Archive for October, 2008
How to Increase Passion… By Practicing Abstinence
Sex becomes a routine for a couple when they do the same things over and again for a period of time. When sex does become a routine, usually only one partner will look forward to the love making sessions; the other partner continues to have sex to please the other. In most other cases, both partners lose interest completely and may begin to look out of their relationship for sexual satisfaction. In the end, hearts are broken and the relationship comes to an end.
It certainly doesn’t have to be this way if both partners are committed to recreating their sex life. One way to do this is for both partners to make a decision to say NO to sex for a specific period of time – say 30 days.
By taking sex off the table, both partners can focus on several other aspects of their relationship. Trust me, 30 days of abstinence is anything but easy; the following tips, however, will help you overcome.
#1: Spend quality time talking.
There’s so much you can spend quality time talking about. Communication and not sex, is the backbone of any good relationship. You’ll be surprised how much new stuff you’ll learn about your partner – things you never knew and would never have known because you both spent so much time having sex.
#2: Do OTHER fun stuff together.
The idea here is to spend time doing great stuff together – whatever it is you would do to have some fun. The decision to abstain from sex isn’t going to drive away all that sexual energy and that is where having fun comes in.
Basically you want to convert all that sexual energy into something productive so that when that temptation comes, it’s a lot easier to overcome. Spend time trying to learn a new board game; or taking up tennis or bowling lessons; or trying some new recipes together in the kitchen – that is if you both enjoy cooking or baking; or taking a relationship quiz together. There are tons of relationship quizzes available on the net and it’s an amazing way to get to know one another.
#3: What if IT happens?
The fact that you’re temporarily abstaining from sex doesn’t mean you both get to sleep in separate bedrooms. The temptation(s) will come no doubt but what’s important is how you both handle it. If eventually you give in to having sex, don’t fret or give up on your pursuit of temporary abstinence. It only means you both should sit down and set clear boundaries about everything that happens in the remaining part of the period. You may decide for instance that cuddling is alright but anything below the waist should be left out.
#4: Eventually…
During this ‘lovemaking detox’ period, 30 days may seem like an eternity but trust me, when you do reach THE DAY when lovemaking is on the table again, you’ll be reaching out for each other with such hot passion that you’ll be planning the next ‘abstinence period’ again!
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How to Have Quiet Sex
There’s nothing like freedom while making sweet love – with time you’ll find out that having sex is much more pleasurable when you don’t give a hoot about who listens to what or how loud the moaning may get.
But like it or not, there are times when it becomes absolutely necessary to stay quiet. Imagine you’re in a hotel room vacationing on some Caribbean island or you decide to do something crazy in the bathroom at a friend’s house or at a party. While most couples never try it out, those who do will agree that having adventurous sex once in a while changes the way a couple feel about their sex lives. The following tips will help you be naughty… without being caught.
#1: Choose your sex play carefully.
Remember you don’t have time for lengthy foreplay or trying new Kama Sutra techniques. All you both want is satisfying sex that brings you to a climax – so you want to stick with tried and tested techniques during the entire time. Keep foreplay brief yet effective.
#2: Don’t expect too much.
When you consider it, the purpose of stealing away from a crowd to have sex is to satisfy that wild urge and enjoying that much needed climax – all within the available time frame. Vigorous passion is usually required to achieve this but it pays never to be too expectant – this isn’t a time to fulfill sexual fantasies unless of course, adventurous sex is a fantasy of yours!
#3: Learn to use distractions.
Turn on the radio or TV to mask any moaning. Be sure to expect plenty of them while making love vigorously. A bathroom is an excellent venue to steal some time for lovemaking – it offers a genuine and convenient escape for taking some time plus it offers lots of distractions: running water, flushing toilets and so on.
#4: Quick is important too.
The urge suddenly erupts within the both of you and you decide to steal away from the crowd to make passionate love and enjoy an orgasm. You need to know that time is critical because you also want to return as if nothing happened. Take too long and you’ll have everyone staring at you suspiciously – it’s a race against time particularly when your presence at such an occasion is crucial.
#5: Never let fear ruin your mood.
This is particularly important for guys. Once you make the move, don’t ever back down because you’re scared people might hear her moans. If the moaning becomes more than what you anticipated, make use of distractions rather than getting yourself distracted. The thought of thinking about what others can or cannot hear will definitely ruin your, uh, ‘alertness’ down there – and you certainly don’t want this. Even if you’re okay with this, trust me, the last thing you want is to abandon a woman in the middle of a session.
So lastly, you’ve taken the step, you’re both alone somewhere, now how do you have quiet sex?
- Cover her mouth with your hand when she starts to moan.
- Kiss her mouth when she starts to moan.
- Hug her tight so she starts to moan against your shirt/body.
- Encourage her to grip you, even bury her nails on your skin, or offer your shoulder to be bitten just to prevent her from screaming out loud.
Enjoy!
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Five Fool-Proof Ways to Get Her in the Mood
Guys don’t need to be geniuses when it comes to getting us girls in the mood. They do need to make an effort in one particular direction and, once they get onto the right path, it can really be quite simple. The key to getting started in the right direction is not to act or say things solely for the purpose of getting some sex. If you can’t manage that, try pretending for a while! Here are 5 fool-proof ways to get you on the right track.
Number One is Appreciation
Show your appreciation for her by noticing specific things and expressing your gratitude for your special lady. It’s the specifics that we girls really love to hear the most. When you compliment a girl for specific things like what is most beautiful about her and her character, the sexier she will start to feel around you. Once the relationship becomes truly serious, let her know she is the most important person in your life. A girl will always respond best when she feels that she is the most important woman in your life.
There are also specific things you can do to show her you care such as taking her shopping and buying her something. Bring her flowers once a month and lean over in the car and kiss her at the red light. A really appreciative man can make dinner for his girl and even volunteer to clean up afterward! Sticking romantic notes in her wallet or calling her at midday are also great ways to show her she’s on your mind. Ask her to tell you about herself and show her that you can sincerely listen.
Number Two is Her Name
It has been said that the most beautiful sound a human being can hear is the sound of their own name. If you want to be important to your lady, remember to use her name. Too many couples fall into the habit of using casual endearments such as “honey” or “baby”. Use her name more often as if it were the key to her heart. Roll it off your tongue when you are laying next to her as if it were a juicy, forbidden fruit. Say it slowly and softly as you take her hand and guide her to the bedroom. Then say it while you’re making slow, sweet love to her.
Number Three is the VCR.
Once things have started to heat up, the VCR becomes one of the best tools a man can use to get a girl in the mood. Even if your girl isn’t a big fan of blatant adult erotica, you can get her excited with a movie. Many romantic films also have some soft porn scenes that contains sensual, erotic components. Try to think of the kind of movies she likes when you are browsing through the aisles. This cold be the difference between a night of pure passion or a night spent in different beds entirely.
Number Four is Paying Attention
Once things have really gotten into high gear, it is extremely important to keep your attention on her. Sex is about joining together in mind and body. It involves emotions for a girl more than a guy but the manner in which a man can pay attention to his girl will tell her that her emotions are in good hands. Even when the sex gets wild, a girl will still be affected emotionally. By remaining truly present, you can forge a genuine bond and keep her excited as the sex grows in intensity. Gaze deeply into her eyes and give her that electric connection that she craves.
Number Five is Mechanics
The physical mechanics are also important to a woman but only after the emotional factors have been set into motion. Save the most physical act for last and then it will increase her pleasure tenfold. Once this is happening, you can explore what is known as a woman’s “genital web.”
It isn’t just the clitoris that is important in sex. There is a much larger, wishbone-shaped area outside her genitals that extends down both sides. This very delicate web of nerve fibers makes up the entire genital area and should be rubbed ad caressed in its entirety so as to make a woman more responsive. Take your time to explore this whole area before you decide to penetrate her. Learn all the subtleties of this area before you focus on the clitoris. Here you will awaken a whole new world of pleasure in your lady.
