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A Healthy Body = Better Bedroom Performance
After some time together, most couples are guilty of letting themselves go. However, once this has a negative effect in the bedroom, I say it’s time to get in control again!
A lot of men – and women! – actually discover that as time goes on, fire in the bedroom dwindles a bit and sometimes it’s not even due to a lack of desire for sex. It’s about our bodies physically limiting us from performing great in bed. After all, don’t forget that sex IS a cardiovascular activity.
FOUR Things You Should STOP Now to START Better Sex
Being stress-FULL, instead of stress-FREE.
You know, stress is a part of life; so don’t waste time trying to figure out a way to avoid it. Just deal with it and move on to the next stress! I kid honey.
When you are always stressed out, not only is your mind not into the pleasures of sex but you age faster! When you age faster, your body is no longer that flexible and ‘robust’, and in turn, less sex occurs in the bedroom.
So… RELAX. Try to establish a de-stressing habit that works for you. For my lover, he has a ‘space’ in the garage where he has a comfortable ‘man chair’ and small fridge filled with nothing but BEER. Whenever my lover is stressed, he sits there (don’t worry, our garage is insulated), grabs a brew and just ‘chills’.
So find out what de-stressing habit you can come up with and apply it. You’ll be a much cooler dude (but a HOT one in bed) with a habit like this.
Not sleeping enough.
Studies continuously show a direct relation between sleep deprivation and poor bedroom performance. Put simply, if you don’t get enough sleep, you’re not performing 100% during the day. And this translates to a dull performance in bed too. So don’t be Superman and try to accomplish everything in one day. Rest. Relax. Sleep. Tomorrow is another day.
Living ‘chemically’.
By this I mean that you – and you partner – should aim to eat and drink only natural food items. Today’s fast-paced lives are making it fast for us to reach our graves! Stop eating fast food items all the time and drinking sugar-loaded drinks and go back to er… actual cooking and drinking water or freshly squeezed juices.
Store-bought ‘juices’, vitamin supplements, energy drinks, and all these are not natural at all and yet we gladly make them the foundation of our day to day lives. I don’t mean for you to stop and just start eating root crops but take a good and hard look at what you put into your bodies. Often, all these ‘manufactured’ items are all conniving to run down your body and thus, make it hard for you to perform well in bed.
Being a couch potato.
You know what they say, if you’re a couch potato, you’ll end up looking like a spud in no time. Sex is a form of aerobic exercise. If you’re out of breath on a treadmill or cross-trainer in less than 5 minutes… well, it could mean this is your performance time in bed too.
Start exercising. You’ll feel good, look good and have better sex in no time!
For more tips to help you achieve great bedroom performance, click here!
What to Do When She ’Has a Headache’
You’ve been thinking about sex ALL DAY. For some reason, you are just really horny today and can’t wait to get home. When you finally go through the door… you sense immediately that your partner is not in the mood. She’s stressed out and relates to you that she’s had a rotten day and currently has a bad headache. There go your ideas for a hot romp down the drain… or not?
FOUR Ways from Headaches to Orgasms…
Slowly get rid of that headache of hers.
Assuming that you haven’t initiated sex In bed and she just told you she has a headache (so more of the scenario above), then you have a couple of hours still to put her in the mood! Start by helping her de-stress. Tell her there’s no need to cook, you’ll order pizza or Chinese food instead. In fact, tell her to go sit on the couch right this minute and watch her Sex and the City tapes right now!
In short, take the pressure off her and make her comfortable. Before you know it, her he4adache has dissipated and she’s ready for ‘Mr. Big’ in bed.
Honey, sex gets rids of headaches!
Tell her this fact: sex actually gets rid of headaches. During lovemaking, blood flow increases to the brain, which seems to knock off the headache. (Doctors can explain it better technically but you know what I mean).
My good man, give her something to get excited about.
She may not want to have sex NOW due to her headache but perhaps you can persuade her by making her horny indirectly. For instance, get in to bid NAKED. Just do it casually, as if you do it every night. (Yes, like get into bed naked and grab a book to read!)
You can also just go to bed in your pajamas and read an adult magazine; or you can try my favorite: pop in a adult movie and turn the volume low (because she has a headache) but not low enough that she does not hear what’s going on. I’m sure you get my meaning here.
Are there deeper issues?
Last but not the least, do explore if there are any deeper issues here if she seems to have headaches frequently. For instance, perhaps she’s really avoiding having sex but the reason may not be what you think.
A previous client once told me that he was almost certain he’s partner was not into their relationship anymore because she seems to have lost interest in sex, saying she has migraines all the time. When probed further, his lover did not want sex but not because of any shortcomings on his end or that their relationship was no longer good, but because she has gained weight and was loathing making love naked.
So if this ‘headache’ is occurring more than usual, do sit down and talk with your lover.
For more tips to make her WANT sex all the time, click here!
SIX Tips to Extended Oral Fun
Oral sex is perhaps one of the most deliriously delicious things for women during lovemaking. Tonight, you want to pleasure your lover to the hilt and have vowed to give her an orgasm with your tongue. There’s only one problem: how do you ensure you don’t get tired (locked jaw, anyone?) before she climaxes?
6 Hot Ways to Oral Power!
Foreplay is your best friend.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women need to be mentally sexed up first. Foreplay works on so many levels for women: it gets the ‘juices’ flowing even if they are not keen to have sex to begin with, and it greatly helps them reach an orgasm!
So engage in heavy foreplay before you go down on her. This way you shorten the time it takes for her to reach her climax.
Hey, what’s the rush?
A lot of men think that that the faster and harder they lick, the better. Wrong. If you do this all the time, we women feel what is called ‘clit burn’. Yes, that sensitive spot of ours feels like it’s slowly on fire and it can be really uncomfortable and even downright painful for some.
So take it SLOW at different times. Vary the speed, motion and position of your tongue and your partner will be mush under you!
Blow.
Lift your head and slowly blow hot breath on her down there. It’s a great break for your tongue and introduces a whole new sensation for her.
Liquid chocolate.
Ah, the many wonders of liquid chocolate. Take a step back and squirt liquid chocolate on her down there. Squeeze the thick syrup right at the top and let it slowly and agonizingly drip down the length of her. It will driver her nuts!
You have fingers, use them.
It doesn’t always have to be your tongue doing the work; use your fingers too. Use your index finger to graze up and down her inner and outer labia (vaginal folds) and then rub lazy circles around her C-spot. As her clitoris is visibly engorged, you can even use your fingers to GENTLY squeeze or tug at it. You can also use your thumb to gently flick her clitoris back and forth.
Let modern technology help you.
Go ahead bring out her vibrator and use it on her C-spot while you take a much needed break. It doesn’t need to be set on the highest vibrating power at all. Remember, it’s just to keep things going. So put it on ‘gentle mode’ so that she just gets a slight buzz… and then let your tongue do the real thing!
For more oral tips for the most MIND-NUMBING sex ever, click here!
