Archive for October, 2010
Vibrator Techniques
““The best sex I have ever had was with my vibrator.” – Eva Longoria Parker
Some say diamonds are a girl’s best friend… others say it’s the vibrator. And having owned my fair share of gyrating toys, I can tell you that they really can be a major turn-on, which is why every man should know how to properly use one on a woman. The wrong technique can make a pleasurable sensation immediately uncomfortable. It’s also important to know how to use the right combination of moves in order to maximize excitement. Trust me – practice makes perfect, and I know all the ins and outs to using a vibrator (pun intended).
Back and forth
The best tried-and-true vibrator technique: the back-and-forth groove. It will get her juices flowing and everything down there stimulated. I’ve been known to have actual orgasms from this simple movement (going at it solo and with a mate). Start slowly and then speed things up. Vary your speeds according to her reactions (some like it slow, others like it fast). Use the tip of the toy as well as glide the shaft of the tool up and down her entire lower area.
Circular motions
Go from a straight back-and-forth vibrator technique to making circles. Use the tip of the toy to trace circles near the top of her nether regions and then slowly make your way down to her vagina (and then stop there – any contact with her anus or surrounding areas could pass germs on to the vibrator). Again, don’t be afraid to experiment with soft, slow patterns and then quicker circles.
The infamous Figure 8
I’ve talked about this technique when it comes to fingering a woman, and I get into the endless benefits of the Figure 8 in my book on foreplay – and it shouldn’t be overlooked when playing with a vibrator either. The titillating sensation of swirling the toy around her clitoris as well as her vagina will have her begging you for more. As you’re exploring, stop on any “hotspots” that seem to get her overly excited.
A little teasing
Resist the urge (and her begging) and don’t insert the vibrator right away. Although we really want it, the art of building momentum is even more stimulating, and when you do finally penetrate her (with the toy or your throbbing manhood), her screams will crack glass. Let the tip of the vibrator hover over the opening of her vagina. Keep things heightened by adding a few back and forth movements or that fabulous Figure 8 and then bring the toy back to her vagina. I promise – her toes will curl!
Slow insertion
Once you finally decide to put the vibrator inside of her, use very slow, gentle movements. Because some vibrators are made of a solid material, don’t yank the toy up – it will hit her pelvic bone and be an instant buzz-kill.
Switching things up
Play with a variety of the aforementioned vibrator techniques to achieve maximum pleasure with this gizmo – start with circular motions that gradually make their way to her vagina, insert it slowly only to withdraw and return to the circular movements. After all, vibrators are a toy – you should have fun with them!
Much love,
Gabrielle Moore
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The Game Of Domination
“Woman is the dominant sex. Men have to do all sorts of stuff to prove that they are worthy of woman’s attention.” – Camille Paglia
Domination can have a lot of meanings when it comes to game-play in the bedroom – it can be everything from blindfolding your partner to breaking out the whips, chains, and ball-gags. Almost all of my female friends agree (including moi): nothing is more of a turn-on than being dominated. It’s a primal urge that all of us seek to fulfill at some point in our sex lives, and when you’re involved with someone where trust is involved, it can be extremely exciting and satisfying.
Don’t take a woman home for a one-night stand and think you can get away with handcuffing her – trust me, she’ll be dialing “911″ faster than you can do up your pants! The game of domination is for couples only – without trust, neither party will be able to fully enjoy being dominated.
If you and your partner want to engage in some domination play, then heed the advice below.
Start slowly
If dominating your spouse is one of your fantasies, then broach the topic carefully and ease your way in. What I mean is, start with some light domination, such as tying her up, the aforementioned blindfolding, or some light spanking. Save the latex and paddles for a few weeks down the road.
I went home with a guy who had an entire closet of domination toys… he thought it would be a good idea to show off his collection, and he quickly attempted to backtrack as I redressed and headed for the door. It’s a shame – he would have been a great lay, but he’d come on way too strong too fast. Even if you’ve been married for years, approaching the topic of domination should be done gradually and with sensitivity.
Take turns
Some couples prefer to always let the man be the dominator and the woman be the dominee, or vice versa, but for the most part, I think everyone has fantasies to be both. So take turns! Let her control you one night and then have a turn of your own the next time.
Speak up!
One of the most exciting parts of domination games is the vocalizing – ask her if she wants to be spanked, tell her what you’re going to do to her, ask her to tell you what she likes. If you’re busy pleasuring her while she’s wearing a blindfold and you’re both on mute, it won’t be very exciting. This is the time to choose your (dirty) words and get talking.
Playtime
Toys for the game of domination can range from fun and silly to extreme and hardcore. They all have their place in the bedroom when introduced in the right way. These are the types of toys you should pick out together. I love going to a sex shop with a guy – it’s like foreplay. Secondly, you don’t want to bring home a spiked collar and leash when your wife had more of a feather tickler in mind – seek out toys that you are both comfortable with. Finally, never surprise your other half with a sex toy – an unexpected whip-lashing on the bottom will not be well-received.
MWAH!
Gabrielle Moore
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Breast Stimulation Techniques
“Some people think having large breasts makes a woman stupid. Actually, it’s quite the opposite: A woman having large breasts makes men stupid.” – Rita Rudner
You know what I hate? When a guy gets all groper-like and sloppy on my breasts. They act like they’ve never seen a fantastic set of hooters and begin drooling like a hungry puppy all over my, well, puppies. Grabbing our breasts, thrusting them together, and tweaking or turning our nipples like radio dials is not arousing. Like our sensitive (and complicated) nether regions, our breasts can be stimulated in a wide range of ways, they have different pressure points that create a variety of sensations, and if you don’t put a little effort into what you’re doing, your partner won’t react well.
There are certain breast stimulation techniques that work well on smaller ladies, and others that are effective for the big girls (I’m talking about boobs, not the actual woman). By using the right ones you can bring your partner to orgasm just by touching, rubbing, and even suckling her breasts.
A gentle brush
During foreplay, begin by lightly brushing your fingertips or hand over her breasts and nipples. Let the delicate skin-on-skin contact send shivers down her entire body. Don’t just focus on her chest but let your hands move down past her breasts to her stomach and legs, and then zero in on her chest area once again. Keep her in anticipation of when you’ll fondle her breasts next.
Slow massage
Rubbing or cupping her breasts in your hands, either during foreplay or intercourse, can be a huge turn-on. I especially love when I’m on top during sex and the guy gently holds my breasts so they bounce in and out of the palms of his hands. The intimate touching is wildly exciting.
Tongue titillation
Your tongue is a powerful tool, so be sure to give her breasts some warm, wet tongue play. Use your tongue to tickle the tips of her nipples or circle around the areola (the coloured outside area of her nipples). Just think about how amazing it feels when we use our tongues to titillate your throbbing penis and you’ll understand how pleasurable it is when you use a similar breast stimulation technique on us.
Lip service
Work your way up from using your tongue to getting your entire mouth in on the action. If she’s smaller you can use your lips to softly suckle on one of her breasts. And regardless of the size, a delicate nipple-nuzzle with your lips will immediately make her wet.
The hand-mouth combo
If there’s one thing I’m always reminding you of, it’s this: don’t stick to one thing. Sure, it might feel good to have you massage one of our breasts while engaging in sex, but keeping things varied will be even more satisfying.
So when you’re using different breast stimulation techniques, switch things up – use your hands at first and then move on to some oral teasing. Work one breast with your tongue and another with your fingers. Keep her on her toes (or, if you both have a foot fetish, invite them to the sex party!). Variety is always the spice of life.
Hugs,
Gabrielle Moore
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