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Use Sexy Toys And Accessories!
Let me give you a few hot tips to jazz things up in the bedroom (or anywhere else for that matter) by throwing in some toys and accessories.
Some couples shy away from using sex toys in their intimate lives because they believe such items are not “normal” for use with couples or are too perverse for their relationships. The truth is that more couples than you might imagine make the items we describe in the following pages a part of their intimate fun.
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Other couples may be concerned about purchasing these items. Almost every city, even fairly small ones, have stores specializing in erotic merchandise like the ones listed below. Most cities have multiple stores. Many of these stores are just as clean and inviting as any other retail outlet; others cater to a lower-quality crowd and are found mainly in dilapidated neighborhoods (these you might want to avoid). Of course, if you’re nervous about going to the stores – this is completely common at first – you can purchase all of the items from online shops from the convenience and privacy of your home.
With that said, let’s take a look at the pleasurable world of sex toys and accessories and how they can enhance your sex lives.
Sex Toy/Accessory: Dildo
Description:
Dildos are elongated pieces of material – usually latex, plastic, glass, or acrylic – that are molded into shapes similar to a penis. Dildos come in a wide range of shapes and sizes. Some are molded to closely resemble the look and feel of a penis. Others are made more for stimulating certain parts of the body, particularly the clitoris.
Besides the standard dildos, you can also purchase double-ended dildos and anal dildos.
How to Use It:
Dildos can be used in a variety of ways. The most common way is to insert it into the woman’s vagina, possibly while using the penis to penetrate her anus (some dildos are made for this specific reason), while she is masturbating the man, or while he is helping her get ready for the big event with the real thing. She can also use it to masturbate while her partner watches.
Additionally, there are dildos which are specifically designed for anal penetration. These dildos are narrower and are not as long so they fit more comfortably into the anus than a penis might and can provide a more relaxed, safer way to experience anal intercourse.
Another option are double-sided meaning both ends are meant to resemble a penis. Some of these dildos can be used with a partner – both of you can take it for a ride simultaneously. Other double-ended toys are meant to provide double pleasure to the woman: one end is meant for her vagina, the other is meant for her anus.
Why to Use It:
The main reason to play with a dildo is that it can help bring women to a climax more quickly and more consistently. While a penis may not be able to hit the right spot, dildos are designed based on a woman’s pelvic anatomy so they can apply pressure to the clitoris and help her reach an orgasm.
Another reason is that having a dildo in the bed is almost like adding a third person to the fun. You have an extra penis to play around with and in can go almost anywhere. Even the man might find it kind of fun to have a dildo gently placed in his anus – the pressure on the prostrate feels amazing!
It’s also fun to watch your partner pleasure him or herself with or without our help. A dildo makes it easy for a woman to masturbate and to “get off” and some dildos can even help men reach their pleasure zones more easily leading to a dynamic orgasm for both of you.
Purchasing Suggestions:
If you’re interested in vaginal dildos, your best choice are the ones made of glass. These are not only practical but many of them are beautiful, too. Besides the aesthetics, glass is easier to keep sanitized than plastic or many other materials. You can simply slide it into your dishwasher after you’ve finished sliding inside each other then let the heat do the trick. Glass can also withstand changes in temperature that means you can intensify your fun with a cold or a warm dildo. Imagine how penetrating your partner with a cold glass dildo is going to feel on one of those hot, muggy days. She’ll get chills in more ways than one! Keep in mind though that all that fun comes with a price – glass dildos are more expensive than other materials in general.
For other types of dildos, just make sure that you choose a toy designed for what you want to use it for. Don’t try to use a traditional dildo for anal penetration – your partner will definitely NOT appreciate it since most standard dildos are even larger and wider than a penis.
Safety Tip:
Never insert a dildo into another area of the body or into another person without thoroughly cleaning it first. You can pass on infections and diseases if you don’t take precautions. Most erotic merchandise stores do sell special cleaners for sex toys. Otherwise antibacterial soap and hot water are your best choices.
Foreplay: An Integral Part of the Process of Sex
Hello, everyone! Gabrielle Moore here…
Today we’re going to discuss an issue that’s plagued many men — foreplay. Technically, foreplay encompasses all the pre-intercourse play we engage in: kissing, caressing, touching, even oral sex. To be a great lover, a man must master, and preferably enjoy, foreplay.
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Traditionally, we think of foreplay as something a man has to do (or endure) to get his partner ready for sex. A lot of men think of foreplay as a chore — something that has to get done before they can get it on. Like ironing your shirt in the morning.
On the other hand, women perceive foreplay as an integral part of the process of sex. While women can occasionally have sex without foreplay (also known as a quickie), me and nearly all my female friends feel that foreplay is absolutely vital to a truly enjoyable, fulfilling sexual experience. Part of this is psychological and part of it is physical.
So why is foreplay important? And what do you need to know to master foreplay? Read on!
Men, women and the arousal cycle
When it comes to sexual arousal, men are digital and women are analog. Now let me explain what I mean by this sweeping generalization.
Men are either turned on or not. When sexually excited, men get an erection. The erection lasts until the man reaches orgasm or the sexual stimulus is removed. When this happens, the man loses interest in sex for a time. He also loses the ability to have sex for a variable time period.
Women do not have either/or sex drives. Women have varying degrees of sexual excitement. They are multi-orgasmic (or at least capable of having multiple orgasms). Women must be stimulated to reach a peak of excitement that coincides with orgasm. Afterward, a woman can be stimulated to further orgasms.
Physiologically, during arousal, a woman’s vagina begins producing natural lubricant. The shape of the vagina changes, lengthening to allow penetration. A woman’s clitoris fills with blood and becomes more sensitive.
Foreplay is the method by which the woman’s level of sexual excitement is increased, causing these physiological changes, allowing the woman to have sex — and to enjoy it.
Foreplay mistakes
Most women have similar complaints:
Men don’t kiss long enough
Men fixate on our breasts
… and then they rush straight to our crotch
Good foreplay avoids these pitfalls. Give long, lingering kisses. Don’t focus specifically on kissing the mouth. I personally love kissing, licking and nibbling on my neck and shoulders.
Don’t be breast-obsessed. Yes, my breasts and nipples are extremely sensitive, but I want you to pay attention to my entire body. Give breasts their fair share of attention and then move on.
No rushing! Foreplay should be relaxed and luxurious. We want to be touched all over. Sometimes, I want to be the one who tells you to touch my clit and vagina. Other times, I want my partner to take initiative and touch me there — but not until I’m ready. Some men don’t realize that touching before a woman is fully aroused can be uncomfortable or even painful. This is another reason not to hurry foreplay along.
There are some products you can use to hasten the arousal process. My favorite is an l-arginine cream that increases blood flow to intimate places.
Now, on to some tips and techniques to help you master foreplay.
Foreplay tips
The easiest thing you can do to earn your Ph.D. in foreplay is to enjoy it. This may sound difficult, but believe me, I can tell whether my partner’s into it! To me, one of the biggest turn-ons is knowing the person I’m with is enjoying themselves as much as I am. Remember — sex begins in the brain. Attitude is important.
If you don’t know what your partner likes, simply ask. Sometimes you should phrase the question as, “Do you prefer this or that?” Kisses or bites? Caresses or grabbing? Stroking her hair or pulling? It’s important to be communicative in bed (and I’m not just talking about her screaming your name ; ) so be prepared to tell your partner what you like, too.
Sexy talk is completely underrated by many people. But you’d be amazed how many people get excited by simple talk. A good way to test this is to tell your partner exactly what you’re going to do to her in great detail. That gets just about everyone revved up. If sexy talk isn’t your partner’s speed, you can still talk: tell her how beautiful she is, how happy you are to be fooling around with her, etc.
Go slow — until she asks you to go fast. Most men try to rush foreplay. To me, that’s like starting on your main course while your dinner partner is still working on the appetizer. Be polite and not hasty.
One of the reasons I like the VCream l-arginine cream is that a good, extended foreplay session gives it plenty of time to work. When it kicks in, I can really feel the difference — and that’s usually when foreplay becomes sex! To get a bottle of V-Cream, click here…
Remember: the ideal lover is someone who loves foreplay as much as his partner does. Use these foreplay tips to add a little more steam to your sex play!
Until next time!
~ Gabrielle Moore
How women’s libido-boosters work
Women have finally gotten their fair due in the category of all-natural sexual arousal and pleasure enhancers. Currently, there are dozens of such products on the market for men (not to mention several prescription meds that cater only to men), but only very recently have women’s products moved into consumer focus. It’s a booming segment of the natural supplement market that’s more popular than ever.
However, the use of herbs and nutrients to enhance women’s sex drives and pleasure is nothing new. For many years, folk medicine and naturopathic healing have had a variety of natural and botanical ingredients in their arsenal of tools to combat women’s flagging sexuality due to fatigue, stress, dietary deficiency, aging, hormonal changes or emotional upset. What’s new now is the availability of specialized, pre-calibrated formulas in new standardized dosages using many of these time-honored ingredients.
The great news is that the formulas work — so well that women are buying them in record numbers and celebrating the results. The bad news? That the natural supplement market is easily infiltrated by fakes and poseurs, products that do nothing but cost as much as the real thing.
The wise consumer should first gain an understanding of how these products work, and what goes into a quality supplement, then make an informed choice to enjoy the best results.
What you’re looking for is a non-prescription, balanced formula that can be taken as a daily supplement without side effects or interference with birth control or other medications you might be taking. The specific formulation varies by manufacturer, however, all formulas worth purchasing are created in a cGMP pharmaceutical-grade facility, of top-quality ingredients. Here’s what else to look for: The ingredients in a good supplement individually will work to promote better blood flow and increased muscular relaxation, plus act on hormones for increased, more energetic sexual response. In addition, the hormone-balancing factors in the formula may combat the negative effects of menopause, such as night sweats and hot flashes, and may even balance mood and attitude before or during menopause. Taken together, in a blend that is thoughtfully created and precisely calibrated, the effects on the overall female reproductive system are overwhelmingly positive — from a healthier, more satisfying sex life to natural fertility.
With all the choices out there, it takes a diligent researcher to find out which are the effective formulas. One that meets all the critieria above is Provestraâ„¢, which in addition to being an effective and very popular libido-booster for women, is also provided by one of the top legitimate companies in sexual health improvement for men and women. Here’s a partial list of Provestraâ„¢’s ingredients, and a description of how each works specifically on the female reproductive system:
Maca - legendary South American herb with centuries-old reputation for increasing libido
Red raspberry leaf - a female tonic, uterine contraction regulator, pregnancy herb
Red clover - a blood cleanser and nutritive, positive effects on hormonal systems regulating pregnancy and lactation
Cayenne pepper - a stimulant that equalizes circulation and strengthens the heart
Licorice root - a botanical that strengthens and tonifies the adrenal glands and enhances hormonal function
Bayberry fruit - natural ingredient that increases blood flow and capillary dilation in the mucus membranes of the vagina to enhance lubrication
Damiana leaf - a centuries-old remedy used as an aphrodisiac for its ability to stimulate genitals
Valerian root - a time-honored remedy that reduces tension and emotional stress, aids in a restful sleep, and eases menstrual cramps
Ginger root - a total system stimulant that enhances the action of other herbs
Black cohosh root - a favorite of midwives that acts on the uterine and vaginal ability to contract, balances hormones and has a mild sedative effect
Notice that the blend described above goes to work on the libido from multiple fronts: circulatory, hormonal, stress reduction, female-specific tonification and overall effects on the genitals. Other formulas may contain amino acids, vitamins, enzymes or various vegetable extracts. Though many of these ingredients are available individually from health food stores or herbal pharmacies, the prevailing wisdom today points to the superiority of formulas like this, that are pre-calibrated and blended to take the guesswork out of herbal extracts — not to mention the more economical approach of buying a complete tablet as opposed to a bewildering array of pills or tinctures that must be measured, mixed or calculated each day.
Results vary for individual women, but most report positive effects after only about a week or two on the supplement. Unlike prescription meds, these natural supplements have no side effects and can be obtained without a prescription or costly doctor’s office visit. Because of their safety and efficacy, natural supplements are the number one choice today among women seeking to improve their libido and sexual pleasure.
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