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Female Hot Buttons 101
Do you really know what buttons to push to turn your girlfriend / wife from horny to slutty? Sometimes, men can be sooo clueless as to what turns us women on that I consider it my DUTY to inform you which parts of our bodies you should touch, kiss, lick and caress to get maximum response. Ready? Read on!
Touch the back of my neck.
Push her hair to the side and run a finger down the middle of the back of neck all the way down her spine. Now kiss her neck as your arms circle forwards… and downwards.
Lick my breasts.
Oh, don’t get me wrong. I know you guys know that our breasts are very sensitive and that lavishing them with attention gets us really going in bed but there are still quite a few things you may now know.
For instance, did you know that licking the undersides of our breasts makes us tingle all over? Try this: pin your lover against the wall and slowly peel off her upper clothing. Remove her bra and don’t go for her nipples just yet. Lick the undersides of her breasts first, licking up AS IF you’re aiming for the nipple already and then pull back.
Touch my backdoor.
Tell your lover that tonight you’ll be giving her asexual massage. Now, put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her buttocks. As she begins to relax, start to plant kisses on her behind. As he gets used to the kisses, start licking. And then just when she’s relaxed again, part her buttocks slightly and lick her along the length of her buttocks. This will send her a sexual charge like no other and before she can comment, plant a kiss directly on her anus. If she doesn’t tell you to stop, proceed to licking it until she can’t take it anymore and turns around.
Graze it.
Women love it when you guys are a bit subtle. It heightens our sexual tension. For example, one of the things my lover does that drives me crazy is when he starts to massage my legs, he slowly makes his way up my thighs and gently parts them, for better massage access he says. This will go on for a few minutes and then just when I least expect it, he dips his head and grazes my hair down there. No kissing. No licking. But it’s enough to send sexual charges throughout my body! He will do this on and off and then proceed to sticking his tongue to lick the length of me down there. That’s it… ONE LICK.
It drives me crazy that after 2-3 of these I BEG him for some oral action, which of course is exactly what he wants me to do.
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After Sex Tips
It was a GREAT round of lovemaking! You probably want to doze off now but what if she doesn’t? I won’t delve into the details of WHY men seem to shut down after sex while women seem to want to do the opposite. Men and women are just different. Period. However, when it comes to afterglow there can be a sort of middle ground where everybody’s happy.
FIVE Things to Do After Sex
Go ahead and cuddle! Guys, most women don’t want to start and have a whole conversation running after sex. We got tired too. However, simply turning away from us and sleeping translates to many negative things in our mind such as “hmmm, feels like I just got used for sex”. You can easily prevent this by simply hugging your woman after lovemaking. Just put one leg over her legs and one arm over her and snuggle up close. That’s it!
Side note: A couple I used to counsel had this issue where he always got out of bed and didn’t return after a few minutes. Well guess what, it turned out he was soooo warm after making love that he was sweating buckets and didn’t want to gross out his partner in bed. Moral lesson: if you need to step out of bed after sex for whatever reason simply communicate this with your partner!
Make the heat burn a little longer. Most men think that the type of conversation women want after sex is all about “relationships”. Not true at all. Women simply want to connect further after an orgasm and really the topic of what’s being talked about is not extremely important.
As such – and to motivate you to talk after sex – why not steer the conversation into something you want to talk about. Sex positions, perhaps?
For instance, when you embrace her, whisper if she thinks she would like to try something new next time. You’re talking about something YOU like and the fact that you’re talking is what SHE likes.
If you’re more an ‘action speaks louder than words’ type of guy then don’t speak and just physically communicate with her by, say, drawing lazy circles around her breast or gently kissing her neck, or simply holding hands.
Well, if you must shower… some men (and women too!) feel the need to shower after making love. This is definitely the case if you just had morning sex and need to dash off somewhere. Sometimes though, people want to take a shower because they got all hot and sweaty! This time, instead of taking a quick shower alone, pull your partner with you! It’s great bonding time and who knows what all that touching, soaping, and rubbing can lead to next?
Drink up! All that lovemaking has probably made you both thirsty. Well, go ahead and quench the thirst with some COLD water. After taking a sip, be sure to lean down and put one of her nipples in your mouth! It’s sexy, good for laugh and makes her feel you’re still yearning for her.
Another good idea is to grab a glass of wine too and share it. You can then cuddle up in bed till you both doze off.
Play some ‘sleep’ music. This is a tip from one of my friends who are a couple. They do both tend to be worn out and sleepy after making love. Taking a shower doesn’t fit, turning on the TV is a no-no, and neither wanted to talk about anything! The solution they found was this, they would turn on some really soothing ‘sleep music’. It relaxes them both as they snuggle up a bit after sex. And then they slowly draw away from each other (too warm to stay close!) and drift blissfully to sleep. Try it!
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Know Her Hot Buttons
This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.
And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you know her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.
Erogenous zones are also important to know when you are giving her a sexual massage!
Know Her ‘Hot Buttons’
So do you know your woman’s sweet sex spots? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during a sexual massage.
Her Breasts.
Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do?
First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC (tender loving care).
When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.
The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).
Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses’, very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.
Her Armpit.
Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the sexual massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you. Prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.
Do the ‘Dip’
From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip”. Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.
From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her genitals!
Her Foot.
This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.
Her Toes.
Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!
Her Butt.
Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!
Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!
The fact that you’re bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.
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