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Bring Out Her Wild Side
“Sex sould be wild. Unfettered and free. We’re animals, aren’t we? And, basically, we’re all wolves in sheep’s fur.” – Unknown
Every woman has an inner wild side that she’s just waiting to unleash. Even the shiest ones have a secret prowess – they just need to reach a level of comfort and trust in order to reveal it. And once they do, look out!
I know the adage is true: guys want a lady in the street and a freak in the bed. And we want to show our men how unadulterated, naughty, and free we can be between the sheets. So it’s a win-win for everybody! It’s just a matter of creating a sexual as well as a comfortable environment for experimentation.
You go first
If being racy and carefree in the bedroom is something you’ve both been avoiding, then someone has to be willing to dive in and go first. And I think the guy should lead by example. Show your partner that you’re willing to be vulnerable and daring, and then hopefully, she’ll be willing to return the favor.
Say something particularly X-rated to set the mood (“I can’t wait to make you cum” or “You make my cock so hard”). Just hearing these naughty actions put into words will be enough to excite her.
Then kiss her deeply and passionately. Caress her breasts and move your hands slowly down her body. Give her some physical cues that will heighten the pleasure.
Take control of the situation at first to test the waters and see how she reacts. It will give her time to get into the mood and start letting her inhibitions go. When a guy shows me that he’s aroused by some dirty talk, it’s often the invitation I need to start teasing him orally back (with my words, not my mouth… just yet).
Relinquish control
I can say from personal experience that I like being both in control in the bedroom as well as being submissive. And I would say that guys feel the same way. So, since you’ve already gotten the ball rolling (no pun intended), it’s time to let her have a go at controlling things.
I have some girlfriends who feel self-conscious about dirty talk because they don’t know what to say. So make things easier on her – ask your partner, “Tell me what you want to do to me” or “Does that feel good?” A little coaxing could help draw her out of her shell.
Then suggest a little dominating – maybe she’d be willing to blindfold you or tie you up. While you’re in one of these “vulnerable” positions, she can easily take the reins and explore your body on her terms. She’ll thrive off of the power of being on top of you, kissing and touching and stroking, while you’re either in the dark or restrained.
Take your time
Nothing is more of a turn-off than feeling like you’re being rushed. If you truly want to bring out her wild side, then you need to take your time and work your way up to bigger and better things.
It’s not unusual for spontaneity to have seeped out of a marriage, and for many of you, this could be your first experiment with unbridled passion in years. If your partner is feeling rushed, she may withdraw (although, in the right setting, a rushed romp can be exciting too). So make sure that your wild antics are reserved for sex sessions where you have time to explore each other slowly and thoroughly. These are no shortcuts here.
Hugs and kisses!
Gabrielle Moore
Steamy Shower Sex Secrets Revealed
“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” – Carl W. Buechner
The shower is an erotic haven, with warm water, slippery suds and all that steamy heat. It’s like an instant set-up for great sex. The right position might be a tad tricky to master at first (I’ve got lots of tips for you below), but once you’ve got the logistics figured out, her groans and screams will be echoing off the tiled walls.
There are a bevy of stimulating sensations in the shower, which will cut your work in half. So get that water running, get your clothes off, and submerge yourself in the pure enjoyment of steamy shower sex.
Something to lean on
A lot of today’s homes are built with stand-up showers, meaning no bathtub ledge to prop yourself up on. If your partner isn’t flexible enough to rest a leg on your shoulder or have you hold it, then bend her over. If you’re still crammed for space, there are a wide range of shower benches that are sold at most hardware stores (and she’ll love it because it will give her somewhere to sit when she shaves her legs- an added plus!)
Work with the water
Water is not a long-lasting lubricant, but it does allow for easier, smoother caressing, stroking, and movement in general. Let your hands slide up and down her body. Lap the water off her neck and shoulders. Let your tongue suck the water off her breasts.
Also, if you’ve ever been hesitant about giving her oral sex (or she’s had apprehensions about going down on you), or if you’ve been looking for a “safer” venue to experiment with anal stimulation, the flowing, warm water presents a unique opportunity to work with a clean area as well as have the water dilute any natural secretions.
Lather up
Soap is fun for all sorts of reasons – it gives you a great excuse to lather her up and let your hands glide over every square inch of her body, it’s slippery and stimulating, and believe it or not, all those yummy scents that body washes come in can add to the overall steamy shower sex experience.
Give her a good rub down. Wash her hair. Hell, even break out one of those poofy sponges. Don’t leave one inch of her unexplored.
A quick word of warning: Soap should never (ever) go inside of her. When you’re using soap down there, proceed with caution. And for God’s sake, soap is not a lube.
Use the shower head to your advantage
That’s right – a removable shower head is a girl’s best friend. We don’t take long showers because we’re doing facials and exfoliating (although that’s what we tell you) – a removable shower head, especially the ones with multiple settings, are a treat all their own.
So why not take advantage of this bathroom-fixture-slash-sex-toy? First use it to massage her scalp, then slowly move it down her neck, across her shoulders and down the length of her spine. Then ever so gently bring it up between her legs while kissing her. Use it in a back-and-forth or circular motion. Change the settings on the showerhead to create different pulsations. She’ll love the exciting sensations it will create!
It’s warm, wet and fun! And that’s why we women (ahem, I) are such fans of steamy shower sex!
Much love!
Gabrielle Moore
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Techniques To Excite Her (Without Touching Her)
“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it.” – Anonymous
Sex isn’t always about the rubbing and petting – it’s about that connection, at least for us ladies. While it’s true that sex can sometimes be just about the physicality of it all, women find it easier to engage in steamy sex when they feel that they’re connecting with their partner on a higher level. We thrive off of non-verbal cues. A quick wink or sly smile can make our panties wet (it’s the truth!)
Be vocal
Speak up! Tell her what you’re fantasizing about, what you love that she does to you, what you love to do to her. Hearing these devious acts put into actual words can be a major turn-on (just plan on what you’re going to say before you blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. And don’t be too smutty, unless your wife is that kinda gal, like moi!)
Act it out
Feeling turned on? Touch yourself while you catch her gaze across the room. Give her a mischievous wink. Lick or bite your lip ever so slightly.
When I know a guy is turned on just by looking at him, it gets my juices flowing. So don’t be shy to capitalize on these cues.
A naughty message
Busy lives translate into not having a lot of time for foreplay and to build up the momentum. I get that. So why not send your wife a dirty text, email, or even picture? A guy I was seeing once sent me on my phone an up-close shot of his soldier at full attention while I was at work – I don’t have to tell you how quickly I raced home that afternoon!
Go back to basics
Remember when you and your wife were first dating – there was all that lovey dovey stuff, with the hand-holding, the long gazes, the little expressions of affection? We thrive off of that. Try and recall the simple things you would do to get your wife all smitten, like a look across a room, and go back to the basics.
Sometimes, a guy being vulnerable enough to wink at me is the thing that sounds off bells in my head (not to mention elsewhere).
Whisper in her ear
A woman’s ears are highly sensitive to a variety of sensations, so the sound of you quietly relaying a message to her along with the warm feeling of your breath will send shivers down her spine. Afterward, gently blow on her neck. Then, well, brace yourself!
MWAH!
Gabrielle Moore
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