5 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Good For You
Almost everyone does it; almost no one admits it. We are talking of self-love or masturbation, also famously called various slang terms such as wanking or jerking off. But whatever name you call it with, it boils down to the same thing. It is the stimulation of your genitals with your own hand (or sometimes, hands), most times to the point of orgasm.
The truth is that both men and women engage in this self-pleasing activity. However, very few people will mention it openly. Men may speak about it among themselves, but often in a taunting or teasing manner rather than seriously. Women will never even breathe about it (in general, any way).
So, what’s the problem here? The main problem is the social taboo surrounding masturbation that we have grown up with. This is probably the taboo that has the largest number of practitioners in the world! But the fact is – masturbation can actually be very good for you and your relationship!
Here Are At Least Five Ways Why Masturbation Is Good For You
1. The best thing about masturbation is that it is a readily available method of sexual gratification. If you feel ‘in the mood’, just go into a room alone and love yourself! You do not need to pursue anyone here. You don’t have to wait for her to get in the mood or… yikes! to be beg for some loving from your partner.
2. One more very significant thing is that there are no performance issues connected with self-love. When you are masturbating, the only person involved is you. Because of that, you do it much better since there is no excess baggage involved. You do not feel guilty about it later either!
3. The next great advantage is that there are no health risk involved whatsoever. Yes, there are some old wives’ tales about masturbation leading to blindness or may make you grow hair on your palm or drains off all your energies, but there is no nonsense more nonsensical than that stuff! You can masturbate as much as you please and not get a single health problem ever. In fact, studies show that masturbation is actually good for you! As you climax and ejaculate, you are in way ‘cleaning your tubes’. As such, many now believe that masturbation can help fight against prostate cancer.
4. Self-love is a great stress reliever. If you are stressed, you are highly recommended to try out some self-love. You will find a recharge of your mental energies after your masturbatory orgasm. Similarly, if you are an insomniac, masturbation could be a wonderful way to put you to sleep. Try this when you are tossing and turning in your bed. You will see that once you have an orgasm, you will be lulled to sleep almost instantly.
5. Self-pleasuring helps make you last longer in bed! Here’s a simple fact: if you make love excitedly, chances are you’ll ejaculate soon. Now consider the fact that women take much longer than men to really get excited to the point of climax and you have a situation where you’re ready to explode and she’s not. However, by masturbating before the ‘main event’, then you prolong your own climax, leading to more satisfying lovemaking event for you and your partner.
Now these are the benefits of masturbation that you definitely needed to know. However, you must also know that there are several misconceptions about masturbation. Let us debunk some of these myths here.
1. Masturbation does not drain your physical energy. The ejaculate contains seminal fluid. The seminal fluid is not what produces energy in your body. That’s your diet. So if the fluid is ejaculated, there is certainly no energy loss. In any case, the seminal fluid that you discharge is completely rebuilt within three days in the testes.
2. Masturbation does not make you a social outcast. Since most people are doing it still or have done it, they will understand anyone who is found out to be masturbating.
3. Masturbation does not come in the way of an intimate relationship. In fact, it helps it. Couples can try masturbating each other, which is a good way of keeping your sex lives exciting.
The first thing you need to remember is that self-love is not as taboo as you think it is. Several people that you know will be probably engaged in this activity. There are even Masturbate-a-thons being organized in various parts of the world so that people can overcome their inhibitions and enjoy the best form of relaxation in the world so… just do it!
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Jeff Elvrum
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I have a problem orgaming with a partner , I have to beat it ya be it lol . When I was with my wife I had an accident . It was a head injury . I was in a coma for 13 days , in hospitals for 5 mo. and in rehab for 7 mo. That was 20 yrs. ago . I’m not real good at getting with women because I’m not much of a talker . I’m trying to get better but I need some advice , help , Jeff .
yasmine
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thats very interesting.
yasmine
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thats very interesting.thats a good job u r doing.keep it up.
Marq
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It is very difficult to overcome religious prejudices to selfpleasing. Jews are forbidden to masturbate and obey, they can go to the brothel, that is OK. Catholics and many other Christians consider it a sin and a shameful act to be confessed and begged for forgiveness.
All those restrictions, including those which require maried soldiers in Iraq to be in a different locations, were designed to make people aggressive when their sexual needs are not fulfilled. Crusaders Teutonic Knights were kicked out from Palestine by the Turks, from Hungary by their king and found a shelter in Poland. They were kept in an unheated cells of the monastery and could have a sex or wine, only when they were at war. They killed nation of Prussians and even stole their name. They started to attack their host – Polish State. They lost two wars, but it did not help. Polish King was very generous, unlike British, Spanish and Portugese Kings who killed or expelled Jews for political reasons. Polish King allowed them to stay, but forbade them to live in a monastery, ordered them to live in town, take a wife and drink whatever they wanted, but without aggressive wars, rape and robbery. That kept them peaceful for about 500 years. Isn’t it wonderful what sex could do to prevent wars.
maegan
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i am 18 and i love masterbating it relieves tension and i love the wicked sexy thoughts.
marilyn
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i have masturbated and find it very pleasurable.your collegue lee spoke about vaginal orgasms,ive actually experienced one with my first boyfriend,marilyn.
xxx
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i think self love is good specially when my love is away and i can’t do it with her..
Ivan
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Well in reality I share these point of view,I thing also that self-love is also good to learn more about yourself and so be able to please to your partner.
dave cruce
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i agree whole heartedly. i masterbate almost every day at least once. i may or may not be a little over sexed, but who cares. i believe in the old adage, use or loose it, which applies to all of our muscles. at 60 years old, i can still get an erection at the slightest visual sexual observation and sometimes just a thought can get me errect. i think my masterbation keeps my penis ready for any action.
FRANK ADAMS
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GABRIELLE, I AM SO GLAD TO SEE YOU BRING THIS SUBJECT UP, FOR THERE ARE TIMES THAT IF I DO NOT MATURBATE, I CAN NOT SLEEP VERY WELL… MASTURBATION FOR MY OWN SELF GRATIFICATION ACTUALLY RELIEVES SOME OF THE TENSION THAT ONE HAS FROM DOING THE EVERYDAY THING IN LIFE, WHEATHER IT IS WORK OR SPORTS OR JUST PLAYING.
Vern
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Doing a hand job is the greatest way to get to sleep when you can’t get to sleep right a way
Stu Lowe
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I concur, my urologist reccomends masturbation for prostate health. My girlfriend and I both have better orgasms when masturbating each other than when we have intercourse. We both know how best to do each other………….Mmmmmmm!!
Bill
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I like to fantize about cumming in my mouth when I masterbate. I know I’m not gay, so is this wrong to think this fantasy?
trevor
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OOOhh!! You are so right. I fail to understand why it is such a taboo subject and so hidden even in marriage!!! If one knows how to masturbete then it is so much easier to guide your partener to thrill you whilst engaging in sex! Every teenager should be taught how to please themself! Keep up the good work Gabrielle. Kisses.
NIGEL
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VERY INTERSTING FACTS ABOUT MASTRUBATION WHERE IN INDIA MANY A MAN OR A WOWMAN FELL GUILTY ABOUT IT.
kyazze
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really its so pleasing i occasionaly have it but secreatly i told ma wife when i when upcoutry 4 work that i did it and she was like eeeh waaa woo sorry and she had to ask mi how i did it but thanks much that is a great adea really sh admited and that was nice ,thanks much
Doc
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It’s also fun to masturbate in front of each other. It’s hot and it gives you a great visual image of how to best pleasure your partner.
reg
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thanks for your inspiring letters what can a man do to get back his strong hard ons every time i get one and get ready to put it in goes limp is there anything on the market that works ive tried everything im 52 yrs old to soon to quit enjoying sex
b.e. faust
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I always feel guilty self pleasuring myself. I’ve tried to find a Tantra expert whom can help me have multiple male orgasms. I had read it is also called sequential orgasms. Once I’ve gone over the edge; I’m done.
Any comments about self pleasuring and not feeling guilty?
Mbulamberi(Dr.)
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This is a wonderful report
Frank
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Masturbation is a great personal accomplishment to start my days and a perfect non-narcotic relaxant to end stressed days with restful sleep. Even as a very young teen, it was always an exciting and pleasurable event, especially on those warm restless nights. As as an adult, I still enjoy masturbation but certainly desire more treasured heterosexual pleasures with my wife, who is learning my desires, fantasies / fetishes and I am learning hers. All Heterosexual pleasures, vaginal, anal, and oral that are mutually agreeable between between two married adults is a God given responsibility. Both partners are responsible to eachother’s sexual pleasures as they are responsible for their finances, food and taxes! It is written in the Bible -Song of Solomon and…(1 Cor 7:3-6) The husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. {4} The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. {5} Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. {6} I say this as a concession, not as a command.
Lorne
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I am 60 years old and love to masterbate. I have been masterbating sence i was about 15 years old. I do it about 3-4 times a week. And sometimes every day and then layoff for a couple days. I have always been shy talking about this but it fells real good now to talk
maegan
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I particularly enjoy masterbating in unusual places sometimes at work,parking the car in a quite location,fantisising that somoone is watching.i love it when my boyfriend strokes me to orgasm,with him deep inside.
joedhy
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thanks, i want you sent sample pict and sample tehnik long orgasme female !! i want you right !!
Vincent
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Spot on Gabrielle. My wife and are both Christians (Catholic). We masturbate each other or go solo, regularly. It is highly pleasurable and enhances our sex life. We even drink our own/each others cum.
Jim
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When She isnt with it I do!!! and the lil ole boy loves it!!!!!!!!!!Jim
mado
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vry helpful report i agree with u
keep it up
Don
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( 1 ) Masturbation provides direct feedback that can
help a person determine techniques that give
them the most pleasure and stimulation.
( 2 ) Masturbation can also aid in development of
pleasure and response to some techniques.
( 3 ) The information gained from masturbation
can be used to guide sex partner so sex partner
can give the best pleasure and stimulation
and bring about orgasm.
kalomon
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When i masterbate, I like to have a pair of used panties right on my face and up my nose to inhale that musky and sexy aroma of a woman. I’d be fantasizing that I’m eating her pussy
Andy
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I have masturbated almost every day since puberty, I notice that when I haven’t I get irritable or stressful or don’t sleep well but having a solo session sends it away so I would say that all these people having time off due to stress need to masturbate themselves more often! I have never had time off due to stress and I hardly ever get ill.
I agree with Don plus when you masturbate you tend to check yourself as well which is a good thing.
ken
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Taoists believe that male ejaculation depletes the body’s level of chi, because the body gives it all its got – we’re making babies here, or at least, that’s what the body thinks. I read this book that recommends using masturbation to train men to orgasm without ejaculation. Tough practice, but I do it for the sake of my chi!