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Six Ways Guaranteed to Get Her Turned On!
If your woman says she’s tired or has a headache and isn’t in the mood for sex, don’t question her. The worst thing you can do is question that she’s’ not feeling well or just too tired to get frisky.
The best thing you can do, by contrast, is to have some sympathy, some compassion. But you can mix that compassion with a desire to get her turned on. Sometimes women are tired and just think that having sex is too much effort, but once they begin to get turned on, they forget they’re tired, they forget the headache.
So, how can you turn your woman on when she’s convinced that she can’t be turned on?
Top 6 Tips to Turn Your Woman On…
1. Take some of the workload away.
Argue all you want, but the truth is women carry more of the workload at home. Most women do the bulk of the cooking, the cleaning and the child rearing. Often they pay the bills, handle the social calendar and oversee home renovations and decorating. Hey, we’re busy!
If you want to help your woman relax, offer to do some of the work for her one night. Offer to cook, or bring dinner home. If you have children, tell her you’ll be the one to give them baths and get them in bed. She can rest and read a magazine.
Not only will you help her with her fatigue if you do these things, but you’ll make her appreciate you, which often puts women in the mood to show you how much she appreciates it?
2. Run a bath for her.
You’re horny as can be, but she’s saying she’s tired, has a backache, and a headache. Run her a bath, complete with bubbles and perhaps even some soothing, sexy music. Then leave her alone. Let her relax and soak up the pleasure of the bath. Not only will she appreciate you for doing this for her, but the bath will help her to relax and it might even rid her of her headache.
If she’s amenable, you might want to offer to wash her back or wash her hair. Both can be sensual and sexy. You might turn her on just through the sheer pleasure of either activity, which can lead from a relaxing massage to a sexual massage. Hey, you never know.
3. Offer her a drink.
You might do this while she’s in the tub, but the idea here is to help her relax. Now, we don’t suggest using alcohol as a crutch, but if she has a healthy (non-addictive) relationship with alcohol, then by all means, offer her a cocktail or a glass of wine.
The alcohol will help her relax, forget problems and focus on other things (which, you hope, will be lovemaking).
4. Give her a massage.
Again, just offering this will give her some appreciation for your generous nature, but you can turn this into a sensual massage by using oils, or just by giving her a slow, full body massage. Don’t be obvious (such as constantly having your hands and fingers foray into ‘sensitive’ areas on her body), but you can use gentle strokes to remind her that you’re there.
Also, don’t ask for a massage in return! This is about a non-reciprocal arrangement designed to help her relax, to get her in the mood for lovemaking.
5. Offer to cuddle with her.
Sometimes when women are feeling tired, or they are in the midst of a killer headache, they forget how therapeutic the human touch can be.
But if you know how to cuddle her correctly, you can help her forget those concerns and focus on you. Offer to let her lay on you while you watch TV or a movie she likes. Gently caress her head (not so much, though, that she falls asleep) and gently fondle her breasts. Don’t do it like you intend for that fondling to go further, but rather do it because you enjoy it. If you are gentle, you’ll soon notice that her body will automatically react to you.
6. Watch an adult-rated movie.
Yes, this is the most obvious of all the tips I’m offering to get her in the mood, but hear me out – the right x-rated movie can make a woman want to make love sooner than you think.
If you choose the movie wisely (tip: we’re suckers for romantic, adult-rated movies), you create an environment where she can realize and say, “Oh, yeah, sex IS fun. Let’s do it.” It might sound simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how effective this method can be.
One caveat about this tip, however – be sure that it’s OK with her to watch a romantic, yet adult movie tonight. If you just turn it on, you run the risk of completely turning her off. This has to be something you talk to her about first.
Alright! Use these tips the next time your woman says she’s just too tired, or has too much of a headache to make love. You could do all six of our tips in one night (which will surely lead to some fun) or you might incorporate only one or two, holding the others for another time. Either way there’s a good chance your woman will respond favorably.
The Art of Kissing
Today, we’re going to talk about the many ways couples can kiss each other during foreplay. It’s funny how we seem to take kissing for granted or how easily we can fall into a ‘routine’ with kissing.
One of my subscribers has written me sometime bask complaining that each time she and her husband kiss, there seems to be a ‘time limit’ and all-too-familiar routine that they follow. It goes like this: gentle kissing, followed by about 5 minutes of torrid kissing, and then intercourse!
She said that although she liked having sex with her husband it was becoming like a well-rehearsed routine… help!
Kissing is an Art
One of the best ways to prolong foreplay is to indulge in the many ways you and your partner can kiss each other. Here are a few tips for you.
The Bent Kiss is the type of kiss that’s meant for ‘deep tongue penetration’. It requires one partner to be taller or be at an elevated height than the other. For couples with differing heights, no problem but for couples of equal heights, try kissing on the stairs or while one of you is sitting on the table or sink. The objective is to have one bending over the other for maximum tongue playing.
The Upper Lip Kiss is when you kiss the upper lip of your partner, making your partner focus on your lower lip. This type of kiss allows for a different type of sensation and oh yes, a little sucking of the lips is allowed too!
The Upside-Down Kiss is literally kissing each other while upside-down. Don’t worry; you don’t need any form of acrobatics here. For example, initiate foreplay while your partner is watching TV. Touch his/her shoulders from behind the couch, give him/her a hug, bend over his/her head and start the kiss!
I just gave you two pointers here. Firstly, let your partner know you’re behind him/her! Think about it. How would you react if there was this big head appearing in your line of vision all of a sudden! Secondly, proceed gently, the ‘hug’ part lets your partner know you’re in a ‘tender, loving place’ and because he/she knows this, the kiss you give will be more welcome.
Also, do time your upside-down kiss well! There’s no point in initiating foreplay during the championship of the Super Bowl. You’re setting yourself up badly and you know it! Men, if you know she’s REALLY into Oprah, now is not the time for you to initiate this either.
Kiss and Lick (a.k.a. tongue bathing) is when you ensure that you kiss and lick your partner in ‘equal portions’. I’ve always said that many of us do not lick enough! So when you feel that your partner wants to immediately move on to lovemaking, delay it by engaging in some licking. Be sure to make the change subtle and to alternate between kissing and licking.
The Awakening Kiss is the kiss you want to do if you want to initiate foreplay in the morning or whenever your partner is sleeping. Personally, I call it the “Sleeping Beauty Kiss” because basically you start kissing your partner gently while he/she is still asleep. Don’t make the kiss too wet or too aggressive. Remember, you want your partner to awaken to ‘gentle, sensual pleasures’ and not to a rough assault.
Chocolate Kisses is by far one of my favorites. It is as simple as it sounds, pop a piece of chocolate in your mouth, melt it a bit and when it’s soft and gooey… go for the kiss! You can do some variations of this depending on what you and your partner love to eat. For example, peanut butter is good for most people as well as candy bars. Just be sure it’s something your partner loves to east as well!
There you go. Add these kiss variations into your foreplay repertoire and your partner will surely be surprised, delighted and excited by all these NEW things that are going on in your relationship.
Happy Kissing!
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Gabrielle Moore
