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How to Shave Her… Down There…
So you’d like your lady to be a little smoother down there, and you’re more than happy to help her get smooth. But you have no idea how to do it.
Well, you’ve come to the right place. Shaving a woman is very different from shaving yourself. Women are built differently; their skin generally more sensitive and so shaving her mound is very different from shaving your face.
So, what’s it all about? It’s about comfort, safety and sexiness. Yes, there’s a real element of sex when you shave a woman, and the two of you might enjoy some of your best sex ever after she’s shaved… and you’re undoubtedly turned on.
Genital Shaving 101
First, don’t take your razor to her privates and assume that’s going to be just fine. You should have the following items handy at your side.
- A woman’s razor (non electric);
- women’s shaving cream (something that’s formulated for sensitive skin);
- a light moisturizer.
Now, it’s best to do this in the shower or bathtub. Let her soak in the bath water, or get nice and wet under the shower. This helps to open her pores and makes it less likely that you’ll cut her or she’ll experience any discomfort afterwards.
Of course, taking a shower or bath together can also lead to things other than shaving, so enjoy that. I sure won’t mind if you put off the shaving for another time!
If you don’t want to do this in the tub or shower, you can shave her while she’s lying on the bed. Be sure to place a blanket or towel down first, and have a bowl of warm water nearby. This might be more comfortable for her, and it might be easier for you to really see what you’re doing (and enjoy the view at the same time).
Safety First
Remember that shaving her is not like shaving yourself. You are shaving her most private and sensitive area, so it’s critical that you remember to keep a light touch and shave first WITH the hair and then AGAINST the hair. This will ensure that you shave the hair right down to the quick, but you don’t irritate the area while doing it.
Although we’ll go into some step-by-step tips in a minute, it’s important to remind you that when you get near her lips, you must be very careful. That’s some of the most sensitive skin on a woman’s body and it can easily get nicked or cut.
Genital Shaving is Sexy!
For many couples, shaving is a form of foreplay and can lead to a fun time in bed afterwards so be sure to add some sexiness to the act of shaving her.
You might caress her before you begin shaving. Kiss her and finger her a bit. As you shave her, make meaningful eye contact and gently caress her legs, her behind, and her thighs. Tell her how beautiful she is.
Now, as to the actual shaving…
- Make sure you have all your needed items at hand.
- Decide where you want to do this – bathtub or shower, or on the bed.
- If she hasn’t shaved in some time, use small scissors to first trim away the longer bits of hair before you begin shaving.
- Apply a small amount of women’s shaving cream, being careful not to let any get into her vagina, where it could cause irritation or an infection.
- Begin shaving with the growth of the hair first. Then go back and shave against the growth of the hair. You’ll get more hair when you shave against the growth, as you likely know, but it’s best to start by shaving with the growth of the hair, and then going against. This helps you adjust to the feel of shaving a woman’s mound and it gets rid of some hair right off the top. Keep alternating to get the cleanest shave.
- Once you have cleaned the bulk of the area up, head inside her lips just a bit. A few stray hairs can remain, and to shave them you should be very gentle and detail-oriented. Just carefully shave them out so that her entire area is smooth and clean.
- Put a small amount of moisturizing lotion on your hand and hold it there for a minute to get warm, and then gently slather this on your woman’s area.
- From here, you can do whatever suits you. For many couples, a clean and smooth mound is a sexy mound, so have some fun with it!
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Six Ways Guaranteed to Get Her Turned On!
If your woman says she’s tired or has a headache and isn’t in the mood for sex, don’t question her. The worst thing you can do is question that she’s’ not feeling well or just too tired to get frisky.
The best thing you can do, by contrast, is to have some sympathy, some compassion. But you can mix that compassion with a desire to get her turned on. Sometimes women are tired and just think that having sex is too much effort, but once they begin to get turned on, they forget they’re tired, they forget the headache.
So, how can you turn your woman on when she’s convinced that she can’t be turned on?
Top 6 Tips to Turn Your Woman On…
1. Take some of the workload away.
Argue all you want, but the truth is women carry more of the workload at home. Most women do the bulk of the cooking, the cleaning and the child rearing. Often they pay the bills, handle the social calendar and oversee home renovations and decorating. Hey, we’re busy!
If you want to help your woman relax, offer to do some of the work for her one night. Offer to cook, or bring dinner home. If you have children, tell her you’ll be the one to give them baths and get them in bed. She can rest and read a magazine.
Not only will you help her with her fatigue if you do these things, but you’ll make her appreciate you, which often puts women in the mood to show you how much she appreciates it?
2. Run a bath for her.
You’re horny as can be, but she’s saying she’s tired, has a backache, and a headache. Run her a bath, complete with bubbles and perhaps even some soothing, sexy music. Then leave her alone. Let her relax and soak up the pleasure of the bath. Not only will she appreciate you for doing this for her, but the bath will help her to relax and it might even rid her of her headache.
If she’s amenable, you might want to offer to wash her back or wash her hair. Both can be sensual and sexy. You might turn her on just through the sheer pleasure of either activity, which can lead from a relaxing massage to a sexual massage. Hey, you never know.
3. Offer her a drink.
You might do this while she’s in the tub, but the idea here is to help her relax. Now, we don’t suggest using alcohol as a crutch, but if she has a healthy (non-addictive) relationship with alcohol, then by all means, offer her a cocktail or a glass of wine.
The alcohol will help her relax, forget problems and focus on other things (which, you hope, will be lovemaking).
4. Give her a massage.
Again, just offering this will give her some appreciation for your generous nature, but you can turn this into a sensual massage by using oils, or just by giving her a slow, full body massage. Don’t be obvious (such as constantly having your hands and fingers foray into ‘sensitive’ areas on her body), but you can use gentle strokes to remind her that you’re there.
Also, don’t ask for a massage in return! This is about a non-reciprocal arrangement designed to help her relax, to get her in the mood for lovemaking.
5. Offer to cuddle with her.
Sometimes when women are feeling tired, or they are in the midst of a killer headache, they forget how therapeutic the human touch can be.
But if you know how to cuddle her correctly, you can help her forget those concerns and focus on you. Offer to let her lay on you while you watch TV or a movie she likes. Gently caress her head (not so much, though, that she falls asleep) and gently fondle her breasts. Don’t do it like you intend for that fondling to go further, but rather do it because you enjoy it. If you are gentle, you’ll soon notice that her body will automatically react to you.
6. Watch an adult-rated movie.
Yes, this is the most obvious of all the tips I’m offering to get her in the mood, but hear me out – the right x-rated movie can make a woman want to make love sooner than you think.
If you choose the movie wisely (tip: we’re suckers for romantic, adult-rated movies), you create an environment where she can realize and say, “Oh, yeah, sex IS fun. Let’s do it.” It might sound simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how effective this method can be.
One caveat about this tip, however – be sure that it’s OK with her to watch a romantic, yet adult movie tonight. If you just turn it on, you run the risk of completely turning her off. This has to be something you talk to her about first.
Alright! Use these tips the next time your woman says she’s just too tired, or has too much of a headache to make love. You could do all six of our tips in one night (which will surely lead to some fun) or you might incorporate only one or two, holding the others for another time. Either way there’s a good chance your woman will respond favorably.
How to Give Her a Genital Massage
If you want to move into the spiritual end of things when in bed with your woman, consider learning how to give her a genital massage.
Common as part of tantric sex activities, genital massage is referred to as “yoni massage”. “Yoni” is the Sanskrit word for vagina or loosely defined, “sacred space”. Genital massage, then, is often called “yoni massage”.
Here’s how to give your partner a yoni massage. You don’t need to perform this perfectly. The idea here is to bring your lover pleasure, and if you are being gentle, loving and giving, you’ll also bring her that desired and deserved pleasure.
Comfort First!
First, make sure that she is comfortable. Place a large pillow behind her head. Ideally, she should be able to see you and make eye contact with you and also see her genitals.
Because the idea here is complete relaxation for her, make sure she’s completely comfortable. Often, there will be a soft blanket or towel placed under the hips. This will give her some comfort, especially if her legs are drawn up a bit. For her to fully enjoy a yoni massage, she must be totally relaxed and comfortable.
It should be a given that she’ll lie on her back with her genitals exposed. She should have her legs far enough apart that you can easily see her genitals and can have easy access to them.
Starting the Sensual Massage
Once she’s fully comfortable, begin massaging her body. Gently and lightly massage her breasts, her stomach, her legs and her feet. Do this gently and with a soft smile. There’s no need to be talking. This is about her relaxation and too much chatter will distract her from fully relaxing.
When you give a genital massage, you are only giving a massage and expecting nothing in return. That means you might not have the favor returned. This is useful in two ways – you are more likely to focus just on her and her pleasure if you know that your own pleasure isn’t at stake, and it allows her to fully relax knowing this is all about her.
Make solid and meaningful conversation with her as you begin and complete the massage. This isn’t chatter, but a ‘give and take conversation’ as she tells you what feels good. This is a way for the two of you to really connect, so take it seriously and enjoy the process.
It’s also important to know, as you begin the massage, that the goal of genital massage isn’t orgasm. Often that will be the end result, but it’s not a requirement.
Some women will simply soak up the attention and the good sensations without ever coming near orgasm; others will orgasm, perhaps more than once. Much depends on your woman’s personal threshold. Genital massage is often used for women who have a hard time reaching orgasm as it allows them to relax and learn to enjoy the sensations.
The Genital Massage
Now that your woman is relaxed, you can move more fully into the genital part of the massage. Here’s how:
Start by putting some lube on her. You can use some high-quality massage oil, or a lube you get from the drug store. The brand doesn’t matter. Don’t use too much; you just want to lightly lubricate the area. Now gently begin massaging her genital lips.
Watch her reactions. As she enjoys something, do it more and ask her to tell you what feels good. Again, avoid chatter for the sake of chatter, but do let her tell you how she’s feeling and what you can do more of.
After you have gently massaged the lips (even occasionally pinching them together, again lightly), you can move onto massaging the clitoris. This area of the woman’s body is extremely sensitive, so sensitive that most experts agree it’s three to four times more sensitive than the most sensitive part of a man’s anatomy, the glans.
Focus some attention here, but again, be gentle. Your objective here is to give her pleasure, but gentle pleasure. You’re not digging in looking for an orgasm. You’re looking to bring relaxation and pleasure.
Now insert one or two fingers in her and find her G spot. You can lightly massage it, flick it with your finger, or move your finger up and down on it. Continue massaging her outer parts as you do this.
Some women will tolerate a pinky finger in their ‘backdoor’. This, combined with the gentle yoni massage, is intensely pleasurable for some women. Again, let her guide you and be sure to respond appropriately to the clues she gives you.
Though, as we’ve said, the primary goal here isn’t orgasm, many women will find their orgasm during the process of genital massage. If yours does, let her enjoy that orgasm and then gently continue massaging her if she wants. Some women will have multiple orgasms this way, so give her time and space.
Once she has either had orgasm, or you both have relaxed and enjoyed the process, remain close to her. Cuddle or hold her if she wants.
And then pat yourself on the back! Giving a woman a genital massage is as much about her pleasure as your desire to give. Your generosity will be remembered and appreciated. Count on it!
