partner a rim job and a blow job if he comes out of the shower smelling fresh and clean. Hairy men need to pay particular attention to their hygiene as hairiness will always mean more deep seated dirt that could cause odor when mingled with sweat.
2. Woo her to bed – Even if she has been dating him for a long time, a girl wants to be seduced, enticed and tempted. During the day, a man should drop subtle signs that he wants to do it with her that night. It could be a tiny pinch on the hand while she’s fixing dinner or a playful butt slap when she passes by with the laundry. Catching her eye and giving her the “sex me up” look makes her feel sexy and excited to do just that.
3. Give her a massage – Texture play is as much a woman’s thing as it is a man’s. There’s nothing more sensual than feeling his hand all over her body before sex. A massage is completely one way, and a woman loves to feel pampered. There’s a good chance that a man can get her to agree to anything he wants during sex if he gives her a good backrub first.
During sex, a woman wants her man to…
4. Take the leader role – Girls are traditionally submissive and even the women who want to take charge during sex need to be told the direction to take. It is the man’s job to set the pace of the love making, and this includes telling her how he wants it, asking her to try new things and suggesting the best way for her to achieve the best orgasm.
5. Prolong foreplay – There are men who jump a woman as soon as she’s naked and with legs spread wide. Make no mistake of it, a woman loves to feel her man’s hard penis inside her, but foreplay is a way to get her comfortable and prepped for orgasm. Experimenting with different pleasure spots will go a long way in keeping her wet during actual penetration. Make her want to go on top by prolonging foreplay enough to increase her urge to a feverish pitch.
6. Eat her out – the feel of a man’s tongue on a woman’s clitoris is both mentally and physically gratifying. If a man takes the time to pay proper homage to a woman’s portal of love, he will make her want to return the favor.
After sex, a woman wants her man to…
7. Cuddle – A woman feels like basking in the aftermath of love making by cuddling with her partner. There are some women who feel emotional after sex, and a few ‘happy’ tears could be shed. Making her feel special after sex will make her consider a second round.
8. Be ready for another round – Older guys may find the request for another round immediately after the first as unreasonable. But we are talking about what women want here, and she definitely wants another round when the first one was so intense.
9. Fall asleep with her – There is nothing more romantic than falling asleep (or more appropriately, passing out) together after sex. She will feel very sleepy after a wonderful love making session, and a man has to wait only a few minutes before he can stand up to pee.
Lastly, a woman wants a guy to…
10. Stay erect before and during sex! A rock hard erection will convey the message of desire and willingness to have the best night of love ever.
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How to Striptease with Confidence
The tips provided in this article will get you started with the art of stripteasing in no time! Learning how to striptease would help boost your self-confidence; it is also sexually arousing for both parties and most importantly, it spices up the romance between couples. You have the power to bring back sexual excitement in your life, so what are you still waiting for?
#1: Slip into an exotic outfit.
Your choice of outfits here is unlimited; the important thing however is to go for a new and sexy outfit or one you use only occasionally. You could also experiment with fantasy themes including a schoolgirl uniform, a maid’s dress or a policewoman’s outfit (for women), and a cowboy or policeman costume (for men). The important thing is to use an outfit that will get your lover excited about the whole thing. Don’t forget that you also need to make yourself look tantalizing.
#2: Create an air of romance.
Make sure the lighting is perfect – it shouldn’t be too bright or too dark. You should also light a few candles and perfume the air. You also want to have romantic (or rompy) music playing continuously in the background. Open your favorite bottle of wine and leave it chilling in a bowl of ice.
#3: Getting started.
We’ve been assuming that up till this moment, your partner’s absent for some reason. So this is the part where he/she walks into the room surprised. This is no time for talk, only actions. So gently blindfold your lover and guide him/her to a couch. Let the music continue to do the talking.
#4: What to do next…
Take his/her hands and bring them to touch your thighs and gently raise them higher. Then slowly untie the blindfold and make sure your lover sees you cat-walking sexily into the distance. You’re already wetting his/her appetite with this and from this moment, everything you do must be perfect to have your partner’s complete and undivided attention.
#5: Erotic dancing is next.
The secret is to remain comfortable, maintain steady eye contact and move your body to the slow rhythm of the music. Slowly and steadily remove every piece of clothing until all you’re wearing is next to nothing. Let your lover fantasize about you. You may decide to give him/her a lap dance at this point.
Move seductively towards your lover to the rhythm of the music. Slowly run your hands over your body: face, neck, breasts/chest, abdomen and then from your behind to your inner thighs and then slowly to your genitals.
Remember that the purpose is to tease not to have sex so no matter how bad your partner wants you, remain in control. If you anticipate his/her won’t be able to refrain from touching you, you may use restraints like handcuffs / rope / tie / scarf.
The idea behind strip teasing is to have your partner turned on so much he/she us literally in the palm of your hands. How you decide to end things depends on what dancing techniques you use. You may decide to end up completely naked and since you’re a couple… what the hell! Torture your lover a little and enjoy wild sex after that.
How to Perform a Lap Dance
This one is for the ladies. Of course, if you men out there want to try it…
Lap dancing isn’t just for pros alone, anyone with the desire and determination to learn can begin bumping and grinding in no time at all. Spice up your romance life by learning these lap dancing tips.
#1: Be comfortable with your body.
The basic truth is that you can’t look sexy if you don’t feel sexy, and you cannot feel sexy if you’re not comfortable with the way you look. So have a good body image. If you feel and act sexy then your partner will look at you in a sexy way too.
#2: Get some ‘training’.
You don’t need to enroll in some fancy lap dance school. (Of course, you can if you want to.) If you don’t have any idea on how to perform a lap dance then simply rent some adult videos or movies you know contains a scene like this. Study the moves you see in private first if that helps you.
However, do note that there really is no hard-fast rules to performing a lap dance. As long as it’s sexy and your partner digs it, then you’ve accomplished your goal!
#3: Choose the right outfit.
A sexy outfit is needed to drive your man into the right mood – hot panties, skimpy lingerie, a see-through night robe or a hardcore cop outfit are a few of the options available. Basically, you could use any outfit you know would drive your partner wild. Remember also that you should be able to easily slip out of any outfit you choose.
#4: Create a romantic atmosphere.
Dim the lights, perfume the air and light some candles. The room shouldn’t be too hot or cold. Spice this up with slow and sensual music.
#5: Loosen up.
I recommend drinking a few sips of wine to help you loosen up. It’ll definitely set you sailing smoothly. It’s a great idea to also have your partner relaxed too. The idea here is to take just enough alcohol to help you relax and not getting drunk.
#6: Boundaries are important.
Before beginning, your partner should know what his boundaries are (if any). For instance, you shouldn’t allow him touch you or suck your nipples – no matter how badly he wants to – if you don’t want him to as part of the teasing aspect of your lap dance.
In fact, don’t give in even if he begs for it. You’re in control and the longer you make him wait for it, the better your coming together will be!
#7: Positioning.
Begin by slowly cat-walking toward him until you’re near enough. Gracefully lift a leg and place it between your partner’s wide-opened legs and then place the other leg on the arm of the chair.
#8: Teasing.
While moving seductively to the rhythm of the music, slowly run your hands over your body: face, neck, breasts, abdomen and then from your ‘behind’ to your inner thighs and then slowly to your vulva. The idea is to turn him on completely and have him fantasizing. You need to keep him spell-bound! Make his heart race!
Slowly and seductively take off your clothes – everything except for that sexy bra and G-string. By this time, he’s almost having a stroke. Always remember that innovation is important – new techniques are important to make him look forward to your lap dances.
#9: Don’t let the donkey have the carrot.
No matter how much he wants to grab you and make sweet love, you cannot give in. You want to keep him on the very edge. Eye contact is also very important as you need to make him want you so badly.
#10: Work it slow, then bump and grind.
Slowly lean toward his ears, making sure your breasts are right in front of his face. Nibble, lick, and bite his ears softly; you can also say naughty things into his ears. Softly nibble his neck while moaning softly. Communication is essential. Reposition yourself, slowly sinking yourself just enough for your sweet stuff to be in touch with his erect penis. This is where the bumping and grinding comes in. Don’t do this too long or both of you may give in eventually!
Remember the best lap dancers are those who know how to tease a man and remain in control – and their best kept secret is their power to be innovative. Good luck!
