Archive for April, 2010
How to Prevent Working from Home from Affecting Your Sex Life Negatively
Nowadays, a lot of people find themselves working from home and that’s not a bad thing at all. Working from home has many advantages but one potential disadvantage is the fact that it may get n the way of sexual intimacy.
You see, when you work from home, it’s hard to ‘close the door at 5 PM’ so to speak. You (or your partner) seem to be always working since it’s easy to just sit down in front of the computer and start taking care of business. As such, the focus at home is not about quality; it has shifted to ‘taking care of business’.
So how do you ensure that your work at home is not taking you away from your partner so much so that sex takes a backseat?
Try to keep regular office hours. Even though you’re working from home, that does not mean you should be working or be on call 24 hours. Although freedom of time and flexible hours are one of the main benefits to working from home, trying to keep regular business hours helps you think about work during these times… and your lover the rest of the day.
Keep in mind that ‘regular business hours’ does not mean a 9-5 schedule. You can focus on just working from 1 PM onwards if that’s what suits you. Picture this: instead of morning quickies, you have the whole morning to have sex! You get up for brunch or an early lunch, read the papers and get to work at 1 PM!
Plan your day. It’s the same whether you work from home or at a corporate desk. To get the most things done, you need to be organized. The problem with many people working from home is that they tend to get disorganized about their day because their activities are not dictated by a visible ‘boss’. If you plan your day, you get things done faster, which means more time for yourself and your partner.
Avoid discussing work at the table. Most people who work from home start to talk about work every chance they get with their partners. Of course, it’s important to share these things with your lover but there should be an OFF mode where you make a deliberate choice to simply not talk about work but talk about romantic plans instead.
Make it a point to ‘dress for work’. One of the mental pictures often associated with working from home is working in one’s pajamas. For me this is overrated. Sure, it’s great to have that freedom; however, it’s so easy to slip into that mode of not taking care of how you look! And this is extremely important in a sexual relationship. Think about it; if you often look like you just got out of bed, is that sexy? Not!
So make an effort to look good even if your ‘office’ is just the room next to your bedroom. It’s important that every time you go out of that room, your lover sees you as that successfully go-getter hunk that’s just too hot for words.
How to Bring Back… Kissing with Fireworks
Remember those times when just the feel of her mouth on yours made your whole body tingle? It felt like any moment now you will reach your climax with just that one exhilarating kiss! Fast forward to today, now all that you and your partner do is ‘peck’ each other on the mouth.
I personally feel sad when I see couples not kissing enough. Well, I don’t mean that people should make out in public but seriously, you can tell when a couple has lost their ‘fire’. For me, it’s when they hardly touch each other in public or hardly look at each other’s eyes and smile at each other. When this is the case, it usually means that behind closed doors, couples are no longer very passionate with each other.
In fact, many of the couples I come across in my practice flat out tell me that kissing is sometimes boring or even corny. Imagine that! If you’re in this situation, read on and discover how to bring that fire back when you kiss each other.
A little ambiance will help. When you were first dating each other, everything was new and exciting so it didn’t matter when or where you kissed. That may not be the case today so why not make the effort of making sure you are under the right ambiance? For instance, have a romantic dinner –alone – at home. Even if it’s takeout Chinese food, set the table, light some candles, open a bottle of wine and put on some music!
EMBRACE each other. Most couples kiss on the mouth and that’s the only contact between them! This time, kiss your partner with your whole body too. Put your arms completely around her body – toe to toe, thigh to thigh and groin to groin! – close your eyes, and kiss her deeply.
French kissing is always hot! While you’re in the above position, angle your head and French kiss her. If she pulls away a bit in shock, trudge on! More likely, she’s pulling away not because she doesn’t like it but because you haven’t done it in a long time.
If she breaks off the kiss (trust me, this happens often; many of the couples I talk to say the kissing ends because the other keeps breaking off the kiss), don’t stop and pursue that kiss! Here’s one tip that always works: GROAN. That’s right, make groaning noises as you kiss her and that will keep her kissing you back!
Go ahead, be naughty. Well, since you already have her attention, go for gold! As you French kiss her, back her up against a wall or piece of sturdy furniture and slowly start to grind yourself against her. When she lets out a moan, you know she’s yours.
Of course, kissing need not always end in sex but the tips above will hopefully bring back passionate kissing into your life again. Too many couples let their kissing deteriorate to just ‘mouth to mouth touching’ and that should not be the case if you want to keep your sex life truly alive.
For more naughty tips to ensure your sex life is always alive with fireworks, click here!
Top 3 Reasons to Keep on Trying New Sexual Positions
One of best things to do in the bedroom is to try new sex positions. Fewer things excite me really. I truly believe that if couples spend more time researching what else they can do between the sheets, the world will be a better place (or at least more couples will stay together!).
Think about it; one of the top reasons that people cheat on their lovers is the fact that another person excited them more at a certain moment. If you and your girlfriend / wife are really open about sexual discussions and sexual explorations, then this also often translates to a stronger relationship. Read on to know more benefits to being adventurous in bed.
New Positions = Better Relationships
Prevent bedroom boredom. In my book, the number destroyer of relationships is boredom and routine in the bedroom. If you and your partner make an active effort to discover new sexual positions to try then you bust routine out the door!
Also, trying new sex positions is just jolly fun! Think about the times you and your partner research the position and any potential ‘equipment’ you need to try with it. The whole effort alone is great bonding time.
It’s a great reason to stay fit! Sex is a great cardiovascular activity. Period. As such, can you imagine how much more beneficial it can be for your health if you’re constantly physically challenged in bed? I mean some really great sex positions require you and your lover to be really strong and flexible. So you’re having fun, ensuring your sex life is spicy, AND you’re helping yourself be fit. Win-win situation if you ask me.
It’s a way to keep on discovering more about yourself and your lover. Keep in mind that finding and trying new positions is not a 5-minute thing. You don’t just point to a picture and say let’s do it! (Ok, it can be that way, but you know what I mean.)
As you explore new sex positions to try, communication between you and your partner improves. You discuss what you like and don’t like, you argue, you clarify, and so on.
For example, say, anal sex. This sex position opens a lot of items for discussion as it is still looked at as a taboo subject on many levels. As you discuss with each other why this is good or not good for your relationship, you get to find out more about yourself and your partner.
As you can see, there are plenty of reasons why you should always sexually evolve and try new sex positions. At the same time, please don’t forget that respecting each other’s wishes is also important. In short, never force one to try a position the other is vehemently against. Other than that, go ahead and enjoy yourselves!
For positions you can try to enjoy the WILDEST sex ever, click here!
