Archive for December, 2008
Phone Sex 101
Phone sex may have a notorious name in the world, but it is something that can really be put to great use. Imagine you are living away from your loved one because of a professional or some other reason. Or, simply imagine that you and your partner are just too busy to have real physical sex as much as you want. Probably when you get home from a hectic day of work, you are physically too exhausted to do anything even though you want so much to be with each other. In such situations, phone sex can work marvelously.
In fact, some couples who practice phone sex regularly have claimed that it has helped to bring them closer. They maintain that they can tell each other on the phone what they would not feel comfortable to tell each other when they are face to face. Also, when apart, phone sex has helped them to rekindle their passions and reassure each other that they really miss each other and are faithful. So, phone sex has its uses!
Of course, let’s not forget that phone sex can help keep your sex lives exciting. It’s natural that after a while, sex becomes a routine for a couple. If you inject some naughtiness now and then, it makes everything ‘titillating’.
How to Engage in Phone Sex with Your Partner
1. When you plan out a phone sex session, you have to make sure you are free from all your mental wrangles and worries. Keep at least half an hour for the activity. See that you do not get disturbed in any way. Remove all distractions and see that no ungainly noises will disturb you. Check that your phone is in good working condition too!
2. Some people find it quite difficult to get into the groove. If this is your problem too, you can try perking up the ambience of the room a little. Dim the lights, put on some mood music, spray some good perfume… such things work. Put on clean sexy clothes too. They really help set the mood.
3. Now is the time to make the call. It is best if you and your partner have pre-decided about the call because that makes sure they are ready too. Relax, take a deep breath and make the call.
4. When you call, do not let the excitement get the better of you. Start with small talk then gradually get naughtier and naughtier. For instance, start with the standard “So tell me babe, what are you wearing?” If she doesn’t bite and reply naughtily, simply tell her you are naked because you’ve been feeling ‘hot’. Be sure that you don’t get carried away and go on a whole speech here. Keep your phone sex talk going on like a conversation and not like a one-dimensional fantasy trip at your own end.
5. Slowly get down to dirtier talk. Talk about stripping. Talk about your partner’s private parts and what you would like to do with them. Let them talk dirty too. Slowly increase the pace.
6. Punctuate your talks with adequate sounds. Use moans and groans to effect. This is very important in phone sex because you cannot see each other’s faces.
7. Gradually lead your partner to fantasize and even encourage her to engage in self-love. Do that yourself. Tell your partner what you are doing. This will get you both really heated up and you’ll both end with a shuddering orgasm. Finish with some lovely after-sex talk.
It is not difficult to have phone sex with your partner. The only thing you need is the determination to do it! Even if you’re both at home, simply go to another room, call her cell phone and start some naughty talking!
Sexual Feng Shui 101
Feng Shui, the Chinese belief system for human improvement, has a lot to say about improving love and relationships. Right from finding the right kind of partner to enter your life to having wonderful children with them, Feng Shui has tips galore. Here we will concentrate on sexual Feng Shui which can be used to considerably enhance your relationships in life.
First of all, we need to understand that a relationship is sexually enhanced only when there is a considerable amount of love and passion there. Most of the tips of bringing about sexual Feng Shui harmony in your life that are mentioned below actually speak about how you can bring love in your life.
1. Prepare Your Room.
It is absolutely important that you disseminate the right signs if you want your current love life to last forever. For one, Feng Shui speaks about using the right kinds of colors in the room. Red is a very auspicious color; it is also the color of passion. But do not make the room too red; use red only for effect or it might indicate anger instead of love.
Also, pls. remember that Feng Shui can be a very personal practice. For instance, red may well be the general color for love but it may actually clash with your ‘stars’. Often your and your partner’s birth dates need to be considered so do read up on this first before you start changing in your room to red.
2. Organizing the Bed.
The bed is the place where most of the action takes place, right? Feng Shui dictates that you need to place the bed as far from the door as possible because that means stability. Place the bed near the window, but never directly below it. Having a strong head post for the bed indicates a stable relationship. Do not keep mirrors facing the bed because that indicates a third eye in your marriage, which means there’s a possibility that one of you may become unfaithful. You can also invest in sensual bedding materials.
One important point – beds carry the energies of the persons that have slept in them. So, if someone with whom you have had a not-so happy relationship has slept in the bed, you need to replace it to give your current relationship a good head start.
Also remember to keep both sides of the bed equal. It is ideal to keep the bed in the middle of the room with the head side propped against a wall so that both partners have equal ease in entering and getting out of the bed. This makes for a harmonious relationship.
3. Set the Right Sensual Mood.
The sexual act can be greatly enhanced with the right kinds of colors, lights, sounds and smells. Feng Shui is definitely in accordance with this. Place scented candles in your room with mood lighting for a wild night of passionate sex. Floral scents are always considered to be great. For sounds, you can use soothing music. The kind of music that gently lulls you to sleep when alone is considered to be best musical accompaniment when making love, according to Feng Shui beliefs.
4. Keep Distractions Out of the Bedroom.
We usually clutter our rooms with a lot of distracting things, but that is a definite no-no in Feng Shui. The bedroom must be kept as clean as possible if the vibes of love are to course through it. Keep out the television and the computer, two of the most distracting electronic items in a bedroom. Even if you are not using these, they can suck up a lot of the positive energy from the room, making you feel quite drained.
Sexual Feng Shui is a completely different art, in which people endeavor to make their sexual lives more fruitful by making a few changes in the environment that they are used to. You an also follow these tips and then see how they ignite the much-needed passion in your relationships.
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Five Things That Make a Man AMAZING In Bed!
So often do we hear of relationships breaking because “he was not exciting enough”! It is indeed sad but true that most men in the world do not know how to satisfy their women. Even the so-called Casanovas usually do not have a clue about it. And then the blame is squarely laid on the female mind most of the time. “Women are so unpredictable!” they would say. But did you know that most women think in a uniform manner and even respond almost similarly when they are with their men?
If you read that again, you will see that there are some tricks that you can use with every woman on earth to make her feel that you are the greatest gift she has ever got. Here are five things that can make any man amazing in bed. Go give all of them a try!
How to be AMAZING in Bed
1. The Right Mood
There is no need to emphasize the importance of the role played by the mind in any sexual act. Most sexual acts that turn out to be ‘mediocre’ are largely because the people involved were not in the right mood. Now, you can be a real amazing man in bed if you could turn on the right mood for your woman. Do you think you can do that? Of course, you could!
What does a woman need to get her into the right mood? Oftentimes, just a few complimentary words can work wonders. Sometimes, even words are not necessary. The right touch, the right look… they can be enough. If your woman gets physically tired during the day, you can begin by massaging her body. You don’t know how much this touch can work her up and make her ready for what is to come.
Simple, thoughtful things you can do around your home works wonders too! For instance, tell her that there will be no cooking tonight. You’ll order out, buy some wine, (if you have kids, even offer arranging for the baby-sitter), rent a nice movie, etc. Do anything that will make her relax… and put her in the right sexual mood.
2. Sensitivity
Yes, men need to be sensitive when it comes to love and sex. It is absolutely essential for women. Women expect men to be considerate about their needs in bed too. In fact, most women will try to tease you when you attempt to go close to them. They might want something but say something else. If you are sensitive enough, you will be able to break through their words and actions and see the real truth behind them.
And most of all, a sensitive man will try to pleasure his woman as much as he receives pleasure. Foreplay is an extremely important part of the sexual act for women and ensuring that you engage in this thoroughly first will make you look simply amazing for her!
3. Affection
How affectionate are you with your woman? Do you touch her where she wants you to? Do you make eye contact with her when you are in bed together? Do you kiss her when making love? These are essential ways of showing affection. When you are making love to each other, some nonsexual things that you do can go a long way. You might caress her hair, for example, or you might just give her a look that you really love this. Most women would remember these ’signs’ for much longer than the actual sexual act.
4. Follow The Signs
Women are basically coy creatures. They will not mouth what they really want. This is where the man must cue in and understand what she needs. These will be very subtle signs – like a leading of the hand somewhere or a slight kiss on a sensitive part of the body. If you want to be labeled amazing in bed, you need to stop and read into these gestures. They are never done in vain; the woman wants something and you must understand it and give it to her.
5. Afterglow
They say love really happens in the moments a couple lies idly on their bed after making physical love. A man who just gets up and goes to get a sandwich after the act is over will never be remembered fondly by his partner. If you want to be called truly amazing in bed, really bask in the afterglow of sex; gently caressing her body with yours, cuddling, and others are important as women want to feel that you just didn’t use them as a sex toy. The best topic is to tell how good the sex was. That always paves the way for more and better sex later on!
In many ways, to be considered amazing in bed, you need to go beyond the sexual act itself. You must be sensitive to your partner’s needs and not just be concerned with your own climax.
Follow the tips above and your partner will truly consider you AMAZING.
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