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The Game Of Domination
“Woman is the dominant sex. Men have to do all sorts of stuff to prove that they are worthy of woman’s attention.” – Camille Paglia
Domination can have a lot of meanings when it comes to game-play in the bedroom – it can be everything from blindfolding your partner to breaking out the whips, chains, and ball-gags. Almost all of my female friends agree (including moi): nothing is more of a turn-on than being dominated. It’s a primal urge that all of us seek to fulfill at some point in our sex lives, and when you’re involved with someone where trust is involved, it can be extremely exciting and satisfying.
Don’t take a woman home for a one-night stand and think you can get away with handcuffing her – trust me, she’ll be dialing “911″ faster than you can do up your pants! The game of domination is for couples only – without trust, neither party will be able to fully enjoy being dominated.
If you and your partner want to engage in some domination play, then heed the advice below.
Start slowly
If dominating your spouse is one of your fantasies, then broach the topic carefully and ease your way in. What I mean is, start with some light domination, such as tying her up, the aforementioned blindfolding, or some light spanking. Save the latex and paddles for a few weeks down the road.
I went home with a guy who had an entire closet of domination toys… he thought it would be a good idea to show off his collection, and he quickly attempted to backtrack as I redressed and headed for the door. It’s a shame – he would have been a great lay, but he’d come on way too strong too fast. Even if you’ve been married for years, approaching the topic of domination should be done gradually and with sensitivity.
Take turns
Some couples prefer to always let the man be the dominator and the woman be the dominee, or vice versa, but for the most part, I think everyone has fantasies to be both. So take turns! Let her control you one night and then have a turn of your own the next time.
Speak up!
One of the most exciting parts of domination games is the vocalizing – ask her if she wants to be spanked, tell her what you’re going to do to her, ask her to tell you what she likes. If you’re busy pleasuring her while she’s wearing a blindfold and you’re both on mute, it won’t be very exciting. This is the time to choose your (dirty) words and get talking.
Playtime
Toys for the game of domination can range from fun and silly to extreme and hardcore. They all have their place in the bedroom when introduced in the right way. These are the types of toys you should pick out together. I love going to a sex shop with a guy – it’s like foreplay. Secondly, you don’t want to bring home a spiked collar and leash when your wife had more of a feather tickler in mind – seek out toys that you are both comfortable with. Finally, never surprise your other half with a sex toy – an unexpected whip-lashing on the bottom will not be well-received.
MWAH!
Gabrielle Moore
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The Best “He’s On Top” Positions
“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.” – George Burns
I’m definitely a take-charge woman, but every once and a while, it’s nice to relinquish control and let the man take over. When he’s on top not only is the view fantastic but it’s also a great way to experiment with some fun “he’s-on-top” positions. With the proper configuration, you can align yourselves so you and your spouse can experience maximum pleasure.
Even though you’re on top, the motions and rhythm will still take some effort on both of your parts, so don’t think that this is about making you do all the hard work. With the following positions, you’ll be able to manoeuvre and create tantalizing sensations between the sheets.
Missionary
Missionary may be one of the oldest positions in the book – and its stay-power is because of its effectiveness. Hey, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Missionary is super enjoyable because, at that angle, not only are you penetrating us but the motion also allows for your manhood to rub against our clitoris, creating a double-sensation. Feel free to keep her on her toes by varying your speed of entry.
Now I’m not saying I’d want to do it missionary-style every night of my life, but this move should definitely be in every guy’s arsenal.
Knees to chest missionary
This position takes a tad more dexterity on her part, but the manipulation is worth it! Get into the standard missionary position but have her pull her knees down so they’re against her chest (she can even rest her feet on your shoulders, if she’s flexible enough). If you need to, use a pillow under her bottom to help elevate her. This position is all about deep penetration not to mention the benefits of the missionary pose, adding even more toe-curling excitement to a sex session.
Sideways missionary
Anytime you turn your bodies so that you’re not exactly forward or backward, you create new opportunities to find orgasm-inducing positions. So try this: have your wife lie down on her side and prop one leg up on your shoulder while you’re on your knees, ready to penetrate her (a sideways missionary). It’s a fairly easy position to experiment with and is a great way to get you both fired up.
Downward dog
This is a “flater” version of doggy style, if you will, and involves your wife lying down flat on your stomach while you mount her from behind. The angle is incredible for G-spot stimulation – you’ll have her begging for more.
I’m a huge fan of doggy style, as the position is somewhat naughty and always pleasurable. While you move in and out of her, go slowly at first and then pick up the speed. Be sure to kiss her neck or run your hands down her spine while you do the deed.
Criss-cross
This unique configuration is often overlooked – and shouldn’t be. Have your partner lie down on her back while you lay alongside her – get her to bend her knees and rest both of her feet on your hips while you penetrate her. The tilted angle will create new sensations for both of you – she’ll love the rubbing and the fact you’re hitting a new spot inside of her, while you’ll love the new taught sensations.
Smootch!
Gabrielle Moore
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My Favorite (Unexpected) Erogenous Zones
“Bodies do not produce sensations, but complexes of elements (complexes of sensations) make up bodies.” – Ernst Mach
Nothing is a bigger turn-off than a guy who goes straight for the goods – that is, they’re all over the breasts and nether regions. While these are undoubtedly our tried-and-true hotspots, every woman has a few more erogenous zones up her sleeve. For many of us, a little neck kissing and sucking can give us shivers down our entire bodies, and for others, it be the gentle bite of an earlobe that sends out shock waves. The same goes for you – I once ran my tongue ever-so-slowly down the nape of a guy’s neck and he actually lost his load (but luckily for me, and him, it was a triple-header evening).
I’ve been with enough men – and women – (and explored the terrain myself) to know a few secret erogenous zones that, when titillated, immediately makes my toes curl! And it only seemed right to share these with my fellow boys, so here it goes…
Scalp
Kinkier guys and gals love a little hair tugging – some because they like the pain involved in it, but there’s also something to be said about stimulating the scalp. I love making out with a guy and having him run his hands through my hair along my scalp. It send shivers down my spine almost instantly. A good scalp rub is also a major turn-on, so don’t be afraid to get right in there and mess up her hair.
Palms of hands
I was fooling around with a guy once and he kissed the inside of my hands verrrry slowly. I couldn’t get my panties off quickly enough! A man had never given attention to the palms of my hands, and I don’t know if it was the fact that he was thorough enough to find this hidden gem or the sensations that he created that got me more excited, but either way I can tell you, I haven’t forgotten him since (Jonathan).
Wrists
After a night of drinks I wound up in the jeep of this stud I met at a bar and he kissed my wrists – his warm breath on my skin created an instant spark (that burned till sunrise, if I can recall).
Touching this area of my body is only arousing when it’s done tenderly – while being tied up is another exciting form of sex play better kept for another article, the mode you choose to restrain a woman is also a big part of the equation. Cold handcuffs are raw and sexy in their own right, but a pair of (strong) fuzzy cuffs is a wonderful feeling.
Shoulders
You go for the lips, the neck, the breasts, and skip right over the shoulders. Stop neglecting this highly sensitive zone – rub our shoulders, kiss them, even suckle them if you feel so inclined. This may not do it for every woman but it certainly revs me up.
Tops of feet
I’ve always stressed how over-the-moon satisfying foot play can be, and yet so many couples are reluctant to experiment with the tootsies. If you’re not ready to suck on her toes or lick the pads of her feet, ease yourself in by kissing the tops of her feet. The foot has countless nerve endings that can be extremely arousing, so break out of that comfort zone and try hitting this unexpected target.
See ya tomorrow!
Gabrielle Moore
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