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TWO Small Routines for Big Orgasms
Sometimes, it’s not always the BIG MOVES that make for the greatest orgasms. It’s all about how you are both mentally stimulated during lovemaking. Well, the following moves may be simple but they can provide really erotic experiences for the couples willing to try them.
Kegel Moves. A Kegel exercise aims to strengthen ones pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). Both men and women have this muscle. For men, it is said that strengthening or having better control of the PC muscle can delay ejaculation. For women, having strong PC muscles can prevent urinary incontinence (involuntary peeing) during old age and can aid during childbirth.
A Kegel exercise is easy to do. In fact, you’ve probably already done it without realizing it. It’s what you do when you try to staunch the flow of your urine mid-way.
Now what about the sex part, you ask? Well, imagine your girlfriend / wife contracting her PC muscles… while you are inside her. The fun part is that if she does Kegel exercises a lot, you will feel as if her womanhood is literally gripping your penis, in an un-painful erotic way of course.
Further, a ‘tight fit’ during sex makes for better friction on your manhood as you penetrate and thrust, which is of course great for lovemaking!
So start doing those Kegel moves. They are easy to do; you don’t need to invest in any equipment whatsoever and pretty soon, you and your lover will be rocking your sex life to a new level.
Deep Breathing. Studies show that people in general breathe very shallowly. We take fast intakes of breath and just as quickly expel the air. Proper breathing is to take long deep breaths, almost drawing the air right down the pit of your stomach and exhaling just as slowly. Proper breathing oxygenates your blood, which increases your body’s energy levels.
Now what about the sex part, you ask? Well, isn’t it that when things get hot and frantic you tend to breathe shallowly… and thus get tired? If you practice deep breathing till it comes naturally to you, it’s like giving yourself more energy to last longer in bed!
In fact, deep breathing is a very important part of Tantric sex. It is used to delay orgasms and even to route sexual energy all over the body.
Now, for really great orgasms, combine the two above. Let’s say that you and your partner are now great at deep breathing and Kegel moves.
During sex, have her straddle you (woman on top). As things get really hot, practice deep breathing, making each sexual move oh-so-excruciatingly-deliberate. Add Kegel moves.
Just imagine it! There you are with your manhood positioned in a hot, tight place and each deep breath makes you 10x more aware of what’s happening. And since deep breathing helps delay your orgasm, imagine just how mind-blowing that will be when you guys finally give in.
Enjoy!
For more Tantric tips to for the WILDEST sex ever, click here!
Why Women ‘Fake It’
The other day I got an email from a subscriber.
He asked me WHY women fake orgasms. You see, he caught his lover self-pleasuring herself after they just made love!
He was perplexed because she was just shouting ‘yessssss!’ a couple of minutes ago in bed. So he asked her and she finally confessed that she actually didn’t come during their lovemaking session.
So for all you who are puzzled why women fake it, read on to find out why and what to do about it.
She doesn’t want YOU to feel bad.
Women are such loving and giving creatures, aren’t they? Since we know that men equate sex with power and pretty much what makes a man a man, most women will fake it to avoid making their partners feel bad.
Admit it; men get an ego boost when they can really pleasure a woman. And WE know this. So instead of making our partners feel inadequate in bed, we’d rather pretend an orgasm to protect our lovers’ self-confidence.
Of course, there IS a flaw to this way of thinking. Women are as responsible about their orgasms as men are. However, society has not brought us up this way.
Traditionally, it’s up to men to make us women feel good in bed and so in many cases today, both genders try to (falsely) cater to this mentality.
She feels bad about not coming.
For the women who already acknowledge that they too are responsible for their climaxes, not being able to do so is kind of a blow to our ego too!
Some may even think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them physically so instead of trying to find the answer, they ‘fake it’ to avoid addressing the fact that they cannot climax.
She does not want to stop having sex with you.
Another reason why women fake it is because they do NOT want to stop sexual relations with you. You see, for women, it’s not always about orgasms. It’s about connecting and having a great relationship. For women, these two don’t necessarily mean reaching an orgasm.
So instead of disappointing your expectations in bed, which can make you feel less prone to have sex, women will ‘fake it’ to encourage sex to continue.
What men – and women – should understand is that an orgasm should not be the sole objective of sex. If this is how you look at lovemaking then you’re setting yourselves up for disappointment. You can do darn well without that pressure of having to reach a climax all the time.
On the other hand, it shouldn’t be that she never reaches an orgasm during sex or fakes it 100% of the time.
You should both explore the things that can make her reach a climax. The techniques you learn and apply may work on some days and not on other days… and that should be OK for both of you.
Tantric Bonding
I’ve covered Tantric Sex quite a few times and I always mention that with Tantric Sex, it’s not always about reaching a climax. It’s about connecting with your girlfriend / wife in the deepest, most sensual sense.
Tantric Intimacy 101
Like many things, taking the first step is the hardest, more so with Tantric sex because a lot of people have this ill-conceived notion that Tantric sex is corny. You know all that Tantric meditation, Tantric breathing, etc.
However, here’s the truth; most couples who give Tanta an honest try end up completely following this sensual lifestyle because they realize that it enables them to experience so much more pleasure out of life: emotionally, spiritually and yes, physically. So read on and find out simple ways you can start practicing Tantric intimacy.
Firstly, set the right mood/ambiance. You cannot tune out chaos if it’s staring you right in the face so to get in the right frame of mind, be sure to spend some time creating romantic atmosphere. This can be as simple as de-cluttering your bedroom, putting on new silk sheets, lighting scented candles and playing a romantic CD.
Next, reach out to your lover and give her a slow and sensual massage. This does not have to be a long drawn out massage session. It’s simply important to establish connection between your bodies.
Undress your partner and yourself. Put some massage oil on your hands and rub your palms together to create heat. Run your warm hands all over here from head to toe. Do this to establish physical connection and to relax your senses. You can ask her to do the same or simply wait your turn next time.
Now, lay your naked body on top of her. Be careful not to apply your whole weight on her by supporting your weight on your arms. Take DEEP BREATHS together and then start rubbing your body against hers.
All this time just be quiet. Just listen to the music, mind the smell of the scented oils, and breathe deeply with your lover.
Next, turn her over so that she faces you. Do exactly the same thing; listen to the music, pay attention to the smell of the scented oils, and breathe deeply with your lover. Rub your body against her slowly but deliberately.
Take her wrists in your hands and lift her arms straight over her head, exposing her breasts completely to you. Rub your chest against hers.
Nudge her knees apart and position yourself between her. Breathe deeply together and continue to just rub your manhood against hers.
By this time you probably already have a mighty erection and she’s probably already very turned on as well. You can proceed to making love or continue to tantalize each other.
The beauty of this Tantric intimacy session is that you can make it last for as long as you guys want!
For more Tantric tips to for the WILDEST sex ever, click here!
