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How To Get Her To Be Interested In Sex Again
What Happened?
It happens in the best of relationships. Everything is going along fine and suddenly you wake up one morning and realize that you haven’t made love to your significant other in a week or more. You try to remember where the days and nights have gone. You wonder how this could have happened. Like any attentive man, you set out to rectify the situation only to find that your attempts are not exactly appreciated. The woman in your life just isn’t all that interested in intimacy. What’s a guy to do?
Don’t panic. Seriously. If you panic, you might do something stupid. So take some time and breathe deeply. There are a lot of reasons that women lose interest in intimacy. It’s not the end of the world… There are ways for you to help her regain her desire. With a little patience and creativity, you can help your lovely lady regain her interest.
Assuming there is no physical cause for her waning desire (something she would need to discuss with her doctor), it’s time to consider her emotional state and needs. Women must have their minds seduced first, their bodies later. Quite honestly, the anticipation will make it great for both of you.
Tips for Seducing her Mind
Talk to her. Be honest about how you’re feeling. Be careful not to assign blame, but instead express concern over the loss of intimacy. This will open the door to the discussion. Talk openly about your desires and encourage her to do so as well. Maybe there’s something she needs that you haven’t been giving her. Encourage her to tell-all and let her know that you want to make her feel good. This might be difficult, but be sure to listen to her and try not to feel criticized or defensive. This is information that will ultimately lead to more satisfying intimate moments for both of you.
Help her. How often has she told you that she’s exhausted? Whether she works, stays home with kids, or both, if the end of the day is met with dirty dishes and housework, how can she feel sexy? Give her a hand. Vacuum the rugs, wash some dishes, or pick up the clutter. This attention not only lessens her workload, it shows her that you care about her and want to help.
Touch her often. This is simple, but effective. When you walk past her, run your hand across her back. Trace your finger along her collarbone when she’s sitting and reading. Take her hand as you walk to the car. These are little signals that you want to touch her in nonsexual situations and make the transition to intimacy much less abrupt.
Send her texts. During the day, send her text messages that start tame in the morning and become more suggestive as the day wears on. You might want to start with something like, “I can’t wait to be with you tonight” and work up to something along the lines of “I’m going to lick the alphabet in your most sensitive places”. Be aware of your lady’s tolerance for vulgarity. Some women might get turned on by a down and dirty text, but it’s not for everyone. And don’t make any promises that you don’t intend to keep!
Plan a date. Make the date special. Take her somewhere quiet and intimate where you can you talk. Show interest in her description of her day and let her know how much you love and appreciate her. Compliment her so that she knows that you find her attractive.
Tips for Seducing her Body
Let’s talk about foreplay. Assuming you have shown her how lovely you think she is, held her hand, done the dishes, planned a date and teased her all day about it, you might just get lucky. Don’t mess it up by rushing! Physically and emotionally, women need time. You may just want to get laid, but she wants more. Guess what? You’ve probably already started. Those naughty texts? Yup, foreplay. Telling her how much you care about her? Foreplay. See? Easy. Now it’s time for foreplay in the bedroom… or the living room… or the sexy venue of your choice.
Start with slow, passionate kissing. Don’t rush! Undress her slowly, kissing each newly exposed inch of skin. When she is nude, admire her as you undress yourself. Oh, and a helpful hint: Take off your socks first. That eliminates the awkward no-pants-with-socks look that isn’t especially sexy.
Every move you make should be slow and teasing. Caress her breasts softly, kissing and licking your way to her nipples. Taking things slowly allows her passion to build. The same is true during cunnilingus. Don’t dive straight for her clit! Work your way slowly to her sensitive bud, no matter how she begs. Oh, and that tip about licking the alphabet? This is a good time to use it. Let the heat and passion build.
Not Just Sex
Make love to her. Pay attention to her verbal and nonverbal cues so that every thrust is pure pleasure for your lady. Some women aren’t comfortable telling men verbally what they need. Listen to her moans, her breathing, and pay attention to how her body reacts. All of these are clues to what she needs. When in doubt, pull her on top of you so she has more control over the speed and depth of penetration.
Cuddle
After the extended foreplay and hopefully mind-blowing sex, resist the urge to roll over and go to sleep. Hold her, kiss her, and tell her how amazing the experience was. This is a positive reinforcement that will stick in her mind. If she knows you enjoyed and appreciated the intimacy, she will be more receptive in the future.
What are You Waiting for?
Don’t put it off! If your relationship is lacking intimacy, do something about it. Today.
Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
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