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Surefire Ways To Turn Her On Tonight!
“Sex is an emotion in motion” – Mae West
Let’s preface by saying that no two girls are ever the same. What turns some of them on is turn-off for others. (But hey, same goes for guys, right?) What we’ve got are some universal rules of seduction. The beauty of them is that they are flexible enough to adapt to your woman’s style – as well as yours!
So take heed, fellas. These tips will keep the sizzle in your relationship well after you’ve…em…reached your goal. Here are some tried-and-tested tips to ignite her fire. Read on:
Cook for Her
By “cook for her” we’re not saying you should bake a cake, and frankly, we wouldn’t even recommend it – unless you’re ready to exchange your hot plans for a cuddle-and-cake movie night.
That said, if you’re an exceptionally talented baker by all means make something ever-so-scrumptious for her. Yet, even if your culinary skills are moderate, don’t underestimate how impressed she can be at the effort you took to surprise and please her. This also gives her a chance to kick back and relax, without the pressure to cook for you.
However, this is a case of less is more. You want a delicious meal that is as low-fuss as possible. Ideally, you should cook when she’s around, pouring her a drink while you chop, dash a little of this and that, and mix and pour your goodies. Tip: stick to light, appetizing fare.
And speaking of appetizers, try offering choices. This is a fun, suggestive way to work up her appetite, showing that you have more than one thing up your sleeve. (Don’t sate her appetite yet – entice it!) If you master the art of serving appetizers, you may very well turn this stage into a prelude of actual foreplay. In the kitchen (hot hot hot!).
Word to the wise lover: Heavy food and too much alcohol won’t do you any favors.
Be generous with Compliments (Honest Ones!)
Few women can resist a genuine compliment. Sure, you already think she’s hot – and yup, you should definitely often remind her of it – but if you’re hoping she’d slip into that thong you got her, drop a hint about how great she looks wearing it. She might laugh it off at first, but the comment will linger in her mind.
In addition, if you can specify all the things you find irresistible about her, chances are she’ll get encouraged. If you dig the way she smells after the gym, tell her. If the cleavage drives you wild, say it. If her walk wiggle takes you on a ride, say, well…that her walk is very, very sexy. Women are verbal…they respond to hearing sexy things about themselves much in the same way as men respond to seeing sexy things on themselves.
Listen to her
Casanova is known to have said, “I don’t conquer, I submit.” One can take this statement in a number of ways. But for a lover as notoriously prodigious as he was, Casanova’s words may very well mean “I succumb to what women want.” Smart man. In seeing that his chances of getting what he wants is intimately tied with her getting what she wants, he throws in the towel, as if saying “Hey, I’m all yours. Lead me to the treasures…”
And lead she will…by listening to her cues, her body language, her pauses – as well as what she actually says – you’ll be that much closer to reading her moans.
Think of a Tango dance. Two people watching each other’s cues, matching moves, and slipping into a groove. The formula: tension, build-up, and release. As the expression goes “It takes two to tangle” – if your sex antennae is up and tuned into her, you’ll be tangling up the sheets in no time.
Focus on Foreplay
We can’t overstate the emphasis on foreplay. And by foreplay, we don’t mean three hours’ worth of it; rather, a strategic build-up of sexy moves. Unlike most guys, women are very aware of their erogenous zones (their neck, earlobes, shoulders, navel, inner thighs, as well as the more obvious nipples and clitoris). These erogenous zones provoke titillating sensations when gently, moderately, and intensely fondled. Although women differ in their level of response to certain areas, attention to her zones is crucial to arousal.
This is where listening to her comes in. The more you know and explore her body – and her responses to each part – the better. Sex experts advise men to realize how much touching their partners need before being hot enough for intercourse. (1)
But what kind of touching?
Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover (Broadway Books, 1999), recommends working her up with the so-called “swirl” – slow, circular motions and waves in her erogenous zones. The swirl is said to stimulate nerve endings more than caressing her in straight lines.
Working up her ecstasy, you’ll be primed for the final act, which may come much sooner than you think.
But before then, you have a few memorable courses to look forward to.
Enjoy your night!
Gabrielle Moore
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(1) Crain, Esther. How to Get Everything You Want (in Bed), Cosmopolitan.
Get Her From “I’m Not in the Mood!” to “Let’s Get It On!”
Hi! Gabrielle Moore here. 
Are you finding yourself in the mood for sex more often than your lady—a lot more often? If so, you’re not alone. Many men share this common complaint. But don’t worry! Just because your lady says she’s not in the mood doesn’t mean you can’t get her there!
All it takes is a few adjustments in your approach. And the following tips are three sure-fire techniques that are known to work!
Tip #1: Connect with her!
Remember—women are emotional creatures. Where men get turned on more by their physical senses, such as sight, sound and touch, women’s sexual buttons are linked directly to their hearts and minds. This means fondling your lady and asking her if she wants to have sex will only turn you on—not her! To push her sexual buttons, you need to connect to her emotional side. Talk to your lady. Tell her how much you appreciate all that she does. Tell her how beautiful she is and how just looking at her and thinking about her gets you going. Hug her, rub her feet, and do something nice and out of the ordinary for her.
At first, your lady might think you’ve lost your mind, especially if this is not something you do often (shame on you!). But if you continue your loving ways, your lady will soon want to love on you!
Tip #2: Create the mood!
Sometimes all a woman needs to be in the mood for sex is to know she’s loved. And you can let her know by creating a little romance! Set up a warm bubble bath for your lady and tell her there’s a foot massage waiting for her when she’s done, with no sexual strings attached. Let her know that you’re doing this for her and her only. Make her a special dinner or order a dish you know she likes from her favorite restaurant. Instead of eating it at the table by candlelight (boring!), set up a blanket on the floor by the fireplace, in the back yard, or in another location she would never expect. The more creative you are with your tactics, the better!
Although your lady might be a bit suspicious of your intentions at first, if you make the moment all about her instead of all about sex, she’ll soon let down her defenses. If she asks what’s gotten into you, just tell her you realized how lazy you’ve gotten when it comes to showing her how much she means to you and how much you love her. Eventually, your woman will let her guard down and “feel” all sorts of loving emotions, which is just the mood you want to create for her. Remember—her emotions are linked directly to her sexual buttons!
Tip #3: Mix it up!
If you and your lady have been together for quite awhile, chances are you’ve gotten into a sexual rut. Keep in mind that although you might be enjoying whatever sex you can get from her, for a woman, the same old sexual routine is a lot like watching her favorite movie over and over again. No matter how much she liked it in the beginning, it’s not as enjoyable now that she knows what’s going to happen next. This is the reason many women rely on the fake orgasm. It’s like a fast forward button that helps get them to the end a lot quicker!
To get out of your sexual rut, mix things up! Don’t just sit there like a dog waiting for his master to take him for a walk. Be the strong man that you are and take charge in the bedroom. Approach her in a way that’s completely different than how you normally approach her for sex. Take time to build your lady up to the climax. And, NO! The climax is not the orgasm—the climax is when your lady wants nothing more than for you to be inside of her. To get her to that point, run your hands slowly over her body, caress her breasts, and gently kiss her from her mouth all the way down to her belly button—making sure to use your tongue along the way. And TAKE YOUR TIME! A woman loves it when her man runs his fingers through her hair and tenderly cups her head in the palm of his hands as he kisses her. She also loves it when you move her hair away from her shoulders and touch the back of her neck with your lips. It’s guaranteed to send chills all the way down her spine and directly to her most intimate parts!
As a man, it’s important for you to remember that a woman’s desire for sex comes from her heart and mind first—not her body! How she feels about “you” in her heart and mind each and every day has EVERYTHING to do with how often she wants to have sex with you. So give your lady what she wants and needs! Connect with her emotional side first, create a loving mood, and then work her body over. By doing this, you’ll not only give her what she needs to say, “Let’s get it on!” You’ll also get just what you want and need—more sex!
Enjoy!!!
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Your Sex Fantasies Come True!
Hi! Gabrielle Moore here…
Let’s talk about your sex fantasies…
If you’re like most men, then some of your biggest sex fantasies are: having a threesome, having sex in a public place, being videotaped during sex, being “dominated”, and having an audience during sex…
Well, here are some ways to safely act out your wildest fantasies with your loved one…
1. Having a Threesome
A comfortable middle-ground may be to watch some adult movies with threesomes or to even engage in sex while a porn flick is playing. You could also ask your wife to blindfold you so you can fantasize about having a threesome – being in the dark will allow her touches to be spontaneous and unexpected, giving you the sensation of being engaged in a steamy threeway.
How to get her into it…
Don’t emphasize your motives; instead, tell her a big part of this fantasy is the idea of watching her pleasure another woman and vice versa. She may see the situation differently.
2. Have sex in a public place
This can be as simple as sneaking off to a bathroom at a bar or restaurant, or even choosing a dark corner of a movie theatre to act out some of your PDA desires. Sex in a parked car can be really exciting, as well as on a rooftop, a beach, a park, a pool, or the ocean.
(… by the way… please make sure that you are not doing anything illegal wherever you are located. If it´s illegal… stop!)
How to get her into it…
Say something sexy to your partner to get her attention – while you’re out somewhere, whisper, “I want you so badly right now” or “I don’t know how much longer I can control myself.” It will get her juices flowing.
Test the waters with a little public “petting” – reach under the dinner table and run your fingers up and down her leg and close to her nether regions. Give her an unexpected passionate kiss in the middle of a public area.
3. Make a porn video with my partner
A quick word of warning: don’t attempt a secret video-tapping session if the topic has never been broached before. You run the possibility of breaking her trust and ruining the potential for any future porn-flick productions.
If your spouse is okay with it, then set up that camcorder, hit “record,” and yell “action!”
How to get her into it…
Stress to your partner that is just for the two of you to enjoy watching afterward – there’s no reason for her to be self-conscious when you see her in the nude all the time. Also tell her how much it turns you on to watch her enjoying herself. Put the onus on her pleasure.
4. Be dominated (handcuffs and whip included):
Sex shops sell a wide range of products to bring this fantasy to life, everything from handcuffs and whips to ticklers, scarves, and more. Go shopping for these items together so you can get something you’re both excited about.
How to get her into it…
Tell your partner how much you love it when she takes the reins in the bedroom. That should do it!
5. Have someone watch me and my wife have sex.
Apart from inviting in a third-viewing party, you could also dress up in disguises and turn on your webcam. Let “the world (wide web)” see you and your spouse gettin’ busy.
How to get her into it…
An erotic Mardi Gras mask is an easy (and reassuring) way to get your mate into public-viewing sexplay. Ease her into the idea by asking if you can watch while she pleasures herself.
Enjoy!!!
Kisses… (Don’t forget to leave your comments below!!!)
Gabrielle Moore
