Archive for August, 2009
5 Sextastic Places to Make Love!
It is absolutely amazing to me that couples are not more adventurous as to HOW and WHERE they make love. Since the HOW part can be such an exhaustive topic (and because I’ve given you tips about that in the past too!), let’s discuss the WHERE for now.
So, in how many places have you had sex with your girlfriend/wife? If you can count them all in one hand, you are in serious need of list of new places to try so read on!
1. In a camping tent. Don’t know about you but there’s something titillating about having sex knowing: (a) there’s only a VERY thin sheet of covering/wall that separates you from all the other campers; (b) others can definitely hear you but can’t see you; (c) you know others can see your shadows through the thin tent material, or (d) all of the above.
2. In the laundry room, on top of the dryer. Ok, the ambiance in the laundry room may not exactly be called ‘romantic’, but wait till you sit her on top of the dryer (or washing machine spinner). Seriously, have you seen how the dryer can be such a swashbuckling monster when it’s on its last few stages? Imagine just how hard your lover will be gyrating when she’s on top of it! Now, you may be worried that your manhood may be hurt by all that action so here’s the solution: ask her to sit just at the edge of the machine. As you penetrate and thrust, the vibrating action will be something you’ve never felt before yourself.
3. Mom and dad’s room. There’s always something hot about ‘doing it’ in a place that you’re not supposed to. And if there’s a bedroom that’s just off limits, it’s got to be your or her parents’ bedroom. Just be careful when you do try this. Trust me, it doesn’t matter whether you’re 18 or 38, being caught in your or her parents’ room having sex is still B-A-D.
4. Your old kiddie room. I don’t know about you but the first time I had sex in my old childhood bedroom I had a really great case of ‘good girl gone bad’ attitude as I was riding my man! Surrounded by all my comfort stuffed toys and girly pillows, I felt a real sense of ‘this girl is a woman’ thing while I was driving my man wild. So do try this one, it’s such a pleasure trip!
5. In the forest. Don’t know about you but where I live, my man and I can easily go for a 1-3 hour walk in the forest. Before I go on, two warnings for you: (1) having sex in public is illegal in many states, and (2) there is also the risk of being bitten by bugs and being touched by poison ivy!
For problem (1), make sure you weigh the odds of this for yourself, but as for (2) here’s my solution. I usually bring a small, light blanket. This is not to be used for lying down. It’s for kneeling. I like to be between two trees, my arms touching each one and bracing myself for the pleasure my man brings as he kneels on the blanket and gives me some magical oral. Of course, I return the favor in due course.
For more naughty tips on WHERE you can enjoy the WILDEST sex ever, click here!
Are You TOO Quiet in Bed?
You often hear it said that women should ‘let go’ to reach their orgasms and this is indeed good advice but what about you? Are you truly letting go while having sex? Now a lot of men will say that they do. After all, don’t you always reach your orgasm? Thought so. But here’s where we women think men are NOT letting go: during the actual orgasm.
As far as I know (read: revelations from my girlfriends and women I consult with), most men simply scrunch their faces and let out a visible sigh when they’re coming. Now, mind you, we don’t want you to end up screaming like a hyena but you may want to explore being more ‘vocal’ when you’re about to come. Read on for the WHY part.
Top 3 Reasons Why Being Loud in Bed is Good for You
Ok, first of all loud does NOT necessarily mean scream. Loud can be dirty talk or really giving in to what you’re feeling while you’re cumming. You see most men will just give a short grunt and to be honest that’s not really satisfying for us women and we do feel that it’s not satisfying for you either. So here are a few more reasons why you should be louder in bed.
It’s good for HER ego.
Ok, so we’re being a little selfish here but it’s the truth all the same. You see, here’s what going through our minds when you’re quiet in bed as you climax: what is he really thinking/feeling? On the other hand, if you REALLY grunt or moan loudly or say something like “Yeahhhhhh!”, then this is what we selfishly perceive.
- I am a Sex Goddess because I am doing THIS to him!
- Oh yeah baby, this is pleasure you will NEVER get anywhere else.
We women swear… you will FEEL more powerful orgasms.
Women all over the world claim that if they let go and scream as they come, they do get more powerful, mind-blowing orgasms so the theory is… you will too! Actually – and I did ask my man this too – most men tend to be quiet because they are focusing (too hard?) on the ONCOMING release. So why not just ‘let go’ and focus on the actual release instead and if it means letting out the loudest groan, moan or swear you can ever emit… then so be it.
So, if you’re a bit lost as to what to shout out loud, here are a few examples to try.
1) God this is good. God this is good. God this is GOOOD!
2) Give it to me baby. Give it…
3) Oh [insert her name here], Oh [insert her name here], [her name]!!!!!
How to Make Her Lust After You
You don’t know exactly when it happened but somehow at some time, you and your girlfriend/wife have been engaging in less sex. And now that you think about it… it seems that it’s always YOU initiating lovemaking and you’re kind of getting tired of that.
You want to make things exciting again.
You want to feel like the stud you used to be.
You want HER to lust after YOU.
Well, read on then to see what you can do to accomplish just that.
How to Make Her W-A-N-T You
You know what’s funny? The fact that it doesn’t matter what stage your relationship is at this moment. In general, the things you need to do to make any woman want you are the same regardless of whether you’re single and trying to get a hot woman or married and trying to up the heat in the bedroom with your partner.
So what are these things that you should always keep in mind?
Take care of yourself! I hesitate to use the word ‘makeover’ but it really is time for some form of reality check. Look into a mirror and state who you see? Is that a good-looking hunk looking back or a middle-aged, ragged-looking guy with a spare tire to boot?
Now, I don’t want you to embark on a mission to be the sexiest man alive but it never hurts to get back into shape. If physique is not an issue, then even a simple thing as buying new, trendier clothes do the trick to up your self confidence AND make your woman look back twice. While you’re at it, stop sporting the same haircut you’ve been adopting for the last x years. Go to your barber and leave things up to him.
This truth is universal regardless of age or gender: if you feel good about yourself, you will radiate sexual energy that is simply noticeable by everyone around you.
Date her again. Now that you’ve taken the steps to take care of yourself, now is the time to drop a few unconscious hints in her direction. Start by dating her again. Nothing obvious or extravagant. Just call her one time mid-week and say you made reservations at this new restaurant and that you’ll pick her up at this time. Wine and dine her and try NOT to talk about your daily routine (no talk about kids, household chores, etc.) In short, be that charismatic hunk that she found irresistible in the first place!
Voyeurism is hot! By now, you partner must be noticing small changes in you. Increase the heat factor by ‘accidentally’ showing her your erect manhood. For instance, get out of the shower with your glorious member showing just when you know she’s at the corner. Get out of bed naked and head to the bathroom casually, all the while showing her erect you are.
Drop hints… all over the place. And now, drop hints that will make her think of nothing but sex. Buy a book about female orgasm or female erogenous zones and leave it lying around in the bedroom. Buy a new issue of Playboy or GQ or heck, even a book about the Kama sutra and make sure she finds it ‘accidentally’.
By this time, her own passion may be soaring OR she’s thinking that you’re having an affair with someone! If she gets aggressive, she’s thinking the latter so leave a ‘love note’ for her to find, complete with a short description of what you’ve learned from all those adult literature and what you want to do to her IF she wants you to. (Don’t worry, she will!)
If it’s the former… well, it’s just a matter of time now before she lusts after you and begs for it. Mission accomplished.
For more ‘lusty tips’ to enjoy the BEST sex ever, click here!
