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What NOT to Do in Bed
Let’s turn the tables with this article, shall we? All too often, you here tips on what to do, what so say, what to touch, and so on, but how many times do you come across tips on what NOT to do?
For instance, did you know that a lot of women get turned OFF by certain, explicit things that men do in bed? Read on and see if you’re guilty of these bedroom no-no’s things.
Do you give up too easily?
Ok, women expect their men to confident so it’s kind of a turn off if you give up too easily when you want sex and you THINK that she doesn’t. Consider Maddy’s (real name withheld for privacy) experience.
Her boyfriend turned to her with an erection but darn it she really needed to go to the bathroom first. So she gave him a quick kiss and hopped out of bed. When she came back, HE wasn’t in the mood anymore because he thought she didn’t want to? Come on! It’s a real turn off if it’s easy for you to ‘tune out’.
Do you ask for ‘permission’?
Teasing is good. Naughty is good. But choir boy obedient is not. I never recommend violence or roughness but there’s something ‘weak’ too if you need to ask her for permission to have sex. There are 101 ways to let her know that you want some lovin’ and a real man knows how to convey those messages.
Do you ALWAYS have sex the same way ALL the time?
The word ‘routine’ is a killer for a lot of sex lives. Sex should make your heart race and make you anticipate the next move and it’s hard to be like that when you know EXACTLY what’s going to happen down to the last second!
Sadly, MOST couples tend to settle down to a specific routine in the bedroom and they wake up one morning complaining about the lack of passion in their lives. Don’t let this happen to you. ALWAYS be on the lookout for hot, new and sexy things to try in the bedroom.
Too quiet? Too loud?
Ok, sex sounds is a very, very personal thing so this really depends with your and your lover’s preferences. For instance, do you make extremely loud noises during sex or talk too dirty that it puts her off? Find out her sex sounds tolerance level by talking not so lewdly at first to see how she reacts.
Apart from actually talking, sex sounds can be grunts, hisses and moans too. Again, see if she gets annoyed when you do these things loudly; and ask her what she thinks about the lack of them when you’re the type who never makes these sounds.
Are you REALLY into it?
Nothing can be more annoying than ‘pity sex’. Trust me, women KNOW when you’re into it or not so if you’re not, you’re better off telling her you’re too tired or have something really important on your mind, or are too stressed… whatever!
The point is this: don’t start making love and then start staring off into space, you might just feel a whack behind your head if you do!
Errr… do you smell good?
This is a true story. He’s fit. He’s handsome. He’s smart. But he has this habit of going to the bathroom and doing his thing just before going to bed… and he doesn’t change his underwear. This is a HUMONGOUS turn off for her. Seriously, no matter how hot she is for him, she can’t bring herself to initiate sex.
Luckily, they have a great relationship and so when she opened up and gently asked her to please ensure he changes before he goes to bed, he did and that was the end of that.
Now, you the above situation may not apply to you exactly but seriously, how are you in the hygiene department? Enough said.
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Four Easy Steps to Creating a Sacred Sex Place at Home
It’s likely that one of the reasons everyone has more sex on vacation is because there’s a sense of ‘specialness’ about staying in a hotel room. It’s quiet, there are no children, or dishes, or jobs. And yes, the lack of distractions and stress make it easier to focus on lovemaking!
But you know, it’s possible to create that special and sacred environment at home too. It might take a bit of work, but if you want to create your own sacred sex space, the rewards will be well worth the effort.
Here, then, we offer four spectacular tips to creating your own homemade sacred sex space.
Figure out where this special sex space should be.
The obvious choice will be the bedroom, and that’s the most reasonable. Here’s why: if you have children, it’s the most private and special place in the house for you to create a sacred sex area. It’s also the one area of the house you can make off-limits to kids. But even if you don’t have children, your bedroom is still your best bet simply because it’s the place people will likely enter the least. People generally won’t invite themselves into your bedroom during a party or visit, so it’s a space that you can keep private, special and even a bit naughty, if you like (and we’ll get to that in a minute).
Make it special.
What does this mean? Essentially our recommendation here is that you think about what your woman wants in her special sex space. Your needs are important too, don’t misunderstand but she needs more to get and keep her turned on. She will be affected by smells, touch and a feeling of luxury.
And her utter appreciation of the time you took to make this space special with her needs in mind is sure to benefit you, if you know what I mean.
Think about your lady. Is she a pink kind of girl? Perhaps she’s into candles, incense, and things of that nature. Pop into a candle store and buy some beautiful candles that have a great smell that will NOT bother you (think vanilla or lavender). After all, it’s your sacred sex place too, right?
Music is important. Can you bring in a small boom box or set the TV to bring in satellite radio? How about buying an iPod compatible system in so you can listen to your (and her) favorite tunes?
Making this space special also means getting rid of clutter. If your sacred space is the bedroom, get rid of the dirty laundry on the floor, the papers on the dresser and the kids’ toys sprinkled about.
This is about you and her, and keeping that focus is important. Don’t just keep it clean when you’re ready for a little loving. Keeping your sacred lovemaking space all clean all the time lowers stress levels, helping you to relax more, whin in turn makes you more receptive or in the mood for lovemaking.
Think about BOTH your needs.
What do the two of you like to do while making love? Are you all about the spiritual connection? In that case, be sure that you do have the candles, music and wonderful sheets. Do you like to have lots of fun with toys? In that case, fill a box or basket (that has a lid) with a few of your favorite adult toys. Be sure to keep it near your sacred love space so you can reach into it at any time.
If you are a fan of long lasting lovemaking sessions, you might consider adding a small fridge to the room. This way, whenever you guys want a drink or snack, there’s no need to break the mood. You can even plan ahead and fill the fridge with champagne, strawberries and other special treats for a special night of lovemaking.
Create the right mood.
We’ve talked about the décor and the candles, and even adding a fridge and toys. But creating the right mood means keeping everything sacred. That means you think about everything. Is it time to get rid of the picture of your parents that hangs on the wall? Should you consider investing in some fantastic new bedding or even matching furniture? If you want to create that hotel feel, think about what is appealing about a hotel.
Of course, you might not be able to replicate having a maid and no schedule for your day, but you can replicate other desirable aspects of a hotel room, such as matching furniture, cleanliness, and the sense of being away from the world for awhile.
If you create a good retreat, you’ll feel as if you’re getting away without leaving the house. And the feeling of ‘getting away’ is often what makes people feel like they have all the time in the world for making love.
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Kitchen Lovemaking Tips
It you’re interested in having some hot and steamy sex, head to where it gets really hot and steamy – the kitchen.
The possibilities for sex in the kitchen are endless. There are warm, cold, hard and soft surfaces. There are positions that are ripe for oral lovemaking, and those perfect for intercourse. It’s a virtual buffer of options.
Top 6 Ways to Make Love in the Kitchen
By the stove.
Make sure the stove is turned off, of course, and not warm at all. But here, you can have your lady bend over, and hold onto the sides of the stove, while you make love to her from behind. Make sure you don’t ignore other parts too; curve one arm around the front and fondle her that way. If you’re very tall, you can have her sit on the stove and you can make love facing each other. However, for most men, coming in from the backside works best.
By the sink.
Washing dishes has never been this fun. Sometime when your woman is doing dishes, slide up behind her and start kissing her neck. If she seems receptive, fondle her breasts and then move down to caress her thighs and the area between them. If she’s still receptive, bend her over and take her from behind. You can also choose to turn her around first so she’s facing you. She can brace herself with her hands behind her on the sink as you make love to her.
On the table.
Oh, the stories that abound from making love on the table! You can have oral sex, missionary-style intercourse, doggy-style intercourse, sex while on a chair, sex without a chair. It’s probably the best surface in the kitchen for lovemaking too! It’s flat, it’s clean and it’s versatile (as we just outlined).
Just make sure the table can handle both your weights. If your table is a pedestal style, it will be less sturdy than a table with legs. The last thing you want is the table breaking right under you guys. It will be hard to explain that one at breakfast the next morning!
One of the best table positions is with your woman sitting on the edge of the table, using her hands behind her to hold herself up. Have her bend her knees up toward her chest and you hold onto her knees and use them as leverage to push yourself in and pull yourself out of her. This is a position that will bring both of you great pleasure!
By the freezer.
Is your freezer a top mount? That is, does it sit above the fridge? If so, open it up and have your lady use the bottom shelf to hold onto while you enter her from behind. The freezing cold air will harden and tighten her nipples, which will be exciting for both of you. The cold air in general can be an exciting turn-on. This is perfect for a summer sex in the kitchen session.
On the counter or kitchen island.
This one is for you. While she pleases you orally, you can lean back and enjoy the view, or simply the sensations. Sitting on the counter gives her the best view and position to perform on you, and you the best view of her doing that. We know you’re visual, guys, so this one is for you.
On the kitchen floor.
I saved the obvious for last. The floor of the kitchen makes an obvious and easy background for lovemaking, but it can be uncomfortable. If you plan to do it on the floor, be sure to place something down first (a towel, a blanket, a rug) as it can be hard and cold without some cushioning. Doing it on the floor allows you to be a little more creative with lovemaking so do give this a try.
Also, while on the floor, consider adding some fun elements to your sex play. You can feed each other (simply reach over and open the fridge where you might have strawberries, watermelon and cherries waiting), or play around with kitchen tools. Some might end up being great sex toys.
We’re always being told to get creative in the kitchen. And making love there is about as creative as it gets as there’s no end to the possibilities. So go ahead and create a new recipe for your sex life!
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