Kegel Moves. A Kegel exercise aims to strengthen ones pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). Both men and women have this muscle. For men, it is said that strengthening or having better control of the PC muscle can delay ejaculation. For women, having strong PC muscles can prevent urinary incontinence (involuntary peeing) during old age and can aid during childbirth.

A Kegel exercise is easy to do. In fact, you’ve probably already done it without realizing it. It’s what you do when you try to staunch the flow of your urine mid-way.

Now what about the sex part, you ask? Well, imagine your girlfriend / wife contracting her PC muscles… while you are inside her. The fun part is that if she does Kegel exercises a lot, you will feel as if her womanhood is literally gripping your penis, in an un-painful erotic way of course.

Further, a ‘tight fit’ during sex makes for better friction on your manhood as you penetrate and thrust, which is of course great for lovemaking!

So start doing those Kegel moves. They are easy to do; you don’t need to invest in any equipment whatsoever and pretty soon, you and your lover will be rocking your sex life to a new level.

Deep Breathing. Studies show that people in general breathe very shallowly. We take fast intakes of breath and just as quickly expel the air. Proper breathing is to take long deep breaths, almost drawing the air right down the pit of your stomach and exhaling just as slowly. Proper breathing oxygenates your blood, which increases your body’s energy levels.

Now what about the sex part, you ask? Well, isn’t it that when things get hot and frantic you tend to breathe shallowly… and thus get tired? If you practice deep breathing till it comes naturally to you, it’s like giving yourself more energy to last longer in bed!

In fact, deep breathing is a very important part of Tantric sex. It is used to delay orgasms and even to route sexual energy all over the body.

Now, for really great orgasms, combine the two above. Let’s say that you and your partner are now great at deep breathing and Kegel moves.

During sex, have her straddle you (woman on top). As things get really hot, practice deep breathing, making each sexual move oh-so-excruciatingly-deliberate. Add Kegel moves.

Just imagine it! There you are with your manhood positioned in a hot, tight place and each deep breath makes you 10x more aware of what’s happening. And since deep breathing helps delay your orgasm, imagine just how mind-blowing that will be when you guys finally give in.

Enjoy!

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He asked me WHY women fake orgasms. You see, he caught his lover self-pleasuring herself after they just made love!

He was perplexed because she was just shouting ‘yessssss!’ a couple of minutes ago in bed. So he asked her and she finally confessed that she actually didn’t come during their lovemaking session.

So for all you who are puzzled why women fake it, read on to find out why and what to do about it.

She doesn’t want YOU to feel bad.
Women are such loving and giving creatures, aren’t they? Since we know that men equate sex with power and pretty much what makes a man a man, most women will fake it to avoid making their partners feel bad.

Admit it; men get an ego boost when they can really pleasure a woman. And WE know this. So instead of making our partners feel inadequate in bed, we’d rather pretend an orgasm to protect our lovers’ self-confidence.

Of course, there IS a flaw to this way of thinking. Women are as responsible about their orgasms as men are. However, society has not brought us up this way.

Traditionally, it’s up to men to make us women feel good in bed and so in many cases today, both genders try to (falsely) cater to this mentality.

She feels bad about not coming.
For the women who already acknowledge that they too are responsible for their climaxes, not being able to do so is kind of a blow to our ego too!

Some may even think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them physically so instead of trying to find the answer, they ‘fake it’ to avoid addressing the fact that they cannot climax.

She does not want to stop having sex with you.
Another reason why women fake it is because they do NOT want to stop sexual relations with you. You see, for women, it’s not always about orgasms. It’s about connecting and having a great relationship. For women, these two don’t necessarily mean reaching an orgasm.

So instead of disappointing your expectations in bed, which can make you feel less prone to have sex, women will ‘fake it’ to encourage sex to continue.

What men – and women – should understand is that an orgasm should not be the sole objective of sex. If this is how you look at lovemaking then you’re setting yourselves up for disappointment. You can do darn well without that pressure of having to reach a climax all the time.

On the other hand, it shouldn’t be that she never reaches an orgasm during sex or fakes it 100% of the time.

You should both explore the things that can make her reach a climax. The techniques you learn and apply may work on some days and not on other days… and that should be OK for both of you.

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Tantric Intimacy 101

Like many things, taking the first step is the hardest, more so with Tantric sex because a lot of people have this ill-conceived notion that Tantric sex is corny. You know all that Tantric meditation, Tantric breathing, etc.

However, here’s the truth; most couples who give Tanta an honest try end up completely following this sensual lifestyle because they realize that it enables them to experience so much more pleasure out of life: emotionally, spiritually and yes, physically. So read on and find out simple ways you can start practicing Tantric intimacy.

Firstly, set the right mood/ambiance. You cannot tune out chaos if it’s staring you right in the face so to get in the right frame of mind, be sure to spend some time creating romantic atmosphere. This can be as simple as de-cluttering your bedroom, putting on new silk sheets, lighting scented candles and playing a romantic CD.

Next, reach out to your lover and give her a slow and sensual massage. This does not have to be a long drawn out massage session. It’s simply important to establish connection between your bodies.

Undress your partner and yourself. Put some massage oil on your hands and rub your palms together to create heat. Run your warm hands all over here from head to toe. Do this to establish physical connection and to relax your senses. You can ask her to do the same or simply wait your turn next time.

Now, lay your naked body on top of her. Be careful not to apply your whole weight on her by supporting your weight on your arms. Take DEEP BREATHS together and then start rubbing your body against hers.

All this time just be quiet. Just listen to the music, mind the smell of the scented oils, and breathe deeply with your lover.

Next, turn her over so that she faces you. Do exactly the same thing; listen to the music, pay attention to the smell of the scented oils, and breathe deeply with your lover. Rub your body against her slowly but deliberately.

Take her wrists in your hands and lift her arms straight over her head, exposing her breasts completely to you. Rub your chest against hers.

Nudge her knees apart and position yourself between her. Breathe deeply together and continue to just rub your manhood against hers.

By this time you probably already have a mighty erection and she’s probably already very turned on as well. You can proceed to making love or continue to tantalize each other.

The beauty of this Tantric intimacy session is that you can make it last for as long as you guys want!

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Well, good communication is extremely important here as you can easily hurt each other’s feelings. However, keep in mind that it’s always better to address an issue like this. As you probably know, most women love oral sex so if you avoid this, it’s not beneficial to your sexual relationship at all.

How to Make Oral Sex Pleasurable for Both of You

If ‘smell’ is the issue it can all be just a matter of timing. For instance, if your girlfriend / wife normally takes her bath in the morning, then by the time you make love at night, things can be not so fresh.

You can remedy this by making love in the mornings every now and then. Not a morning person? Do this instead: engage in some very passionate kissing and then lead your lover to the bathroom for a quick shower. This will ensure that things are clean and fresh down there!

If ‘taste’ is the issue, this requires a bit more finesse in addressing. I guess it comes as no surprise that FOOD plays an important role in how one’s bodily fluids taste. As such, whatever the taste down there, this can be positively influenced by simply making a few food intake changes.

1. Do you or your lover drink tons of coffee? Some speculate that drinking too much coffee gives bodily fluids a bitter taste. If this is the case with you and/or your lover, cut down on caffeine!
2. Love garlic in your food? Well, I’m sure you know that eating garlic-laden food is never a good idea for a first date to avoid garlic breath so imagine what constantly eating garlic can do to the taste of your ‘body juices’. Apart from garlic, you may also want to cut down on onions, cauliflower and pretty much any type of food that have high sulphur content.
3. Smoking can also contribute to bad taste down there. Personally, I hate the smell of smoke on a man and find that he tends to smell ‘smoky’ – not in a good way – down there too when he smokes. So if you have this issue with your lover, perhaps you can influence her to cut down on smoking too.

If you’re after a SWEET taste then load up your lover with fruits! Pineapples, melons and mangoes are said to be great at affecting at how women taste down there. Cinnamon is said to be great too.

Lastly, DRINK A LOT OF WATER. Water helps flush out toxins in the body and this of course helps to ‘clear’ the smell and taste of bodily fluids too.

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For example, she may hate the idea of a specific sex position but after watching a particularly enticing adult movie, she may reconsider. Oftentimes, just being open to such new things in bed is really what keeps relationships HOT.

However, as in many things in life, there’s always a pro and a con to previewing adult entertainment so do read on and be warned.

Warning: Adult Entertainment Disadvantages

You may actually turn her OFF trying new things in bed.
It all depends on how exposed your lover is to adult entertainment prior watching them with you. If she’s NEVER watched porn before, then watching a triple X-rated adult movie may be too much that she gets turned off watching porn again with you. Furthermore, the ‘shock’ may be too much that any suggestions on your part to try something ‘new’ in bed will be flatly turned down because she thinks that the kind of ‘sex adventures’ you like are the triple X-rated variety.

The solution to this dilemma is easy, KNOW your lover and adjust the level of initial previews of adult entertainment accordingly. You can increase the level of sexuality as you go along; it’s a lot harder to tone it down and try to encourage her to watch again with you if the first viewing is a really bad experience.

You both may have unrealistic expectations about each other in bed.
Don’t forget that adult entertainment calls for a lot of ‘acting’ in front of the camera. So not all those ooohs and aahhhs and yes, yes, yessssss! are true. In fact, one client of mine once told me that he and his lover tried to emulate one ‘scene’ and they ended up really getting annoyed with it. It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t sexy and it turned them off in the end.

My reply to this? At least you tried something new!

Adult entertainment may be ‘fake’ but it DOES give you new ideas to try. So go ahead and watch and get ideas folks.

You may end up substituting adult entertainment for the REAL thing.
One of the main problems I come across with couples watching adult entertainment is that they get addicted to it; so much so that the highlight of late Friday nights (or whatever night) is not making love but watching porn. DON’T let this happen to you and your lover!

At the end of the day, adult entertainment should simply enhance or inspire you on how to spice up your relationship. It should never be something that should replace the real thing.

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If your lover is a bit on the shy side that she can’t loosen up to speak a few dirty words in bed, then it’s your bedroom duty to encourage her!

3 Steps to Talking Dirty in Bed

Tell her it’s va-va-voom sexy.
Sometimes, women don’t like to talk dirty in bed because they don’t want to be thought of as anything less than a ‘lady’. Yes, she’s afraid you’ll think of her as ‘working lady off the street’.

Not true of course but you need to reassure her of this. How? Tell her that it makes you even hornier for her; that you find it SEXY and that it’s a great thing if a women can speak up exactly how she’s feeling inside while you’re… er, inside her.

If she’s clueless, clue her in.
If your partner has never really talked dirty before, she may find it awkward to just start because she does not know what to say. To address this issue, give her something to go on! Bring on the adult publication, and maybe even a soft-core adult movie or two. You may even tell her – without making her feel that you’re dictating what she should say – what you want to hear from her when she’s aroused by you.

Let her know too that it doesn’t have to be rough dirty talk right away. She should just go with what she wants to say. If she needs to start with just ‘louder moans’ before she graduates to ‘yes, lick me there!’, then so be it!

Practice makes perfect.
If she wants to try but not really face-to-face yet, then there’s PHONE SEX. Call her (hey, it doesn’t matter if you’re just in the other room in your home, just do it) and ask leading questions like ‘what are you wearing’, ‘why don’t you take off your…’ , ‘what would you do if I…”.

The goal is to guide her and make her horny. Once she’s aroused, it’s easier for her to loosen up and answer more daring sex questions like ‘where do you want my tongue, exactly?’

Phone sex is actually an excellent way to explore sex with your lover so I suggest you make this a habit in your relationship. For instance, have phone sex and talk dirty at least once a month! Hot! How many of your mates can brag about that?!?

Good luck!

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A lot of men – and women! – actually discover that as time goes on, fire in the bedroom dwindles a bit and sometimes it’s not even due to a lack of desire for sex. It’s about our bodies physically limiting us from performing great in bed. After all, don’t forget that sex IS a cardiovascular activity.

FOUR Things You Should STOP Now to START Better Sex

Being stress-FULL, instead of stress-FREE.
You know, stress is a part of life; so don’t waste time trying to figure out a way to avoid it. Just deal with it and move on to the next stress! I kid honey.

When you are always stressed out, not only is your mind not into the pleasures of sex but you age faster! When you age faster, your body is no longer that flexible and ‘robust’, and in turn, less sex occurs in the bedroom.

So… RELAX. Try to establish a de-stressing habit that works for you. For my lover, he has a ‘space’ in the garage where he has a comfortable ‘man chair’ and small fridge filled with nothing but BEER. Whenever my lover is stressed, he sits there (don’t worry, our garage is insulated), grabs a brew and just ‘chills’.

So find out what de-stressing habit you can come up with and apply it. You’ll be a much cooler dude (but a HOT one in bed) with a habit like this.

Not sleeping enough.
Studies continuously show a direct relation between sleep deprivation and poor bedroom performance. Put simply, if you don’t get enough sleep, you’re not performing 100% during the day. And this translates to a dull performance in bed too. So don’t be Superman and try to accomplish everything in one day. Rest. Relax. Sleep. Tomorrow is another day.

Living ‘chemically’.
By this I mean that you – and you partner – should aim to eat and drink only natural food items. Today’s fast-paced lives are making it fast for us to reach our graves! Stop eating fast food items all the time and drinking sugar-loaded drinks and go back to er… actual cooking and drinking water or freshly squeezed juices.

Store-bought ‘juices’, vitamin supplements, energy drinks, and all these are not natural at all and yet we gladly make them the foundation of our day to day lives. I don’t mean for you to stop and just start eating root crops but take a good and hard look at what you put into your bodies. Often, all these ‘manufactured’ items are all conniving to run down your body and thus, make it hard for you to perform well in bed.

Being a couch potato.
You know what they say, if you’re a couch potato, you’ll end up looking like a spud in no time. Sex is a form of aerobic exercise. If you’re out of breath on a treadmill or cross-trainer in less than 5 minutes… well, it could mean this is your performance time in bed too.

Start exercising. You’ll feel good, look good and have better sex in no time!

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FOUR Ways from Headaches to Orgasms…

Slowly get rid of that headache of hers.
Assuming that you haven’t initiated sex In bed and she just told you she has a headache (so more of the scenario above), then you have a couple of hours still to put her in the mood! Start by helping her de-stress. Tell her there’s no need to cook, you’ll order pizza or Chinese food instead. In fact, tell her to go sit on the couch right this minute and watch her Sex and the City tapes right now!

In short, take the pressure off her and make her comfortable. Before you know it, her he4adache has dissipated and she’s ready for ‘Mr. Big’ in bed.

Honey, sex gets rids of headaches!
Tell her this fact: sex actually gets rid of headaches. During lovemaking, blood flow increases to the brain, which seems to knock off the headache. (Doctors can explain it better technically but you know what I mean).

My good man, give her something to get excited about.
She may not want to have sex NOW due to her headache but perhaps you can persuade her by making her horny indirectly. For instance, get in to bid NAKED. Just do it casually, as if you do it every night. (Yes, like get into bed naked and grab a book to read!)

You can also just go to bed in your pajamas and read an adult magazine; or you can try my favorite: pop in a adult movie and turn the volume low (because she has a headache) but not low enough that she does not hear what’s going on. I’m sure you get my meaning here.

Are there deeper issues?
Last but not the least, do explore if there are any deeper issues here if she seems to have headaches frequently. For instance, perhaps she’s really avoiding having sex but the reason may not be what you think.

A previous client once told me that he was almost certain he’s partner was not into their relationship anymore because she seems to have lost interest in sex, saying she has migraines all the time. When probed further, his lover did not want sex but not because of any shortcomings on his end or that their relationship was no longer good, but because she has gained weight and was loathing making love naked.

So if this ‘headache’ is occurring more than usual, do sit down and talk with your lover.

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6 Hot Ways to Oral Power!

Foreplay is your best friend.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women need to be mentally sexed up first. Foreplay works on so many levels for women: it gets the ‘juices’ flowing even if they are not keen to have sex to begin with, and it greatly helps them reach an orgasm!

So engage in heavy foreplay before you go down on her. This way you shorten the time it takes for her to reach her climax.

Hey, what’s the rush?
A lot of men think that that the faster and harder they lick, the better. Wrong. If you do this all the time, we women feel what is called ‘clit burn’. Yes, that sensitive spot of ours feels like it’s slowly on fire and it can be really uncomfortable and even downright painful for some.

So take it SLOW at different times. Vary the speed, motion and position of your tongue and your partner will be mush under you!

Blow.
Lift your head and slowly blow hot breath on her down there. It’s a great break for your tongue and introduces a whole new sensation for her.

Liquid chocolate.
Ah, the many wonders of liquid chocolate. Take a step back and squirt liquid chocolate on her down there. Squeeze the thick syrup right at the top and let it slowly and agonizingly drip down the length of her. It will driver her nuts!

You have fingers, use them.
It doesn’t always have to be your tongue doing the work; use your fingers too. Use your index finger to graze up and down her inner and outer labia (vaginal folds) and then rub lazy circles around her C-spot. As her clitoris is visibly engorged, you can even use your fingers to GENTLY squeeze or tug at it. You can also use your thumb to gently flick her clitoris back and forth.

Let modern technology help you.
Go ahead bring out her vibrator and use it on her C-spot while you take a much needed break. It doesn’t need to be set on the highest vibrating power at all. Remember, it’s just to keep things going. So put it on ‘gentle mode’ so that she just gets a slight buzz… and then let your tongue do the real thing!

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However, it always seems to be a tad scary whenever someone suddenly pulls out a blindfold during sex. So read on for a few tips on how to get used to the idea of using blindfolds.

Blindfold Bliss

As always, start by discussing with your partner the benefits of trying on blindfolds for sex and reassure her that it should be a fun process if you guys do the following.

Eat with your mouth.
Well, you do eat with your mouth but eating is a visual experience too. So what would happen if you guys ate blindfolded? (By the way, did you know that there are restaurants now in some parts of the world where it’s VERY dark so that when you eat, you hardly see your food? The purpose is of course to heighten the sense of smell and taste.)

So that you don’t harm yourselves in this effort, ensure you have something easy to handle for dinner. (How do fried chicken drumsticks sound? This way, you don’t end up really blinding yourself by accidentally sticking a fork in your eye!) Anyway, you get my meaning.

Eating blindfolded can be a really sense heightening experience so if you start the night this way, you pave the way for a very exhilarating experience in bed.

Blinded by foreplay.
After dinner, fool around on the sofa or in the bedroom, with the blindfolds left on of course. You’ll be amazed at how daring you may even become with the blindfold on. Further, everything will seem like 10 times more erotic! This is because you hardly know what’s next because you cannot see where the other is headed.

Also, can you just imagine how erotic things are when you only rely on your sense of sound? You cannot see her face but all of a sudden those ooohs and ahhhs are a tremendous turn on for you!

Blinded and binded.
Here’s a cool twist, one of you can take of his/her blindfold now… and use it to tie the other to the bed. So, let’s say she was the one who gave up her blindfold, imagine this: you cannot see her and all your hairs are on end because of the deliriously fantastic blowjob she’s giving. HOWEVER, you cannot touch her or grab her head because your hands are tied with the blindfold against the bed post.

Hmmm, I guess you just have to grin and bear the pleasure…

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