Archive for June, 2009
Strippers and Sexual Tension
Sexual tension can be a pretty darn strong aphrodisiac! Although a lot of people will not be too enthusiastic about seeing a stripper in their living room, there are instances when this idea can turn out to be a positive thing for you and your partner.
Hiring a stripper for an adult party can sometimes be a positive jump-start in the bedroom because it raises the ‘ante’ on the relationship. This is especially true if your girl has been feeling a little frigid around you lately. (However, you need to behave yourself in front of the actual striptease or the whole thing could turn out very badly; such as your partner now speaking to you anymore!)
You should be particularly very careful with this stunt, not only in terms of which stripper you choose, but also regarding the emotional standing of your girlfriend/wife. If your girl is easily upset, this could backfire and she could be out the door forever. If she is an understanding woman, however, and appreciates a good time, then hiring a stripper could lead to some increased sexual tension between the two of you that may turn up the heat in sex life long after the party is over!
So what’s the analogy here? Consider this. If you have ever been in a bad mood, and someone came by in a really happy, excited mood, your mood would likely change for the better, right? The same thing tends to happen in the presence of a stripper. The sexual tension increases and the mood definitely changes. This is why the idea can often work in your favor and is something to consider for those special occasions.
How to Hire a Stripper
First of all, at least have a good reason for getting one and don’t just spring this on your partner out of the blue. The reason can be anything: your birthday, HER birthday, a welcome back party for a friend, and others. Even if it’s a flimsy excuse, that’s ok as long as you have one! Now on to the ‘mechanics’.
Start out at local strip clubs to see whether they have strippers available for private parties. You can go during the daytime when it’s unlikely to be busy and even ask if you could audition the professional before hiring her. (Yes, you can try to find a stripper using newspaper ads but then you will find it harder to check out the professional. At least if you go to her place of work, you can easily ask around about her.)
A meeting at another location like a coffee shop may also help before you hire her. It will help the stripper know what to expect and if you have any ‘rules’, now is the time to sya them!
If your lady is likely to be upset about the fact that you “met with a stripper” behind her back, send your best friend to do your dirty work and tell your sweetheart that you let him organize the whole thing.
If you can manage it, try to get all of the arrangements down on paper and don’t make any payments upfront. Remember, this is a ‘business meeting’. Try and get a contract too detailing the exact nature of the ‘work to be performed’ and how much you need to pay for the said ‘work’.
Actually, most professional strippers will have personalized agreement ready so don’t feel weird about asking for a contract. Once she hands over the document, look over it and customize it to fit your needs if necessary.
During the actually event or party, put the stripper at ease when she arrives. She may have a bodyguard or a friend who comes along with her and make sure to be especially friendly and considerate to both of them. Offer them each a drink and tell a few jokes. Then simply be a good host and be friendly throughout the party. Let nature take its course and enjoy the fun.
For more naughty tips to increase sexual tension with your lover, click here!
Virtual Sex with Your Partner
In our quest to always come up with news ways to prevent making your sex life a routine, why not try having virtual sex with your partner? This not hard at all to do nowadays since most of us travel with a laptop or have access to one in the privacy of our hotel rooms (or any other room) while we’re away.
To engage in virtual sex with your lover brings many things together really. It’s like engaging in voyeurism, phone sex, and maybe even role play at any given time! So why not try it? You’re not harming anyone, you’re doing it in private AND you’re doing it with your own partner. I say… turn those webcams on!
Virtual Sex 101
From the comforts of your hotel room (or wherever you’re staying) connect online can ask your lover to get online too. Ask her to chat with your for a while.
Now, tell her you miss her and that her voice is not enough so will she please turn on her webcam so you can see her. (By the way, be sure you’re casually dressed or have your shirt open or something to turn HER on.)
Now slowly ease the conversation to sexy stuff like what she’s wearing. Ask her if she’s game and if so, ask her to change into a new outfit… in front of you! Tell her you’ll do the same so she doesn’t feel awkward.
After the outfit changing, move onto discuss each other sexual fantasies. Ask her to be as descriptive as possible and then do the same. The goal of course is to both reach state where you are both extremely aroused.
Now, tell her that you want to see her topless. If she obliges, then the rest really depends on your ‘script’! And believe me, a script is more or less needed because it’s important to keep on talking to encourage the other to continue.
Also, keep in mind that this does not have to be a one-way peep show. Not at all! The best virtual sex is actually one where you both get to act and watch each other at the same time!
A virtual sex twist: play a virtual sex game! Seriously, this can be really fun and hot at the same time. Use some sex dice or give each other sex notes to be read and acted out only in front of each other online.
A few notes to ensure great virtual sex with your lover:
Ensure you have good internet connection. It would be such a bummer if the line keeps getting cut. That can be VERY sexually frustrating. Make sure too that your webcams are fully functioning.
Make the experience a mutual thing. Don’t just command what she should do, engage and communicate. Ask her what SHE wants to do. Ask her what she wants YOU to do in return.
Lastly, never bully. Only go so far as what you’re both comfortable with. This way there will be no regrets and no one will feel that he/she did something they really didn’t want to do.
Apart from the above, go ahead and enjoy yourselves!
