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Turn Her On In The Morning
“Men wake up aroused in the morning. We can’t help it. We just wake up and we want you. And the women are thinking, ‘How can he want me the way I look in the morning?’ It’s because we can’t see you. We have no blood anywhere near our optic nerve.” – Andy Rooney
You usually start your day with a hard-on. Most guys do. And us girls know this. We realize you’re raring to go from the moment you open your eyes, however when we wake up, we usually feel fuzzy, disheveled, and pretty non-sexy… at first.
Curling up behind us and thrusting yourself into our backs is not always the best “move.” Sure, it might get us aroused one in 30 times (sometimes 50), but it’s certainly not the most exciting way to come on to us. So here are some ways you can turn her on in the morning.
Kisses
If you both haven’t had a chance to brush your teeth or swish with some mouthwash, you may want to avoid deep-throat kissing first thing in the morning, but that doesn’t mean you can’t kiss her softly on the lips, cheek, earlobes, neck, arm, etc., etc. Give her some affection – help her wake up slowly and get those juices flowing. Sometimes a gentle kiss on my shoulder or the inside of my wrist, or a caress on my thigh or down my back, is enough to get me wet and willing.
Never, ever under-estimate the value of a simple kiss.
Undress
Married couples take a lot of shortcuts with their sex life. One of the worst is not undressing fully (you know you’ve done the deed in your black dress socks!) So in the morning, take the time to get into the buff. Let her wake up by feeling your bare skin against her body. Then start undressing her as well. There’s no need to rush – it’s the morning and she’s just waking up, so slip her clothes off slowly and seductively.
Then, hold her. Let that skin-on-skin contact bring you both to arousal.
Be playful!
Sex doesn’t always have to be so serious, especially wake-up sex. Sneak under the covers for a little sub-thermal-blanket fondling. Have a pillow fight. Use a feather to tickle her nose. Bring her breakfast in bed (which should really be just about any type of fruit, which you can eat, feed her, or eat off of her).
What a fantastic way to kickstart the day – with a good romp! Turn her on in the morning by waking her up slowly, seductively, and even playfully, and put a hop in both of your steps all day long.
Ta-ta for now!
Gabrielle Moore
Bring Out Her Wild Side
“Sex sould be wild. Unfettered and free. We’re animals, aren’t we? And, basically, we’re all wolves in sheep’s fur.” – Unknown
Every woman has an inner wild side that she’s just waiting to unleash. Even the shiest ones have a secret prowess – they just need to reach a level of comfort and trust in order to reveal it. And once they do, look out!
I know the adage is true: guys want a lady in the street and a freak in the bed. And we want to show our men how unadulterated, naughty, and free we can be between the sheets. So it’s a win-win for everybody! It’s just a matter of creating a sexual as well as a comfortable environment for experimentation.
You go first
If being racy and carefree in the bedroom is something you’ve both been avoiding, then someone has to be willing to dive in and go first. And I think the guy should lead by example. Show your partner that you’re willing to be vulnerable and daring, and then hopefully, she’ll be willing to return the favor.
Say something particularly X-rated to set the mood (“I can’t wait to make you cum” or “You make my cock so hard”). Just hearing these naughty actions put into words will be enough to excite her.
Then kiss her deeply and passionately. Caress her breasts and move your hands slowly down her body. Give her some physical cues that will heighten the pleasure.
Take control of the situation at first to test the waters and see how she reacts. It will give her time to get into the mood and start letting her inhibitions go. When a guy shows me that he’s aroused by some dirty talk, it’s often the invitation I need to start teasing him orally back (with my words, not my mouth… just yet).
Relinquish control
I can say from personal experience that I like being both in control in the bedroom as well as being submissive. And I would say that guys feel the same way. So, since you’ve already gotten the ball rolling (no pun intended), it’s time to let her have a go at controlling things.
I have some girlfriends who feel self-conscious about dirty talk because they don’t know what to say. So make things easier on her – ask your partner, “Tell me what you want to do to me” or “Does that feel good?” A little coaxing could help draw her out of her shell.
Then suggest a little dominating – maybe she’d be willing to blindfold you or tie you up. While you’re in one of these “vulnerable” positions, she can easily take the reins and explore your body on her terms. She’ll thrive off of the power of being on top of you, kissing and touching and stroking, while you’re either in the dark or restrained.
Take your time
Nothing is more of a turn-off than feeling like you’re being rushed. If you truly want to bring out her wild side, then you need to take your time and work your way up to bigger and better things.
It’s not unusual for spontaneity to have seeped out of a marriage, and for many of you, this could be your first experiment with unbridled passion in years. If your partner is feeling rushed, she may withdraw (although, in the right setting, a rushed romp can be exciting too). So make sure that your wild antics are reserved for sex sessions where you have time to explore each other slowly and thoroughly. These are no shortcuts here.
Hugs and kisses!
Gabrielle Moore
Steamy Shower Sex Secrets Revealed
“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” – Carl W. Buechner
The shower is an erotic haven, with warm water, slippery suds and all that steamy heat. It’s like an instant set-up for great sex. The right position might be a tad tricky to master at first (I’ve got lots of tips for you below), but once you’ve got the logistics figured out, her groans and screams will be echoing off the tiled walls.
There are a bevy of stimulating sensations in the shower, which will cut your work in half. So get that water running, get your clothes off, and submerge yourself in the pure enjoyment of steamy shower sex.
Something to lean on
A lot of today’s homes are built with stand-up showers, meaning no bathtub ledge to prop yourself up on. If your partner isn’t flexible enough to rest a leg on your shoulder or have you hold it, then bend her over. If you’re still crammed for space, there are a wide range of shower benches that are sold at most hardware stores (and she’ll love it because it will give her somewhere to sit when she shaves her legs- an added plus!)
Work with the water
Water is not a long-lasting lubricant, but it does allow for easier, smoother caressing, stroking, and movement in general. Let your hands slide up and down her body. Lap the water off her neck and shoulders. Let your tongue suck the water off her breasts.
Also, if you’ve ever been hesitant about giving her oral sex (or she’s had apprehensions about going down on you), or if you’ve been looking for a “safer” venue to experiment with anal stimulation, the flowing, warm water presents a unique opportunity to work with a clean area as well as have the water dilute any natural secretions.
Lather up
Soap is fun for all sorts of reasons – it gives you a great excuse to lather her up and let your hands glide over every square inch of her body, it’s slippery and stimulating, and believe it or not, all those yummy scents that body washes come in can add to the overall steamy shower sex experience.
Give her a good rub down. Wash her hair. Hell, even break out one of those poofy sponges. Don’t leave one inch of her unexplored.
A quick word of warning: Soap should never (ever) go inside of her. When you’re using soap down there, proceed with caution. And for God’s sake, soap is not a lube.
Use the shower head to your advantage
That’s right – a removable shower head is a girl’s best friend. We don’t take long showers because we’re doing facials and exfoliating (although that’s what we tell you) – a removable shower head, especially the ones with multiple settings, are a treat all their own.
So why not take advantage of this bathroom-fixture-slash-sex-toy? First use it to massage her scalp, then slowly move it down her neck, across her shoulders and down the length of her spine. Then ever so gently bring it up between her legs while kissing her. Use it in a back-and-forth or circular motion. Change the settings on the showerhead to create different pulsations. She’ll love the exciting sensations it will create!
It’s warm, wet and fun! And that’s why we women (ahem, I) are such fans of steamy shower sex!
Much love!
Gabrielle Moore
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