Archive for November, 2008
6 Hot Tips to Last All Night
So you’ve got a hottie spending the night and you wanna make sure that you can really rock her world multiple times throughout the course of the night, but how are you going to last that length of time?
What you’re about to read may make you laugh and some of it may even make you cry, but it’s all good and true and definitely worth trying out! These 6 surefire tips will help you keep going and going and going…
1. Self-love. Yes, that’s right. Ben Stiller was on the right track in that infamous scene in There’s Something About Mary. By masturbating before hand and releasing all of your pent up tension, you won’t be quite so ‘eager to seek release’ later. Plus, the more you masturbate, the longer you’ll be able to last every time and really impress her!
2. Try a cockring. If you’re not exactly the cockring type and don’t want to be seen wearing one of those studded numbers that make frequent appearances in cheesy 80’s adult films, you can always try one of the ‘couples’ cockrings that have a clit stimulator on it made for her. This way you get the restricted blood flow that a ring provides while looking like the unselfish lover who got a toy with her pleasure in mind!
3. Pullout and go south. When you’re having sex and feel like you may be getting close a little sooner than you wanted, pullout and move onto other things like giving her oral. It’ll definitely prolong things on your end and you’ll blow her mind in the meantime; making you look like the most giving and skilled lover since Don Juan…or Ron Jeremy.
4. Wear a condom. Technically, this is something that you should already be doing, but if you’re not, then roll one on! A condom can help you last longer because if tight enough, it works similar to how a cockring does, plus the extra barrier between your member and her juicy loveliness will help decrease sensation if you use one of the thicker kinds that most people usually try to stay away from.
5. Control your breathing. Sounds almost poetic, doesn’t it? If you focus on your breathing and concentrate on slowing it down while you’re having sex, it can help you last longer by not only dividing your attention so you’re just distracted enough to not ‘come’ but it also naturally helps to control your excitement level. If you want more tips on the breathing thing then have a look at books or sites about Tantric sex. If it helps Sting and Trudy make love for more than 8 hours at a time, then it’ll work for you too!
6. Think of something unsexy. Yeah, it may seem like a joke but this tip actually works wonders! Think about something that turns you off like nothin’ else; your mom or your boss or that ugly girl with yellow teeth that works in the next cubicle. If all else fails; try to picture having sex with a big, hairy guy. If you’re straight then that should definitely do the trick!
Pssst…
If you’ve tried all of these and you find that no matter what, you’re still coming too fast—by fast I mean in 2 minutes or under—then you may have to consider the fact that you could be a premature ejaculator.
These tips, over time, are known to help a guy get his timing under control, but to really get to the source of the problem, you may want to consider talking to your doctor for some extra help to rule out any other underlying issues and to get advice on the different medical treatments available.
And just a note on premature ejaculation: up to 40% of men are premature ejaculators. Premature ejaculation is actually THE most common sexual problem that men face. It is definitely manageable so don’t let it get you down. Sorry, bad choice of words. Anyway, I just thought you should know.
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Teach Her to Find YOUR G-spot
There are a few little details that need to be addressed before asking your partner to lube up and send her finger on the hunt for your manly love bud. But as always, the right approach, mental preparation and instructions are the keys. Read on for all you need to know to getting her to your money spot.
The Male G-Spot - Getting Started…
Naturally you need to make sure that this is something she actually wants to do. Most of us have been raised to think that the anus is about as nasty as can be as far as our body goes, so some women especially may be really uptight about it and the last thing you need is a reluctant or bitter participant anywhere near your behind!
To make her understand why you’d like her to give it a go, explain how incredible it’ll make you feel and make sure she knows that you’re more than happy to reciprocate later. Once you’ve got that out of the way, it’s time to prep for play. Here’s what you should do.
Take a bath or shower together. You want to make sure that things are as clean as can be—especially if either of you is squeamish about that part of the body and what its function is! This can also help to relax you which will make things a lot easier on the tension front, if you know what I mean.
Make sure her nails are trimmed and her hands are clean. Since she will be venturing into extremely sensitive and likely unchartered territory, these are a must to avoid scarring you physically and emotionally! You want to avoid scratches which could lead to infection if things get in there that shouldn’t thanks to dirty nails.
Have lots of lube on hand. You’ll need to use lots of lube for this to go well. Keep it close by so you can add more and help freshen up the supply if need be. (Trust me—you’ll know when it’s time to add more lube)
Get comfortable. Lying on your back and using a pillow under you to prop you up will be the best position for you. If she’s a little shy about having you watch—or vice versa—lying on your stomach is the best alternative.
On the Hunt She Goes…
Now that you’re both prepped and ready; it’s time to begin. Use these tips to help guide her to giving you exactly what you’re craving.
• Stroke your penis and have her use her lubed finger to tease and stimulate your anus at the same time. When it comes to backdoor play, the more aroused you are the better it will feel. It’ll help to loosen things up, if you know what I mean.
• Let her know when you’re ready for penetration and then have her slide her finger inside of you slowly until she reaches your prostate gland. Tell her that it feels like a small bulb of tissue the size of a walnut so she’ll know what to look for to avoid any unnecessary poking around.
• Tell her to use her finger to massage the sides of the gland over and over while gradually increasing pressure. You should be letting her know what feels good and what doesn’t so that she can adjust her moves accordingly.
• When you find what feels the best, tell her to keep at it since it’s the repetitive stimulation that will lead to the end result. Before you know it you’ll be coming like a champ and seeing stars!!
Male G-Spot Extra Tip
The center of the prostate is super sensitive because it is filled with nerve endings that make every touch incredibly intense—not necessarily in the good way! Playing with it could almost be painful, so make sure she sticks to the sides and the surrounding muscles while she’s massaging away to guarantee as little pain as possible.
And finally, since we’re on the subject of pain; this is a part of the body that you may not be used to having manipulated, so be prepared to possibly feel some pain at first. On a good note; the pain is usually minimal and a small price to pay for the pleasure that awaits!
Spanking for Beginners
Spanking isn’t quite what we see in our porn collections my friend. You know what I’m talking about; the girl with the big bosoms receiving smacks on her behind from her hunky man. There’s a lot more to spanking than just belting her once and hoping for the best! There are things that you need to consider before you lay a hand on her if you want to get the most out of the experience. Find out how to do it right with the following tips.
Tips for Spanking Newbies
• First things first… talk to your partner and make sure that they’re into the idea because without consent; it quickly goes from sexy spanking to abuse! (Try explaining to a cop that you were just spanking her for fun and see where that gets you!)
• Start off with the hands. There are all kinds of neat paddles and gadgets for spanking out there, but the best way to get a feel for spanking—literally—is to use your hands to do the spanking because it’s a lot easier to gage the intensity this way. Starting off too hard or intense could put an end to your spanking fun before it’s even had a chance to really get started.
• Pick a comfortable position and by this I mean comfortable for you both, but more so for her—atleast at first! The most popular positions are with the ‘spankee’ lying across your lap while you work away at her bottom or she can be on all fours or bent over a chair for her spanking. For most, it’s the vulnerability of being spanked that is the true turn on, so any one of these positions, where she feels that she is being ‘taken’, will be best for the full effect.
• Use common sense and just remember that you’re doing this for pleasure. A swift, forceful blow is NOT pleasurable! Start off lightly and slowly and limit the spanking to the fleshy part of her buttocks as any other spots may prove too painful and quickly put an end to your fun.
• Every spank should be followed by a caress or lick or other form of foreplay. The area will be super sensitive and maybe even stinging after a couple of spanks so the feel of your light caress will really up the pleasure factor. Anything more than that will send her through the roof with arousal!
• Be aware of your partner’s reaction to each spank. Watch how they react and feel their movement under your hand. If she’s trying to get away, then she may not be digging it. If you’re having trouble knowing whether or not her whimper is one of pleasure or torture, then you should stop and ask.
• If you both are really into it and want to explore more, consider using a paddle for a more intense sensation. You don’t even need to go to a sex toy shop for one. Think ping-pong, table tennis or any other paddle-using game that you may even already have at home.
• Agree on a ‘safe word’ which you will know really means ‘stop’ should she use it. Getting carried away in the role of the discipliner is easy since you’re in a position of power AND sexually aroused. The word ‘no’ may not seem as powerful when you’re in the throes of your role as punisher, so agreeing on a code word will help to know when she really wants you to stop or when she’s moaning a ‘no’ that is actually a ‘yesssssss!’.
Now that you know the basics, the rest is really up to you. You can start off light and before you know it be in the throws of all-out corporal punishment if that’s what you both fancy.
It’s all about whatever turns you and her on. And as long as it is feeling good for both of you, then you’re on the right track. If you keep it light and fun and watch that backhand, then you should be just fine.
Happy Spankin’!
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