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Forget About The Vaginal Orgasm!
One of the biggest misconceptions people have about female orgasms is that they are all created equal. The truth is that not all orgasms are the same: they may all be equally pleasurable but they are generally arrived at through different means.
Basically, there are two types of female orgasms: vaginal and clitoral.
Today, we’re going to briefly discuss both types.
Vaginal Orgasm
This type of orgasm was the only type Freud and other men of his time felt to be legitimate types of sexual pleasure for women to experience. Unfortunately for women, only about 20% can receive an orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. The other 80% need something a little extra.
Before we get into that, let me explain exactly what we mean by vaginal orgasm. A vaginal orgasm occurs solely because of stimulation of the vagina. That stimulation is usually in the form of the thrusting of the male penis during vaginal intercourse.
The reason most women do not receive an orgasm just from penetration is that the vagina is not a highly sensitive area. This is actually a good thing. Remember that the vagina is not just used for sex but also for delivering babies. If the inside walls of the vagina were made up of concentrated nerve endings like we find in the nipple, the clitoris, or the penis, then childbirth would be even more difficult for women.
In fact, only the first two inches of the vagina are sensitive at all.
So why do some women have orgasms solely from vaginal stimulation?
The answer is they probably aren’t. Women who report vaginal orgasms benefit from their anatomy. In some women, the labia minora are formed in such a way that vaginal penetration actually causes the labia to rub against or gently pull on the clitoris.
This, not vaginal stimulation, is leading to the orgasm in most cases. Technically, however, this would still be considered a vaginal orgasm because there is not direct stimulation of the clitoris.
Another reason why some women report having vaginal orgasms is that the shape of the penis and their preferred position allow for stimulation of the G-spot. Because the G-spot is linked to increased pleasure and may also induce orgasms, this is another possibility worth considering.
The bottom line here though is that vaginal orgasms are not common. Men and women need to realize that penetration is often not going to be enough to accomplish the goal. The good news is that gives both partners an excuse to experiment with some new things and ideas!
Clitoral Orgasm
By far the most common way for a woman to regularly reach orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. First, let me share with you some information about the clitoris.
The clitoris is located just by the vaginal entrance and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh which contains a high concentration of nerve endings which make it highly sensitive. It is often covered by a clitoral hood. Many people don’t realize that only a small portion of the clitoris is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.
Two things are particularly interesting about the clitoris. First, all female mammals have a clitoris. This is interesting because the sole purpose, at least according to biologists, of the clitoris is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels.
Second, the clitoris is made from the same material as the penis. In fact, in men the clitoris becomes a full-fledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.
The only real difference between a clitoris and a penis – besides location in the body – seems to be that the penis is also used for urination while the clitoris is not.
With that said, it’s important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen. Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse could stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris as well and this can also cause orgasms.
What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually cannot stimulate it. Because of its position in the woman’s body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.
The question is how does one engage in clitoral stimulation. Some male partners take the approach that the women should be responsible for the stimulation themselves, which has always seemed a bit unfair to me since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. However, this is one way to deal with it.
Another method is by, what I like to call multi-tasking. Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris in one way or another (we’ll discuss those ways a little later). If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option.
Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to an alternative approach. One person reaches orgasm at a time. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility but it’s usually not the most satisfactory approach.
The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships which may have become less enthusiastic over time.
And the key is experimenting because different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have masturbated will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.
So, bottom line: Please understand: there is NOTHING wrong if your woman requires clitoral stimulation besides penetration to reach an orgasm. And actually, it IS more fun!
Once you understand this fact, you´ll both start to get more “creative” in bed. And trust me, she will NOT be frustrated anymore!
Oral Sex Games And Techniques
Don’t disappoint her anymore. There are plenty of ways to give her the greatest sex she’s ever had. Increase her sex drive and give her the multiple orgasms she been craving. All this can be achieved with one word…Vcream. I personally don’t leave home without it. Now pay close attention and you’ll never have another lame sexual experience again.
The most common reason for a women not reaching her sexual peak while have sex is Boredom. Guys it’s time to step your game a little bit and give her what she’s missing: Oral sex. Every woman wants a man that’s going to make her sweat in the bedroom. And I mean sweat. So go out, get a bottle of Vcream, and let the games begin.
Oral sex techniques
Give her the best oral sex she’s ever had. Apply a small amount of Vcream to the clitoris before sex and watch her quiver to your every touch.
Since Vcream works instantly, it’s the best thing out there to use before oral sex. After you apply it, start by slowly and gently kissing your partners inner thighs. After you work your way up her inner thighs and you reach the vagina slowly lick that area a couple of times and then stop. The key is to tease her a little bit. Make her want it more than you do. Work your way up her stomach by kissing, licking and nibbling on it. Tease her a little more by sucking on her nipples. After a few minutes with the twins, work your way back down (this time a little faster). At this point she’ll be feigning for you to get to work. And that’s exactly what you’ll do.
Since most women achieve orgasm from clitoral stimulation, work that area often. Use your tongue as of it’s the only thing you have to satisfy her. The technique should be something similar to eating ice cream. And we all enjoy ice cream. Try some of these techniques and you might end up enjoying it more than she will.
• Exercise long slow strokes
• Let her sit on your face.
• Suck on her clitoris while inserting two fingers into her vagina.
• Pick her up and let her wrap her legs around your neck (Requires a little bit of strength)
• Try using your tongue to write the letters in the alphabet…her vagina is the only paper you’ll need.
• Make little circles around her clitoris.
Oral Sex Games
Now that you’ve got the techniques down, let’s play. There’s no way you’ll be bored playing games!!! We loved them as children and we can still love them as adults.
Cards
For this game all you need is a deck of cards and your jar of Vcream. Honestly, it really doesn’t matter what card game you play just make sure at the end of the game someone’s naked. Etc. Strip poker, 21 Black Jacks, you can play go fish it really doesn’t matter as long as it involves removing clothing. After your both naked, apply Vcream. This is when the real fun begins. Now you can break into a game of hide-and-sex, my personal favorite.
Hide-and-Sex
How to play: Tell your partner to go hide and you find them. Where ever you find them, whether it be in the laundry room, kitchen, bathroom, or even the garage you have oral sex. The person who was found has to perform it. Do this for a few minutes then you go hide. Go back and forth until she can’t take it anymore. Her clitoris will be throbbing and you’ll be crowned king of oral sex. And of course in a game like this no one loses.
So now you know how to please a woman using oral sex and some ways to incorporate it into the bedroom. Now the rest is up to you. Good Luck!!! And don’t forget all you need to master the art of oral sex is your tongue and little Vcream…I promise.
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A Brief Sexual History Lesson
About the turn of the 20th century, Freud was generating his own revolution about the nature of sexuality. He said there were two kinds of orgasm: clitoral and vaginal, or in Tantric terms clio and yoni. Freud convinced many that clio (clitoral) orgasms were immature. According to him, it took a real woman to have a yoni orgasm.
In contrast, pioneering sex researchers, like Kinsey in the 50s and Masters & Johnson in the 60s, believed that only clio was responsible for women’s orgasms. The good news was that these findings spurred vibrator-wielding feminists to teach women that they could develop their orgasmic potential.
The bad news was that, depending on whom they listened to, many people ignored a valuable source of female sexual pleasure. (Don’t worry, I´m not going to take sides in this silly debate.)
Fortunately, the pendulum began to swing back in 1982. Public consciousness, fueled by scientific research and growing comfort with the sexual revolution, opened to other orgasmic triggers.
Make Love Not Controversy
Don’t expect your family doctor, or even your OB/GYN to know very much about sex. In most medical schools, the training devoted to sexuality is either non-existent or minimal. A few medical schools increased their emphasis on sexuality in the 70s and 80s, but many of them have cut back since then. So it’s no surprise that the controversies over the existence of the G-Spot, different kinds of orgasms, and female ejaculation continue to this day in the medical community.
It’s only been since the late 90s that medical research began to take seriously the notion that women’s sexuality operates differently than men’s. At last, serious investigation is underway into the unique sexual anatomy and physiology of the female that will ultimately support women in leading joyful sex lives. What you’ll read here is based on the most recent findings.
Women Are Different, Duh
We understand the frustration of male-dominated sciences being unable to describe female sexuality with simple linear models and reproducible formulas. The fundamental fact that keeps appearing in our reading, research, and client work is that each woman is different. Although there are some general commonalties, each woman will have her proclivities, her preferences, and her own kind of orgasms.
Her pleasure, her sensitivity, and her climaxes will differ based on factors within and without: her mood, her hormones, her level of arousal, her connection to her partner, her openness to passion, and her acceptance of her own sexuality.
Those of us who honor the Goddess and specialize in the study and practice of sex know without a doubt that the Sacred Gate exists. As does clio. It doesn’t take an expert to prove that they both can help you explode with passion if you want.
Never fear, your partner´s G-Spot is alive and well and living inside. When you discover exactly what it wants, it can shower you and your lover with delicious peaks of pleasure.
EXERCISE: History Discussion Questions
Here are some questions to journal, reflect on, or talk about…
- What kind of values did your family hold about sex?
- What role do you feel sexuality plays in a healthy life?
- What kinds of sexual repression have you personally experienced?
You may be asking yourself: “Why did Gabrielle gave me this sexual history lesson?”
ANSWER: Because I want you to be COMPLETELY prepared (with the basics), because in a few days (October 25, 2007) you and your lover will enjoy the hottest sex ever. You will finally enjoy a G-Spot orgasm!
So, mark your calendar! October 25, 2007.
Love and Kisses!
Gabrielle Moore
