Archive for June, 2009
Foreplay Tips for Adults
There’s no doubt about it; foreplay is an extremely important part of any relationship. Sadly, as our relationships ‘age’, we seem to focus on foreplay less and less and are just bent on reaching our orgasmic destinations.
Although there are a lot of tips that are given these days to bring back foreplay big time in your relationships, let’s face it, a lot of these tips are corny and impractical.
For instance, sex on the backseat of a car? That’ so uncomfortable!
French kissing? A tad boring.
Feeling her up down there? You do that already!
So read on below where I list some REAL foreplay tips for you to try.
Adult Literature. Yes, don’t hide those adult reading materials anymore. Bring them all out and stack them beside your bed! When you guys tuck in for the night, grab one of them and start glancing through the pages. Sooner or later, one or both of you will be itching to start playing with each other too!
Sex Toys. Sex gadgets are great ways to engage in foreplay. For one, they enable you to learn more about your own bodies and what turns you on best. Some also enable you to please each other without necessarily pushing each other to a climax.
Try this tonight: ask her to show you how to operate her vibrator. (If she doesn’t have one, take this as an opportunity for you to give her a spectacular gift!) As you apply different speeds, pressure and try different angles on her clitoris, keep a mental note of which moves produced the horniest of groans from her and then do the same thing with your tongue.
You can just stash the information away in your head and retrieve it again for the next between the sheets session or do it now! Use the vibrator and your tongue on her alternately.
As for you, there are a lot of sex toys for men too. For instance, try a penis ring. It can be used to delay an orgasm giving you both more time for foreplay.
Sexual Massages. This is by far my personal favorite. Sexual massages can last for hours or be a quick 10 to 15 minute foreplay session. You can easily adjust it to how long you want foreplay to last or how much time you have on your hands.
A sexual massage is pretty much like any other massage except that focus eventually goes to your or your lover’s erogenous zones. The great thing about a sexual massage is that it serves to relax you the first few minutes.
I mean it does indeed start off as a ‘legit’ massage. This helps in relaxing your mind and body and helps in getting rid of stress, which in turn makes your mind and body more sensitive to whatever sexual stimuli.
Here’s a sexual massage move you can apply on her: as she lies down on her back, cover her eyes with a warm, damp cloth to relax her eyes. Now spread her legs and kneel in front of her. Remove her undergarments. Put massage oil on your hands and gently knead her thighs. When you feel that she’s relaxed and succumbing to the pleasures your massage strokes are giving, bend your head slowly and dip a very hot and wet tongue on her genitals!
This move can be done on you too. When she dips her head forward, she can nuzzle your family jewels with her nose and mouth, lick your balls, or run the hardened tip of her tongue on the underside of your penis.
Phone Sex. Have you ever engaged in phone sex? If not, you must try now because it’s extremely exhilarating. You see, we all have that ‘dirty mind’ inside of us but we don’t let it go for many reasons. For instance, you may be afraid to offend your girlfriend/wife with just how ‘harsh’ you can be. I mean, if she’s not used to hearing you say dirty words and then all of a sudden you shout ‘f. me you b.” then yeah, you’ll scare her.
However, most women do want a little roughness but most are ‘shy’ in bed, afraid you would think differently (in a negative way) of her afterwards. The solution is thus to engage in phone sex.
With phone sex you get to role play and ‘test the waters’ more freely. You’ll be surprised at how not seeing each other – and maybe a shot or two of alcohol – can really loosen the tongue.
And who says phone sex should be done when you’re out of town? Hello mobile phones! Call your woman while she’s downstairs and you’re in the garage or in the attic. Talk dirty and talk wild… and then meet in the bedroom!
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How to Get Her Ready for You
Most women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. In fact, some studies show that 10% of all women do not even reach an orgasm in their lifetimes! TRAGIC!
So if your partner reaches a climax now and then does that mean you’re already a sex god? Hell no! What you should do is aim to increase her level of orgasm instances. And following are my tips to help you along this endeavor.
How to Speed Up Her ‘Big O’
Encourage her to spend some ‘self-love’ time. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women really should be responsible when it comes to knowing what makes them tic sexually. Ladies, men are really not mind readers! To be more blunt, if your girlfriend/wife doesn’t know where her g-spot is, how the hell should you know that?!? So encourage your woman to engage in a little masturbation time.
Tell her that knowing her body is important so she can tell you EXACTLY what she wants and needs sexually. If she needs more prodding, give her gifts! Start with some hot and sexy lingerie, working your way up to a nice and small vibrator she can practice on. (Make sure you provide the batteries right away.)
Paint a lovely, wild and erotic story for her. We women are truly mental pictures. We need to be sexed up in our minds first and only then will the love juices come in droves! So here’s a tip for you: write down an x-rated story. If you think this is hard, it’s not at all; just like write down your sexual fantasy. If you like, you can even just record your voice instead of writing things down.
So start by how you envision her (maybe wearing that lingerie you gave?) and then how you just love watching her playing with herself (maybe using that vibrator you gave?), and how with all her thrashing and groaning and grinding, you couldn’t help but kneel down on the bed, bow your head and… to be continued!
This erotic script will make her thing of sex all day and wait in hot anticipation for you! And believe me, when she’s in this state already, it won’t take long for her to reach an orgasm when you guys finally do the deed.
Why focus on one hot button when you can focus on many? You have two hands, a mouth and you’re perfect penis so why not use them ALL at the same time during sex? Sometimes, you get so absorbed with their thrusting, that you forget that you can stimulate so many zones on her body.
For instance, while engaging in intercourse, reach down with one hand and play with her clitoris. You can also engage in oral sex and then reach up and fondle her erect nipples. When she’s buckling and moaning beneath you, replace your tongue with your manhood but continue fondling her breasts. She’ll be so dazed with pleasure that she’ll reach her orgasm soon.
Bring out the gizmos! I know we already discussed vibrators in my first tip above but this time, why not use one for your mutual benefit. They are many buzzing sex toys around now that you can position between the two of you.
For instance, place one of these buzz toys between you and have her go woman on top. As she grinds against you, a buzz is created stimulating her clitoris and your penis. Instant orgasms in no time!
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Give Her a Touchless Orgasm Tonight
Have you heard of a touch-less orgasm? It’s when you can bring yourself and/or your lover to a roaring climax even without laying a finger on each other. If you think it’s impossible. Think again. It’s actually the very same thing you’re trying to achieve when you engage in phone sex, right?
The main thing to ensure when you’re trying to achieve a touch-less orgasm is to be focused. Don’t fool around or joke while already in that situation. Otherwise, it would throw you both off. The secret is that once you start the ball rolling, follow it through to the end!
No-Touch Orgasm 101
No touch orgasms all depend on the timing, the mood of the people involved, and their powers of imagination.
For instance, when it comes to timing, it’s best to try this at night when you’re both alone and there’s a low chance that either of you would be called on or need to do something. As for the right mood, dim lights always works for me? If you have time to prepare you can make sure you have a few scented candles around and maybe change the décor of the room to dark rich fabrics. Otherwise, a darkened room is good enough. As for the ‘powers of imagination’ part that really all depends on what you talk about or do. Try following these tips:
One: Relax each other by giving each other a sensual massage or maybe even drinking some wine first. Liquor has this thing of loosening you up so a sip or two may just be what you and your lady needs. Now sit down on opposite ends of the room or anywhere where you can see each other. (Preferably, you are facing each other.)
Two: Don’t jump into sexual conversation; lead into it. For instance, talk about your day first and how you missed each other. Next, comment about her hot lingerie. If you’re both still fully clothed, then comment on how warm it is and that maybe you guess should ditch some of your clothes. Reach a stage where you are both nearly completely naked.
Three: Start to comment on how much you love her breasts and how much you would give to be able to lick them now. Tell her explicitly how you want to lick them. Talk as you visualize yourself licking her breasts. If you where touching her, you’d probably head down south now and lick there too. Tell her that. Again, tell her explicitly how you want to lick her down there. As you discuss how you’re tasting her, ask her to please let her fingers do what you imaging your tongue to be doing.
Note: Be sure that you use language that turn your woman on. Some women may get excited by the use of dirty language, while others may find it a big turn off. So be sure to use the right words. Even the tone of your voice may make a difference so see how this goes.
Also it’s perfectly normal to simply turn off the lights or close your eyes at the point. For most people, this makes imagining the sexual scenario a lot better.
Four: Complete your story. Once you get her to touch herself as you tell her what you want to do to her, there’s no looking back now! Be sure you go on and on and on till you talk about intercourse.
Five: Be sure you adapt to what you sense in her too. For instance, you may notice that she particularly likes the part when you talk about licking her so dwell on this for quite a while to really get her into a frenzy! And once she reaches that stage, be sure to egg her on by talking huskier and/or faster. It’s your way of assisting her reach her orgasm without touching her.
In the above scenario, you can take turns (you talk her up and the after she comes, she talks you up) or you can both have a ‘verbal intercourse’. That’s right; just start talking about what you guys see yourselves doing to each other. Here’s a sample script:
You: Do you feel my tongue now? It’s going in and out of you.
She: How fast? How fast?
You: How fast do you want it? Better yet, why don’t you sit on my face?
You can take it from here…
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