Archive for the ‘female masturbation’ Category
How to Encourage Her to Masturbate
By now, you probably know that A LOT of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. And sadly, nearly all the blame is put on you, her lover. Well, the truth is, each one of us should be responsible for our own sexual happiness, right?
Unfortunately, it has somehow been burned into our minds that self-pleasuring or masturbation is a ‘guy thing’. In reality, engaging in self-love is one of the best things a woman can do so that she gets to understand her body better… and in return, she’ll be able to guide YOU on how to help her reach an orgasm better and faster.
So if your woman is one who has been ‘brainwashed’ into thinking that masturbation is ‘bad’, it’s your job to convince her otherwise. And trust me, you’ll have a lot of wild fun doing that.
Self-Love Tips for HER
Firstly, lead by example. I mean if she expects that self-pleasuring is normal for you then might as well prove her right, right? Seriously, what you’re trying to do here is to show her how OK it is and how much pleasure one can derive from self-love. Besides, who better a teacher than you?!?
Secondly, treat her to some hot lingerie. Lingerie makes men horny as it makes women feel hot and sexy. So really this gift is a win-win situation. Buy her some really racy, decadent ones. They will boost her courage to enjoy ‘me time’ more.
Thirdly, surprise her with a subscription to some adult literature. Women tease men with their hidden stacks of adult mags but really, a lot of women would just love to take a peek at them too! Bring her to an adult bookstore, see what she likes and get an annual subscription for her!
Fourthly, encourage her to watch adult movies together. For this tip, be careful not to watch hardcore x-rated movies with her as most women find the content degrading and totally unsexy. It reinforces the belief the picture of women as ‘sex objects’ and not ‘romantic partners’. Anyway, just get some soft porn. At the very least, it will put her in the mood. At the most advantage, she can learn a thing or two about self-pleasuring.
Lastly, buy her a sex toy! A lot of women get their first mind-blowing orgasm via a battery-operated tool. There are so many sex toys nowadays that choosing one can be a bit tedious so my suggestion is that you browse online together and sort of shortlist what she thinks she would like. You can either continue on buying online or visit a local adult shop. And make sure she uses it too! For example, say something like you’ll leave her to it for a month but by the end of that period you would like to at least watch her do it using the sex toy.
Follow the tips above and she’ll be more comfortable engaging in masturbation soon. Remember, a woman who really knows her body is one who can best benefit from all the pleasure it can bring.
For more SEXY and EROTIC ideas to enjoy the WILDEST SEX ever, click here…
Watch Her Engaging in “Self Love”!
A woman masturbating in front of her partner is a predominantly male fantasy. Women tend to enjoy interacting with their partners when they are together and then play with herself alone.
For all possible reasons, be it mere curiosity, adolescent associations, voyeuristic tendencies, or something else altogether, this fantasy to watch a woman masturbate has strong appeal to men of all ages. So why keep it a fantasy?
Ways to Persuade Her to Engage in ‘Self-Love’ Right Before Your Eyes
First and the most important factor that will eventually lead towards fulfilling your fantasy is trust. Your partner has to trust you. If she trusts you, it’s amazing how easy it can be to accomplish this goal.
It may be as simple as asking her to do it. But more often than not, you need to build on the trust between you first, and this may take some time. Some women are so dependent on their men, they would almost instantly do anything to please him. Other women will never do a single thing that makes them uncomfortable, no matter how much they love their partners. Therefore, one of the goals here would be to make your woman feel comfortable enough to succumb to playing out this fantasy of yours.
To convince her to do it for the first time is a problem, because how do you tell her what you want in a proper and non-demeaning way? An honest relationship allows you to approach your partner with all your needs and desires, so simply explaining to her this fantasy you harbor would be a good start. If she is reluctant, offer to do it first.
Ask your partner to sit down, fully clothed and have her watch you masturbate. Do not allow her to interact, just allow her to watch.
Perhaps it would help if you offer her to role-play. The story would go something like this: she is alone at home, in bed, reading. You are a burglar who got surprised by her early return and who is hiding in the closet. She can then pretend that nobody is home and have a go at herself, while you are in the closet ogling your eyes out.
Also, be careful of being misunderstood by your request to watch her masturbate. Think of it from her point of view: she is present, ready and willing to have sex with you… and you prefer to just watch and not engage with her?
Unless you really explain why you want to do it this way, she’ll figure you’re a pervert. You, on the other hand, will have a hard time staying put. At some point the pressure in your pants will go berserk, so calculate that occurrence when you propose to do a purely voyeuristic encounter.
Why Masturbation is Good for Your Relationship
Why is it important to go through with such a fantasy? This is because it is healthy for your relationship to live out all your sexual fantasies together with your partner.
If you don’t talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and you leave them simmering in the back of your head, some day you will get a feeling as if you are missing out on something. Such desires can get very strong and ultimately ruin a good relationship.
The solution is to speak out about it. Women are smart, but they cannot read minds, again unless you are married to her for a decade or so. Actually, this advice to speak out about your sexual fantasies goes both ways. You need to ask her about her fantasies and reciprocate by fulfilling her desires too.
A very young relationship, where you have been together with a woman for a couple of days, or maybe weeks, is frail and asking your girlfriend to perform for you is a risk. However, if you are honest and able to properly define your reasons for asking such a thing, she may do it. And even if she doesn’t this should be fine with you.
There is plenty of time to get back to that idea later. An icebreaker may be to propose to masturbate simultaneously, watching each other. This may also be a solution in case she is reluctant to have real sex.
On the other hand, a mature relationship, perhaps a yearlong marriage, does very little to promote variety and sex is mostly a matter of catching a mutually convenient and physically possible moment to get intimate.
To waste that moment on a fantasy may seem ludicrous to you, but believe me that a change in the routine may be a very welcome surprise to your love life. It is always good to be creative and imaginative with your partner, so that she feels wanted, desirable, sexy and beautiful. After years of marriage, sometimes that validation is more important to a woman then having sex. So really, asking her to masturbate in front of you may be something she’s secretly delighted with!
