Archive for July, 2009
Top 5 ‘Relationship Bonding’ Activities
Anything that doesn’t get ‘upgraded’ gets stale and that includes relationships. Sure, you may have a great relationship now but if you’re not careful, things will become ROUTINE soon and with that… boredom. As such, it’s important to try new together. Besides, there’s another great reason to go out and do new things together: it creates opportunities for you and your lover to really bond with each other.
Plan ‘dates’ together. Sometimes, going out on dates don’t work anymore with ‘stable couples’ because your dates involve doing the same thing over and over again. Another reason is because either you or your lover ‘demand’ a certain type of date from the other. Not really fair, is it? Read on for some date tips to plan together.
- Go on picnics. It’s cheap, relaxing, and romantic! Why not plan a sexy picnic together? The key is to include elements you BOTH like. For instance, be sure the food and wine is to both your liking. Also, NO RULES. Be carefree and just see how the day develops!
- The ‘movie and eat out’ combo still works! To up the ante on this classic date, try to go out of your comfort zone and watch other types of movies like horror or even adult movies. That would give you something to talk about later!
- Experiment with new restaurants, bars, pubs. Stop going to the same places and be adventurous! Seek out newly opened restos, bars and pubs and make a goal to discover ‘the best mocktail’ or ‘the best nachos’, and so on.
Get fit together. Sometimes, getting too comfortable in a relationship means letting go of healthy eating habits. But instead of doing it alone, why not get fit together? Go get gym memberships together or take swimming lessons together. Pick an activity you both like so you guys stick with it.
Road trip time! Go out and enjoy the country. And yes, avoid making rules like you need to be at this place at this time. The purpose of the road trip is just to be ‘out there’ and it will make you re-learn how it is to be each other without any rules to follow and obligations to fulfill.
Meet new people. Sometimes, to re-awaken our energy we need the curiosity and fresh insight of new friends. Plus, this creates for new environments and new experiences too. So go to a local club, go online, or even do volunteer work and see if you can hook up with others in your community.
Discover your next ‘Best Position’ together! Nothing can liven up a dull sex life than trying out new sex positions! There are literally so many things you can do for this. You can try watching adult movies, venturing into a sex shop, reading an adult educational book (Kama Sutra for Dummies, anyone?), attending sex seminars, buying and trying out different sex toys, role playing, trying Tantric Sex, and so on! Let this be your goal: find the best sex position to bring about the most body-curling orgasm ever. THAT objective will surely keep things busy in the bedroom for quite a while.
Good luck!
How to Un-Tense Her… And Get Her in the Mood for Lovemaking
With today’s hectic lifestyles, it’s no wonder that we’re just too stressed out and tired to make love. Seriously, I have friends who tell me that they ‘felt horny’ the other night but just the thought of all that ‘work’ put them off doing the deed. Now, you may find that extremely sad (and yes, it is) but it’s also extremely true. The question is, what do we do about it?
The following tips are to help you relax your stressed girlfriend or wife so that she’s more accommodating of your advances. Of course, that doesn’t mean she can’t go over the list and do the same things for you!
5 Tips to Help Her Relax
Give her a massage. The problem with massages is that everybody thinks they need to spend an hour or more to give a decent massage. As a result, you get tired from the thought and don’t do it! However, the truth is, even just 10 minutes can be extremely relaxing.
Don’t go for a body massage. Instead, give her a 10 minute scalp massage or a 10 minute foot (or leg) massage. This will be enough to calm her down and make her extremely grateful in the bedroom later!
Feed her comfort food. Sometimes, on our ‘off days’, nothing can bring back our good mood apart from our own childhood comfort foods. Mine is deep fried chicken served with a steaming bowl of white, fluffy rice. What about her?
By the way, so YOU don’t get stressed out, note that ordering food is ok! You don’t need to slave in the kitchen. Staples like a chilled bottled of wine and a box of her favorite chocolates are great ideas too!
Treat her to a warm bath. Nothing can be more relaxing than a long dip in a warm bath. So prepare the bath for her complete with scented candles and soothing music and tell her not to worry about a thing tonight. For a special treat, you can join her and give her a foot or scalp massage.
Don’t have a bath tub? No problem. That doesn’t mean you can’t give her a bath. Go right in there and soap her body lovingly and shampoo her hair as if she’s a queen!
It’s her day off. Designate a ‘day off’ for your lover. For instance, tell her that whatever it is she’s got planned on, say, Tuesday, you’ll take care of it. That day, she should just go out and get pampered or stay in and sleep, whatever she likes. If she’s got work, tell her to plan ahead and call in a day off or call in sick. And be sure to make it a weekday and not a weekend! The point is to give her one extra day where she can focus on just herself.
Nothing like a night devoted to giving her an orgasm! Did you know that sex can also act as a de-stressor? That is, when you remove any ‘duties’ that need to be performed and just focus on getting pleasure. So tonight, make it all about her; her pleasure; her needs; her orgasms. Lock the door and make sure you have everything (food, drink, handcuffs?) in your bedroom for at least an hour of lovemaking that’s dedicated only to giving her pleasure.
Do the above tips and not only will you relax her but you’ll get top marks too for being such a great partner! And you know just how much we women appreciate great partners, right?
For more ‘unconventional’ ways leading to GREAT SEX, click here!
Backdoor Sex Myths Busted!
Backdoor sex or anal sex is one of the most misunderstood ways of making love. There are just so many negative things about it that a lot of couples don’t even want to try it. However, why not try everything at least once? You’ll never really know what you like until you go out there and explore. Furthermore, backdoor sex can be extremely pleasurable for you and your woman considering the tightness of the area. So, if you feel like going on an adventure tonight, read on as we explore – and bust - the following backdoor sex myths.
FOUR Backdoor Lovemaking Fallacies
One: Backdoor sex is ‘abnormal’.
In many cultures around the globe, anal lovemaking is an accepted form of sex. Of course, in the end, no one should force one’s partner to do something the other is uncomfortable with. However, as I always advocate, don’t discount anything just because OTHERS say you shouldn’t do it. Keep an open mind; respect your partner; and try things at least one in your lifetime!
Two: Backdoor sex is painful.
Couples who engage in backdoor lovemaking swear that it hurts… you and your partner are probably not doing it right. When it comes to anal lovemaking, the following things are paramount: trust, relaxation, education, patience, and lubrication!
Trust is important because without it, your girlfriend/wife will be tense and subconsciously ‘tighten up’, which is the exact opposite of relaxing. Getting educated about proper techniques is also important to prevent any pain. Patience is also key because given the myths surrounding backdoor sex, it might take a while to fully convince your woman to try this sex position. And lastly, lubrication is a must when you try this. The anus is a very tight area and so the right kind and the right amount of lube is important.
Here’s a tip: try the Tongue & Thumb technique when starting your backdoor lovemaking voyage. This move calls for you to treat her to some great oral sex, which helps her get stimulated and lubricated. Next, reach down and press a thumb against her anus. The slight pressure is meant to further stimulate her as well as get her used to the feeling of something pushing on her behind. Vary the movement of your thumb from, say, drawing small circles to pressing down on her anus.
Three: Engaging in backdoor sex is ‘dirty’.
Considering what goes out of our backdoor, it’s easy to think of it as a ‘dirty place’. In fact, since childhood, aren’t we all taught by our parents to ALWAYS wash our hands thoroughly if we touch our behinds? However, if you and your woman practice excellent hygiene, this is not a problem whatsoever. The only thing you should keep in mind is that the anus – just like other parts of our bodies – has its own set of ‘resident bacteria’ so it’s best not to place anything from her backdoor to her vagina.
Four: Backdoor sex is only for gay people.
Sex is not gender-specific. Period. And yes, this includes backdoor lovemaking. This sex position is exactly that, another sex position and one should not look at it as something only practiced by a certain group of individuals.
In the end, trust and education are the real keys here. If your partner trusts you and believes that you respect her and that she’s the one in control of the situation, then the next step is to understand how best to go about trying backdoor lovemaking. From there, it’s all about experimenting and practicing… and when it comes to sex, that’s not exactly a bad thing, right?
For more AMAZING bedroom tips to spice up your sex lives, click here!
