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Unconventional Places To Have Sex
“Sex on television can’t hurt you unless you fall off.” – Author Unknown
Sex in a bed may be the “ideal” setting for a romp (there’s privacy, lots of room, it’s dark…) But as we all know, sometimes the mood strikes us while we’re out at other places, like a dinner party, at the movies, and while we’re with other people. Maybe you’re sick of every-day bedroom-sex and you want to break the mold. I like the way you think – some of my steamiest hookups have been in the most unusual of places, so I thought I should share them with you.
What makes doing the deed in an unusual spot is that it’s so exciting – maybe there’s a danger of being caught, which only adds to the excitement, or perhaps it’s the spontaneity of the act that is getting your juices flowing. Whatever the motive, don’t shrug off sex because it’s not cookie-cutter bedroom sex – get creative and act on your impulses. After all, when there’s a will, there’s a way…
Movie theater
Sometimes, during a matinee or a particularly bad flick, the theater is near-empty, so it’s not difficult to find a quiet dark corner to fool around in. The key here is to practice quiet sex as to not draw the attention of the random people in the theater. If you want to up your chances of getting laid, purposely chose a terrible film, like an international subtitled flick – when she gets bored and you start making your advances, you’ll have her undivided attention (that’s why I always wear a skirt to the movies – easy access!).
Backyard/balcony
My balcony has a huge tree in front of it, which offers a lot of privacy. And, given I have very few neighbors (especially ones who stay up late), surprisingly enough I’ve been able to get away with a lot on that public space. Maybe you and your partner are sick of indoor sex and want to move things outside with Mother Nature – find a way to make it happen. You can always seek out a little nook in the backyard, behind the shed, or between the houses for a quickie. The same goes for a well-hidden balcony like mine. You’ll be surprised at how some fresh air can really heighten the sensations.
A closet
If you find yourself pining for your spouse at a public party, check out the closets. Bathrooms can work too but you don’t want to necessarily hold up the one restroom and then exit with your girl in tow (kinda obvious, no?) But no one is checking the closets during a dinner party (except for the coat closet – this should not be an option unless you want to get caught). Bedroom or linen closets offer darkness, privacy, and the ideal setting for sex.
On the roof
Yep, I was once at a birthday party with friends and snuck up to the apartment roof with my partner – it was a warm summer night, no one could see us, and we went at it like two animals. It was incredibly sexy. You can usually find rooftop areas of apartments or restaurants and hotels, the views are amazing, and your groans can echo off the buildings around you.
The office
A lot of people have keys to their offices, so if you’re out somewhere and can’t control your urges, and you’re closer to work than you are home, stop by the office for some corporate desk-humping. Maybe there’s a sexy leather couch in the reception area or a huge table in the conference room.
I was out with an ex-boyfriend and he took me to his office for a quickie. We passionately swept everything off his desk and did the deed on his desk calendar. It was such a turn-on thinking about him returning to his office Monday morning to see the scattered mess and thinking of our exciting romp.
Always thinking of you!
Gabrielle Moore
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Have Great Make-Up Sex
“Elaine, can I just explain something to you very privately here? Susan and I have been together many, many times now, and just between you and me, there’s really no big surprises here, so… make-up sex is all that I have left.” – George Costanza
George is only partially right – he has a reason to be excited about the prospect of make-up sex because, well, make-up sex can be pretty damn good! But he was wrong to say that it’s all he had left, because you have a lot more going on in the bedroom, right? (Thanks to moi!)
There’s something ultra sexy about make-up sex. After you and your partner have a fight, you’ve both had a chance to release your anger or frustration, which can be very freeing. But you’ve also probably gotten yourself worked up in other ways, and having a chance to unleash it on something (you) is a major turn-on. There’s a sense of animalism and raw emotion that takes place during make-up sex, so you want to make sure that you never let this opportunity pass you by. It’s the silver lining to the long-term relationship – you’re inevitably going to disagree, but at least you’ve always got make-up sex to look forward to!
Here are some tips on doing the deed after the storm has passed.
It’s all about the timing
If you and your spouse are in the midst of World War III and you try to cop a feel, you may want to duck! Make-up sex comes after the argument once you’ve both made up (hence the name of this forgiving act). So don’t try for the make-up sex until after the disagreement is over.
Let bygones be bygones
While part of your erection may be from the fact that you actually won this spat and got her to apologize, do not say anything more about this during sex. Things like “I’m so glad you were able to see things my way” or “Thank you for saying you were sorry” will be an immediate buzz kill. Resist the urge to gloat. Make-up sex means all has been forgiven – don’t rock the boat at this point. Just go with the flow.
Be just good enough
Your wife would kill me for letting you in on this little secret, but I’m here to help you, so here it goes: you always want to excite and pleasure your wife – that’s a given. But you also don’t want to pull out any extra stops during make-up sex, and I’ll tell you why: we’ll associate great sex with heated arguments, so if you’re looking to avoid a repeat offense next week, give her just the right moves to make her cum, but save the mind-blowing orgasms for another time.
Make-up sex is charged with lots of energy and can be a great way to “decompress” after a disagreement. Life’s too short to dwell on why she was being pissy with you or why you always leave your wet towel on the bathroom floor – get over it (and under her) and move on already!
Kisses!
Gabrielle Moore
Turn Her On In The Morning
“Men wake up aroused in the morning. We can’t help it. We just wake up and we want you. And the women are thinking, ‘How can he want me the way I look in the morning?’ It’s because we can’t see you. We have no blood anywhere near our optic nerve.” – Andy Rooney
You usually start your day with a hard-on. Most guys do. And us girls know this. We realize you’re raring to go from the moment you open your eyes, however when we wake up, we usually feel fuzzy, disheveled, and pretty non-sexy… at first.
Curling up behind us and thrusting yourself into our backs is not always the best “move.” Sure, it might get us aroused one in 30 times (sometimes 50), but it’s certainly not the most exciting way to come on to us. So here are some ways you can turn her on in the morning.
Kisses
If you both haven’t had a chance to brush your teeth or swish with some mouthwash, you may want to avoid deep-throat kissing first thing in the morning, but that doesn’t mean you can’t kiss her softly on the lips, cheek, earlobes, neck, arm, etc., etc. Give her some affection – help her wake up slowly and get those juices flowing. Sometimes a gentle kiss on my shoulder or the inside of my wrist, or a caress on my thigh or down my back, is enough to get me wet and willing.
Never, ever under-estimate the value of a simple kiss.
Undress
Married couples take a lot of shortcuts with their sex life. One of the worst is not undressing fully (you know you’ve done the deed in your black dress socks!) So in the morning, take the time to get into the buff. Let her wake up by feeling your bare skin against her body. Then start undressing her as well. There’s no need to rush – it’s the morning and she’s just waking up, so slip her clothes off slowly and seductively.
Then, hold her. Let that skin-on-skin contact bring you both to arousal.
Be playful!
Sex doesn’t always have to be so serious, especially wake-up sex. Sneak under the covers for a little sub-thermal-blanket fondling. Have a pillow fight. Use a feather to tickle her nose. Bring her breakfast in bed (which should really be just about any type of fruit, which you can eat, feed her, or eat off of her).
What a fantastic way to kickstart the day – with a good romp! Turn her on in the morning by waking her up slowly, seductively, and even playfully, and put a hop in both of your steps all day long.
Ta-ta for now!
Gabrielle Moore
