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Oral Sex – Smell and Taste the Difference
Do you know that Sex and the City scene where Samantha no longer wanted to perform fellatio on her lover because he didn’t taste so nice? Well, that REALLY opened up a lot sex discussions because truly, what do you do if you don’t like the way your lover smells and tastes down there?
Well, good communication is extremely important here as you can easily hurt each other’s feelings. However, keep in mind that it’s always better to address an issue like this. As you probably know, most women love oral sex so if you avoid this, it’s not beneficial to your sexual relationship at all.
How to Make Oral Sex Pleasurable for Both of You
If ‘smell’ is the issue it can all be just a matter of timing. For instance, if your girlfriend / wife normally takes her bath in the morning, then by the time you make love at night, things can be not so fresh.
You can remedy this by making love in the mornings every now and then. Not a morning person? Do this instead: engage in some very passionate kissing and then lead your lover to the bathroom for a quick shower. This will ensure that things are clean and fresh down there!
If ‘taste’ is the issue, this requires a bit more finesse in addressing. I guess it comes as no surprise that FOOD plays an important role in how one’s bodily fluids taste. As such, whatever the taste down there, this can be positively influenced by simply making a few food intake changes.
1. Do you or your lover drink tons of coffee? Some speculate that drinking too much coffee gives bodily fluids a bitter taste. If this is the case with you and/or your lover, cut down on caffeine!
2. Love garlic in your food? Well, I’m sure you know that eating garlic-laden food is never a good idea for a first date to avoid garlic breath so imagine what constantly eating garlic can do to the taste of your ‘body juices’. Apart from garlic, you may also want to cut down on onions, cauliflower and pretty much any type of food that have high sulphur content.
3. Smoking can also contribute to bad taste down there. Personally, I hate the smell of smoke on a man and find that he tends to smell ‘smoky’ – not in a good way – down there too when he smokes. So if you have this issue with your lover, perhaps you can influence her to cut down on smoking too.
If you’re after a SWEET taste then load up your lover with fruits! Pineapples, melons and mangoes are said to be great at affecting at how women taste down there. Cinnamon is said to be great too.
Lastly, DRINK A LOT OF WATER. Water helps flush out toxins in the body and this of course helps to ‘clear’ the smell and taste of bodily fluids too.
Caution: Adult Entertainment Can Numb Your Sex Life
I often encourage lovers to go ahead and ‘sample’ adult entertainment at home. There are so many benefits to doing this! In addition to majorly spicing up your sex life, you get to open the doors to many sex adventures that you and your girlfriend / wife may not consider before.
For example, she may hate the idea of a specific sex position but after watching a particularly enticing adult movie, she may reconsider. Oftentimes, just being open to such new things in bed is really what keeps relationships HOT.
However, as in many things in life, there’s always a pro and a con to previewing adult entertainment so do read on and be warned.
Warning: Adult Entertainment Disadvantages
You may actually turn her OFF trying new things in bed.
It all depends on how exposed your lover is to adult entertainment prior watching them with you. If she’s NEVER watched porn before, then watching a triple X-rated adult movie may be too much that she gets turned off watching porn again with you. Furthermore, the ‘shock’ may be too much that any suggestions on your part to try something ‘new’ in bed will be flatly turned down because she thinks that the kind of ‘sex adventures’ you like are the triple X-rated variety.
The solution to this dilemma is easy, KNOW your lover and adjust the level of initial previews of adult entertainment accordingly. You can increase the level of sexuality as you go along; it’s a lot harder to tone it down and try to encourage her to watch again with you if the first viewing is a really bad experience.
You both may have unrealistic expectations about each other in bed.
Don’t forget that adult entertainment calls for a lot of ‘acting’ in front of the camera. So not all those ooohs and aahhhs and yes, yes, yessssss! are true. In fact, one client of mine once told me that he and his lover tried to emulate one ‘scene’ and they ended up really getting annoyed with it. It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t sexy and it turned them off in the end.
My reply to this? At least you tried something new!
Adult entertainment may be ‘fake’ but it DOES give you new ideas to try. So go ahead and watch and get ideas folks.
You may end up substituting adult entertainment for the REAL thing.
One of the main problems I come across with couples watching adult entertainment is that they get addicted to it; so much so that the highlight of late Friday nights (or whatever night) is not making love but watching porn. DON’T let this happen to you and your lover!
At the end of the day, adult entertainment should simply enhance or inspire you on how to spice up your relationship. It should never be something that should replace the real thing.
3 Tips to Make Her Talk Dirty
There you are in bed with your girlfriend / wife. You are all hot and horny and you can’t help but talk a bit dirty to your lover. And this is what you get in return: silence. You try again… ‘this is sooo hot baby’. And this is what you get in return: silence. A bit of a downer, huh?
If your lover is a bit on the shy side that she can’t loosen up to speak a few dirty words in bed, then it’s your bedroom duty to encourage her!
3 Steps to Talking Dirty in Bed
Tell her it’s va-va-voom sexy.
Sometimes, women don’t like to talk dirty in bed because they don’t want to be thought of as anything less than a ‘lady’. Yes, she’s afraid you’ll think of her as ‘working lady off the street’.
Not true of course but you need to reassure her of this. How? Tell her that it makes you even hornier for her; that you find it SEXY and that it’s a great thing if a women can speak up exactly how she’s feeling inside while you’re… er, inside her.
If she’s clueless, clue her in.
If your partner has never really talked dirty before, she may find it awkward to just start because she does not know what to say. To address this issue, give her something to go on! Bring on the adult publication, and maybe even a soft-core adult movie or two. You may even tell her – without making her feel that you’re dictating what she should say – what you want to hear from her when she’s aroused by you.
Let her know too that it doesn’t have to be rough dirty talk right away. She should just go with what she wants to say. If she needs to start with just ‘louder moans’ before she graduates to ‘yes, lick me there!’, then so be it!
Practice makes perfect.
If she wants to try but not really face-to-face yet, then there’s PHONE SEX. Call her (hey, it doesn’t matter if you’re just in the other room in your home, just do it) and ask leading questions like ‘what are you wearing’, ‘why don’t you take off your…’ , ‘what would you do if I…”.
The goal is to guide her and make her horny. Once she’s aroused, it’s easier for her to loosen up and answer more daring sex questions like ‘where do you want my tongue, exactly?’
Phone sex is actually an excellent way to explore sex with your lover so I suggest you make this a habit in your relationship. For instance, have phone sex and talk dirty at least once a month! Hot! How many of your mates can brag about that?!?
Good luck!
