After Sex Tips
It was a GREAT round of lovemaking! You probably want to doze off now but what if she doesn’t? I won’t delve into the details of WHY men seem to shut down after sex while women seem to want to do the opposite. Men and women are just different. Period. However, when it comes to afterglow there can be a sort of middle ground where everybody’s happy.
FIVE Things to Do After Sex
Go ahead and cuddle! Guys, most women don’t want to start and have a whole conversation running after sex. We got tired too. However, simply turning away from us and sleeping translates to many negative things in our mind such as “hmmm, feels like I just got used for sex”. You can easily prevent this by simply hugging your woman after lovemaking. Just put one leg over her legs and one arm over her and snuggle up close. That’s it!
Side note: A couple I used to counsel had this issue where he always got out of bed and didn’t return after a few minutes. Well guess what, it turned out he was soooo warm after making love that he was sweating buckets and didn’t want to gross out his partner in bed. Moral lesson: if you need to step out of bed after sex for whatever reason simply communicate this with your partner!
Make the heat burn a little longer. Most men think that the type of conversation women want after sex is all about “relationships”. Not true at all. Women simply want to connect further after an orgasm and really the topic of what’s being talked about is not extremely important.
As such – and to motivate you to talk after sex – why not steer the conversation into something you want to talk about. Sex positions, perhaps?
For instance, when you embrace her, whisper if she thinks she would like to try something new next time. You’re talking about something YOU like and the fact that you’re talking is what SHE likes.
If you’re more an ‘action speaks louder than words’ type of guy then don’t speak and just physically communicate with her by, say, drawing lazy circles around her breast or gently kissing her neck, or simply holding hands.
Well, if you must shower… some men (and women too!) feel the need to shower after making love. This is definitely the case if you just had morning sex and need to dash off somewhere. Sometimes though, people want to take a shower because they got all hot and sweaty! This time, instead of taking a quick shower alone, pull your partner with you! It’s great bonding time and who knows what all that touching, soaping, and rubbing can lead to next?
Drink up! All that lovemaking has probably made you both thirsty. Well, go ahead and quench the thirst with some COLD water. After taking a sip, be sure to lean down and put one of her nipples in your mouth! It’s sexy, good for laugh and makes her feel you’re still yearning for her.
Another good idea is to grab a glass of wine too and share it. You can then cuddle up in bed till you both doze off.
Play some ‘sleep’ music. This is a tip from one of my friends who are a couple. They do both tend to be worn out and sleepy after making love. Taking a shower doesn’t fit, turning on the TV is a no-no, and neither wanted to talk about anything! The solution they found was this, they would turn on some really soothing ‘sleep music’. It relaxes them both as they snuggle up a bit after sex. And then they slowly draw away from each other (too warm to stay close!) and drift blissfully to sleep. Try it!
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vaibhav
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Very nice & most practical tips!
ID noble
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This is very good teaching to know.There was a time when I had sex with my wife and after that i ran outside to take fresh air,my wife was very annoid,she felt so unlove for I did.Later she told me that i should have holded her exactly just the way you said it and since then we have having good time.Hope to get more deep teaching from you again.Thanks
kind regards
Bolaji
John Kasonda
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Wonderful teaching. Fortunately for me I have been doing some of the things you mentioned as a habit but i didnt realise how important they were till now though i could see that my wife liked it so much. Thank you once more for this teaching.
Keep it up
Regards
John
Master Melvin M. Lusterio
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Good idea! Making love is surely a pleasurable thing!
Nomaan
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This is really working … Amazing…
Most of us don’t get intimacy after having intercourse. Our partner really wants to gossip after sex but we show reluctancy to some extent….
Very good practice tips…
KHurram
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ya that’s very nice and great tips. i like it ..wow
keep it up dude………… plz keep sending me this i read daily.
ritah
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woooow…awesome!!!! Gabby you are the Bomb, keep up gal!
Avis
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To Whom It May Concern; About 6 yrs. ago my husband claimed he had” discovered” himself. I was 8 months pregnant with our 6th child. Yes you read it correctly. I was devasted to learn he was a dominate. He wanted me to be a submissive because I could never satisfy him in bed correctly. Needless to say we were married for 18 yrs when he told me his true self. Now I have lost my children to the state and my husband is now 1700 miles away from me. What I cannot understand is why he didn’t tell me all of this before we got married or during our pre-martial counceling. I’m sure things would have been alot different if he had told me before we got married. He said I didn’t give him my all. I thought I did when I bore him 6 sons. Yes you read that correctly as well. To be perfectly honest his sexually fantasies are not very pleasing. I am very unhappy about this. He keeps quoting “If you love me you would do this for me.” How can you love someone that you can’t please in bed? I told him in a recent e-mail that I would make the ultimite sacrifice and let him go and to fulfill his sexual fantasy I would not be a part of it. I’ve lost too much as it is. For the love I lost. For the lust he desires.If that isn’t love then I don’t know what is then. I just feel that he’s not truly commited in our marriage. So I must do what’s right for me.He’s always talked about divorce and how unhappy he is and that he isn’t “in” love with me. Maybe its just best that I do let him go. Thanks for listening.
lavon
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WHAT IF SHE DOESNT WANT TO CUDDLE AND GETS TO HER SIDE OF THE BED?
Vannessa Gionson
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Beautiful information! Thank you!
Daniel
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What i want to say only your teaching great.
julian
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Another perfect one from you GM,i am going to stay with my partner much longer after the action now. point taken,thank you.Julian
bwa
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typical of you, Gabby. Everyday, new lessons. Keep on researching and help us in keeping our marriages alive. Bravo
Loverboy
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I always make cum. 3 or 6 more times and we are closed to our 50’s
wrangler66
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works real yum!!!
Steve
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Your write ups and guides inspire. It is funny that these cannot come from women themselves yet they desire to be so loved.
Nway your guides are worthy love
Steve
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These are encouraging informations and need to be shared openly and candidly. We-Men might not know what it means and Wo-men do not also what to share on how they want to be treated hence the gap is being filled by someone. More research for a better and lovely world!!
Greg
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great piece of information i must add.
You are certainly doing couples good.
Tlali
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thank you, a real good teaching. i promise i will never do such mistakes. still enjoying your teaching and i will always do.
kusiima
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Thanks for these tips after sex i tried them and they worked out keep us informed. i APPRICIATE
Eileen
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thanks for the aftersex tips.Good information and might consider it.
Steve Post
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Fortunately, I almost always continue to cuddle and touch lightly (her) back,neck, ass, thighs, tummy, arms and sometimes hold hands and talk softly. Kiss her neck and throat and cheeks (all 4! lol
. Give her a back massage. Sometimes this leads to lovemaking again, and I am 66 years “young” and she is 56. Other times she can sense that I am very tired and she tells me to lie on my side facing away from her and then she rubs and scatches my back. Ummm..heaven! But, your tips have given me even more ideas to try out. Steven
jimmymackisback
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the first thing men have to do… is pee… bad. natures way to cleaning the plumbing, so to speak. she’ll wonder, but that’s what it is. how turn it into a plus plus situation. while you’re gone, fix her a hot wet washcloth and bring her a hand towel. YOU, clean her up. first get her on her knees, with the washcloth strategically placed… it’ll be cool enough not to burn her, by now. thee her to cough hard. kiss her warmly, tell her to lay back down and YOU wash and daub her clean. use the towel to pat her dry. kiss her where she likes it most. she’ll still be very ready, wet. keep a hand in the game, anything can happen. let it. you’ll recover in faster time, she won’t know how to respond because you just did something very tender and unexpected for her. but, she’ll want more of what messed her up in the first place. don’t be afraid to go down on her again. protest? ‘it’s just you and me, babe” explore her with your fingers. remember she’s tired too, but, she is already and warmed. she’ll let you know she’s wanting more.
don’t you ever let her shower alone.
charles
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Thanks lots, it has been a great satisfying experience.
Sam
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I lick my wife’s private part before have intercourse isit normal to lick before intercourse
Elvis
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Thanks alot GM, am really touched with these points and definitely know it will bring a new sensation in my marriage. Cheers GM.
Bill
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Gabby the reason the man wants to go to sleep after sex is because he has a sleeping agent released from him cumming or in his sperm.
sam
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thank you for you have answered my questions
CHARLIE
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i am one guy that love to wash after sex one woman cry,,and told me it made hef feel dirty,,i ask her if no man every wash with her she said no,,i thought that was funny,,,but i wash a lot,, i like to be clean CHARLIE
SAMA
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She has never enjoyed sex and she hates it that much even after trying all tricks, I am actually tired of all these her attitude. I don’t think she has feelings at all.
Aqib
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Nice i like it.thank u vry mch.
MT Guy
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Now, this seems basic to me but isn’t it a good thing in this time frame – where you’re both relaxed and vulnerable – to tell her how much you love her and why? Maybe tell her how good she just made you feel? Perhaps ask her if there’s anything you could have done better that she liked?
During the afterglow, these statements hit home a lot harder than at other times because of the physical and emotional state of the recipient.
Baracus Kevin
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have i ever mentioned that i luv yu to bits, no?? well… GABRIELLE, I LUV YU TO BITS!!!
nambuye ahmed
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Good tips! Thanks. I think men who don’t breath when ejaculating have high chances of sleeping than those who breathe in the process of releasing out semen
natalie
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hey gabi, i must confess i love reading your lil tips it teaches me somthing new everytime i read them…. and umm… there is something else that you should know but you’ll see that at the end of my comment.. anyway girl thanks alot for your great advices omg not to mention the new positions. i tried all of them and it did spice up my sex life lol, my partner wants to know where i got all these ideas from, i simple say ” I LOVE READING” and he accept that answer. but ofcourse i know what he was thinking.”hmmm”.. on the other hand keep up the good work hun..
NATALIE
ps. i guess you relize who i am now,i like reading and studying about men too. it helps me alot to know what my partner is feeling and what he is thinking after sex,and if you want to know YES i do receive emails from your lil friend Alex Allman. therefore i am learning more about myself and my partner.
khan
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This information is huge as the male mind is clueless about the way to react after sex. This information will help a great deal of masculinity after male ejaculation
Cheers Gaby