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Ways Masturbation Can Improve Your Sex Life
For years it was a widely-known fact that guys enjoy frequent self-pleasure, but it’s only recently come out that us girls enjoy the same solo play too. Apart from the obvious, there are lots of ways masturbation can improve your sex life.
From discovering your own hotspots (and sharing them with your mate) to lasting longer in the sack, self-fondling can be incredibly self-rewarding, not to mention fantastic for your other half. Do it alone behind closed doors or out in the open in front of your wife – both ways are satisfying, sexy and healthy. So here are some ways masturbation can improve your sex life.
Self-exploration
Nothing is more gratifying than learning more about your own body and what makes you tick. It’s a common and beneficial way to figure out what it is you do like (and maybe what you don’t like). This form of self-discovery will make everything from foreplay to sex that much more enjoyable.
Just make sure you pass this learned info on to your spouse – sure, it’s great to get yourself off but it will be ten times more passionate if you tell your wife what to do (and she does it, and you have a mind-blowing orgasm…)
Last longer
Very often, guys who masturbate frequently are able to maintain their erections and delay ejaculation for a longer period of time. This goes back to my first point – when you masturbate on a regular basis, you learn about your body and you become more in-tune with your biological reactions. Once you really familiarize yourself with the sensations that occur during sex, you can actually teach yourself how to hold off – you’ll start to recognize the triggers and you can then find new ways to fend off your impulses and hence, last longer.
I was dating this guy for a few months who could go forever in bed (the anti-minute-man). But, as we started spending “everyday” time together, we also started to learn more about each other… and it didn’t take me long to figure out that in addition to shaving and washing in the shower every morning, he was also choking the monkey. And let me tell you – to this day he was the only guy I was ever intimate with who had complete control of his load – it made oral and conventional sex fantastic!
Keep the balance
It’s rare for people who have been in long-term relationships to always be “in the mood” at the same time – maybe you’d be happy with sex five times a week but she’s only interested in it once or twice. Well, masturbation can be a great “filler” for those dry spells. Keep yourself satisfied (and balanced) by taking things into your own hands (literally). You don’t always need her and she doesn’t always need you.
Two-sided
While women and masturbating is a topic that isn’t as faux pas as it once was, there are still a lot of ladies who feel embarrassment, shame, or even humility when it comes to openly discussing their self-pleasuring. So let your partner know that you’re not only okay with it but encourage her to explore and share her findings as well.
Yours forever,
Gabrielle Moore
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