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Keep Fit to Keep Sex ALIVE
I hear it often enough…
She Says: he’s not that into me because I’m not as sexy as I used to be.
He Says: my spare tire get’s in the way sometimes so it’s kind of a turn off.
She Says: now that I’ve gained weight, I seem to have lost my sex drive.
He Says: dammit, I can hardly catch my breath after a few minutes so how can I wait for her to reach her orgasm?!?
When it comes to weight gain, a lot of people claim that their partners should love them nonetheless because love is not about one’s waistline. Well, this may apply to LOVE, but not really for SEX.
I cannot put it simpler than this: if you are overweight, you do not have the energy to make love with real gusto!
You see, if you’re overweight, you don’t have a lot of energy. And since lovemaking requires a lot of ‘activity’, it can indeed dampen your bedroom life to a very high degree.
Again, we’re not talking about love here because yes, your partner should love you even if you’ve gained some weight. However, sex will not be as fulfilling. And here’s where it becomes such as vicious circle.
At first, you don’t make love as much as you guys used to because it’s harder to do so. I know a lot of couples who do say that just the thought of all that ‘work’ makes them opt to sleep instead! Now, that can’t be goof for any relationship.
So they start off as skipping lovemaking sessions every once in a while. And then, they either lose interest in lovemaking altogether or gain even more weight that it almost becomes a physical impossibility to do so. And so one morning you wake up and you feel bad about yourself because you’re overweight; you feel bad about your sex life because you hardly have one; and you insecurity comes in because you keep wondering that your partner will surely fall for someone new, exciting and fit!
So, how do you get out of this rut?
Realize how much better it will be if you’re fit and healthy. Changing bad eating habits is only successfully if you truly realize the benefits of being healthier. So thing about these: you’ll look and feel better about yourself AND you’ll have the energy for making love and reaching lots and lots and lots of orgasms!
Take baby steps. You didn’t gain the pounds overnight so you won’t lose them that fast either. Accept this now. So instead, take small steps. Fit in 30-minute WALKS everyday starting today; up this to 45 minutes, the week after; add a bit of strength training the following week. As for the food you eat, during the first week see what you can cut off. Don’t do anything drastic like half your eating portions. Just don’t buy chips or cookies on your next round of grocery shopping. And then as the weeks progress, make more small, healthier food decisions.
Give yourself a sexual goal. For women, this can mean buying lingerie NOW and make fitting in to it your weight loss goal. For men, this can mean aiming to last x minutes more than you currently do.
If you’re doing this together, then you can also set a reward for you both. This can be a romantic weekend getaway where you treat yourselves to the pleasures your new and healthier bodies can bring to each other.
Make your sex life truly exciting again. As you get more fit and feel more energy, make sure that you take steps to revive your sexual life as well. For instance, learn a new sex position or introduce sex games, or learn about Tantric Sex. In short, make healthy changes too in that avenue of your life. All these will contribute to a more vibrant well being in and out of the bedroom.
Good luck!
Supercharging your Sex Drive at any Age
Today, I’m going to talk about a sensitive subject: sex and age. We all know that age is relative, just a number, etc. but it’s true that our bodies change as we grow older. Some of these changes can have a negative impact on your sex drive.
Fortunately, there are many steps you can take to diminish the effects of aging on your libido and sexual performance.
So let’s get started!
How old is old?
Jimmy Buffet once said, “No matter how old I get, those high school girls stay the same age.” Not only is this funny, it’s a healthy point of view. I certainly know that when I was 18, I thought 25 was old. When I was 25, I thought 30 was old, and so on. The older you get, the less old it seems.
Age is a number too many people get hung up on. It’s not the number of years you pass on this earth that’s important — it’s how you choose to spend that time.
Getting older is only a problem when it starts affecting your daily life. Or, as we’ll discuss, your sex life.
Women, aging and sex
Women do experience a gradual decline in sexual responsiveness as we age. The production of hormones diminishes which can affect sex drive. In addition, these physiological changes take place:
- vaginal walls become more thin and rigid
- the vagina produces less lubrication
Both these changes can cause discomfort during intercourse (so be sure to choose a good, effective lube).
Here’s the good news: a woman’s capacity to achieve orgasm remains unchanged well into her senior years. (It may take longer to achieve orgasm, however.)
Menopause is associated with the end of fertility, menstruation and the production of eggs. Traditionally, menopause has been considered the end of a woman’s sex life. People who thought this also thought that the only reason women engage in sex is to have children.
If you or your partner is an older woman who requires a longer time to achieve orgasm, you may want to try my favorite l-arginine cream to aid in sexual stimulation.
Age-related changes in a man’s sex life
The story behind the effects of age on a man’s sexual function is a little more grim. You’ve heard the often-repeated claim that a man’s peak sexual age is 18? Unfortunately, this is true. It’s a shame that most men are at their pinnacle of sexual capabilities at an age when they don’t know how to use them.
Every year after this sexual peak, a man’s steriod hormone (including testosterone) levels gradually decline. This decrease is measurable by the age of 30. Lower hormone levels mean two things:
reduced speed of physiological reactions (you get aroused more slowly)
increased refractory period (time after orgasm that it takes to achieve a second erection)
The former shortcoming is okay and can be overcome with sufficient foreplay. The second is more troublesome — like most women, I really really like round 2. Fortunately a friend of mine has found a solution that helps men get ready for round 2 faster: this product, he says, makes orgasms stronger as well as helping him get back in action.
After age 40, the urgency of sexual desire or “horniness” decreases. Men over 40 are harder to turn on and generally speaking don’t perform as well as younger men. (Don’t get your feelings hurt! There are exceptions.) This decline continues through the 50s.
Another effect of age that sets in around age 40 is a periodic inability to get an erection. It’s not that you’re not aroused — it’s just that you cannot get an erection. Many men are extremely anxious about this. Even worse, many women don’t understand this phenomenon and think that a lack of erection is a lack of excitement, arousal, and sometimes even a sign of ambivalence. That’s why pharmaceuticals that promise instant erections are so popular among men with anxieties and low self-esteem.
Despite these changes in a man’s body, recent studies have indicated that healthy men enjoy fulfilling sex lives into old, old age. Men are also fertile their entire lives, so age need not diminish one’s ability to father children.
Men concerned about declining hormone levels should strongly consider trying Endowmax. The herbs in the formula help stimulate the body to increase testosterone production and can help you shed those extra decades when you’re in bed.
Sex and age — the bottom line
All studies that have been done lately has indicated that many of our ideas about sex and age are just plain wrong. Women don’t lose interest in sex when they go through menopause. Men don’t lose interest in sex after 40 — they just need more enticement to get excited.
The best thing you can do for your sexual health is to be fit. Eat healthy foods in moderation and go to the gym. Avoid stress, or, if you can’t, learn to deal with it in a healthy manner. Above all else, talk to your partner about your concerns. Keep the lines of communication open.
And remember — you can enjoy a healthy, fulfilling sex life for as long as you want!
Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
