Archive for February, 2009
Hot Tips to Help Her Give You the Best Oral Ever
There’s no doubt about it. Men love to receive oral sex and for the most part, women do love to give oral to their men. So what if your partner is not too keen on giving you oral sex? Does that mean you need to beg for it all the time? Not at all…
How to Make Her LOVE Giving You Oral Sex
Be Clean
For the most part, if a woman does not like giving oral sex then it’s a hygiene issue. Hold on! Before you start protesting, consider this. Sure, you bathe every morning but by the time you come home to your lover, surely you have visited the men’s room a couple of times at least and maybe even perspired a bit. Even those ‘little’ things can be conducive to your aroma down there. Keep in mind that your manhood has been ‘locked up’ all day and the exact minute you pull down your drawers may not be the best time for her to go down on you. So what to do?
Take a shower! It’s the easiest and cheapest way to ensure you smell clean and fresh down there. If you’re right smack in the middle of foreplay then simply suggest taking a sensual bath together!
You Are What You Eat
In the TV show Sex and the City, there’s this very popular episode where one of the characters has an issue swallowing her lover’s cum because it was ‘funky’.
Now, you may say that you are not at all forcing your woman to swallow your cum but you do emit some wetness of your own during oral sex you know. It’s called pre-cum and if it’s funky too you can bet that your lover will not be too enthusiastic to give you oral.
Also, come on, you KNOW you want her to at least try and swallow it even once so it’s in your best interest to make everything easy for her to choose to do just that.
So, if your cum is funky, why is that? Most likely it’s your diet. If you love to eat food with a lot of spices in it or like garlicky food, then chances are your cum will be ‘funky’. If you chug down cups of coffee, then your cum may have a bitter taste too. To change all this, simple change your diet.
Try to incorporate more fruits like kiwis, berries and pineapple into your food intake to change your cum from ‘funky’ to ‘sweet nectar’.
Of course, you can also incorporate certain edible things during oral sex to sort of disguise the taste of your cum; for this purpose, liquid chocolate, whipped cream, edible lube, and other come to mind.
Avoid Making Oral a ‘Movie Sex’ Moment
Contrary to what you see in adult movies, most women do NOT actually like it if you shove your manhood down her throat. It can be quite painful you know! So be gentle and let HER be in control of just how far down she wants you to go.
Think of Her Comfort Too
If women take their time to reach a climax, men can sometimes take forever too though oral sex. And although your lover may be willing to see it through till you reach your orgasm, she might not do so simply because she’s uncomfortable!
For instance, Jean (real name withheld for privacy) once told me that she and her lover like to have showers together which of course ends in her kneeling down and giving him oral. She loves doing it but she can’t do it long because it hurts her knees!
Anyway, her lover thought she just doesn’t like to give him oral and really wanted to experience that with her. Suffice it to say that after this issue was cleared out, they found out together that the best – and most pleasurable – position for them was to have him lying in bed while she lies on her stomach and gives him oral. For ‘variation’ they do the 69 too every now and then!
Here’s Why… Women Can’t Seem to Reach their Orgasms!
We’ve all been there before one time or the other. We want to give her pleasure as much as she gives us and so we do everything we can for her in bed… and yet, she STILL won’t come! What are you doing wrong?
Well, actually you may not be doing anything wrong at all! But rather, SHE has some issues that are preventing her from reaching her climax. But that does not mean that there’s no hope. As always, knowledge is power! And so if you know what it is that’s stopping her from reaching her orgasm, then make it your duty to get rid of that obstacle!
HER Climax… What’s In It for HIM?
Now, you may be thinking ‘hey, if she’s predisposed to NOT reach an orgasm and she’s ok with it, why bother’? The answer to that question is this: you have absolutely NO idea how much more pleasurable sex is with a woman who can reach a climax!
You see, a sexually satisfied woman is a more-than-willing sexual partner. Put yourself in HER shoes. Really, how excited will YOU be about sex if you never ejaculate? On the other hand if she comes each and every time you touch her, then she’ll surely be more eager to have sex more often with you!
Also, a sexually satisfied woman is more likely to be more ‘adventurous’ in bed. Now that you’ve shown her just how truly mind-blowing sex can be, all the more she’ll be open to sex ideas from you! So you see? It’s a win-win situation.
Top 3 Reasons She Can’t Climax
It might shock you to know that around 70% of women DO NOT reach their orgasms during sexual intercourse. And there are really a number of reasons for this so read on!
She has body issues.
Most women have body issues that seem to occupy their minds especially when they should be focused on something else! For instance, if your lover hates her belly then you can bet she’ll be more focused on that during lovemaking that on the sex act itself.
This is easy enough to get around with. For example, if you know she has body issues, then make love with the lights OFF. From here you can move to having just the bedside lamp on and then drape her lingerie or silk scarf over it. This way, she’s not exposed but you’re already trying to get her used to the fact that lights can be on.
And of course, nothing beats you telling her how sexy and wonderful she looks! Really, most body issues are confidence issues so if you make it a point to tell her how turned on you are by her body, she’ll start seeing herself as the sex goddess you see her to be!
You’re not giving her enough foreplay.
Sex with women begins with their minds. Unlike what you see in adult movies, FEW women will be hot, wet, panting, and ready to climax the minute you touch them. In reality, women need to be mentally sexed up and the best way to do this is to spend enough time on foreplay. Really get her into the right sexual frame of mind and sex will be more pleasurable for you both!
She’s unconsciously preventing herself from reaching an orgasm.
This reason is also known as the “she can’t let herself go” syndrome. This is a true story: a couple has approached me for sex counseling because in the first two years of their marriage, she has NEVER reached an orgasm. Luckily, she was married to a man who really wanted her to experience just how much more pleasure she can get out of sex and so they called on me.
Well, as it turned out there were TWO reasons why she wasn’t reaching an orgasm. The first reason was that each time she felt something strange ‘down there’, she instinctively would just… stop. She would literally move to change positions or ‘overthink’ about the sensations that she’s feeling, which of course kind of kills the growing momentum to reach an orgasm!
To help her through this, she had to realize that she needed to just LET GO. The message was clear: Don’t think. Just let your body lead.
Now you can help your woman do exactly by doing this: goad her!
When you feel that she’s getting really excited, talk dirty. Whisper lewd words or flat out tell her something so hot that it’ll push her over the edge and you’ll see that that’s just exactly what she needs to reach her orgasm.
Good luck!
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