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5 Things She Secretly Wants in Bed
Sometimes even the most experienced lovers have trouble determining what a woman really wants. That is why it is so important for you to be attuned to your partner’s responses as you are making love. As you begin to understand the things that your woman wants in bed, you will actually grow closer and build an even stronger relationship with her.
There are many ways of communicating, and one of our most powerful ways to communicate is through sex. So you may have to discover by trial and error the things she secretly wants in bed but wouldn’t dare ask you. Yes it’s a tough job, but somebody’s got to do it!
When It Comes to Sex She Wants… She Will Tell You One Way or Another
Here are some tools that will come in handy when you are doing your ‘job’.
She Needs a Skilled Tongue.
Of course you went down there, but this skill is actually something much simpler: compliment her. Tell her that she is beautiful or sexy and make it personal. Zero in on traits that are uniquely hers like, “You have the biggest, most beautiful eyes (or whatever else you want to insert here)”. And a little compliment on her performance would not hurt either like, “It feels so good when you . . .” or “I love the way you . . .” By referring to her you make this sexual act extremely intimate.
She Wants You to ‘Listen and Lead’.
Most women want you to take the lead in lovemaking. While she wants you to satisfy her, it is equally important for her to know that you enjoyed the experience also. So notice what she likes. She may like being dominated or she may like to move around a lot, but as she gives you signals, be aware that she is taking your lead and responding to it. So you can amp up the action or tone it down and measure her response to each to understand what she prefers in bed. While she may never be able to verbalize what really turns her on in bed, if you are paying attention, she will tell you loud and clear.
She Wants You to Love Her COMPLETELY.
Make love to ALL of her. Take the time to set a romantic tone for the evening. Set a sexy mood and romance your woman by having something for all of the senses: gentle lighting, scented candles, soft music and lush bedding. By giving a woman time to shift gears and settle into a romantic state, you are assured that she will enjoy this experience as much as you do. As she becomes aroused, of course you can join in. Explore her entire body from the nape of her neck right down to her toes. Use your tongue to explore all of the sensitive parts of her body and work your way to her pleasure points.
She Wants to Reach a Mind-Blowing Orgasm!
Shockingly, many women do not reach a climax during sexual intercourse… but that doesn’t mean that they don’t want to! So tonight, bring on you’re sexual A-game and give each of her erogenous zones the time of its life!
Yes, She Wants You to Connect.
You always hear about women wanting to snuggle and talk immediately after sex. Consider that this is their way of finding a connection with you after sharing such an intensely private experience. If you like to talk and snuggle then you are all set, but if you prefer silence or a quick catnap after having sex, then this can work for both of you as well. Remember that it is all in the delivery. So rather than rolling over and settling into a snoring session, simply scoop her up in your arms, whisper to her how amazing she is, and settle in to catch forty winks. She will melt into your arms feeling safe and loved and… probably be asleep before you are.
So if you simply remember to pay attention to all the unspoken cues that your woman is offering you throughout your lovemaking session, you will always be able to tell what things she secretly wants in bed, and you can be her hero by always delivering them to her.
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10 Little Things You Can Do To Get On Her Good Side Forever
True, we women have 101 things that irritate us about the men in our lives but the truth is… we also find it hard to live without you! Men often say they’re clueless when it comes to women because admit it ladies, we CAN be hot and then cold in a matter of minutes! However, there are things that make our hearts melt almost instantly. So if you want to get on her good side all the time, then read on!
10 Reasons Why We Love Men…
1. You fix what’s broken at home.
We do love handymen! Sure, we’re all supportive of women power and all that stuff but deep inside nothing says “I’ll take care of you” more than a man who knows how to fix the roof… or plumbing… or the broken fence… etc.
2. You cook every now and then OR get take out on your own once in a while.
In most homes, women are the ones who cook and ensure that the family is fed. However, cooking 365 days a year can be taxing! So once in a while, surprise us and cook something. Really, it doesn’t have to be a 5-course meal. It can even just be take out. Just something that tells us that today is our ‘day off’ from the kitchen.
3. You put your socks and underwear in the right places.
Little things irritate us and little things make us happy. And putting your dirty laundry in the right place is one of those things that make us happy! We know it’s small thing to do but whenever you don’t do it here’s the message we get… ‘he’s not listening!’ or ‘he’s soooo insentsitive!’.
4. You realize when there’s no more toilet paper… and do something about it!
Screw leaving the toilet seat up! Women can also be called upon always leaving the seat down, right? But when you see the toilet paper gone and never re-fill it? Dude, that’s just insensitive.
5. You lift her bag of groceries for her.
No, we don’t want chivalry to be dead.
6. You bring home flowers.
When men bring home flowers, it just literally brightens our day! It shows that you’re thinking of us and want to make us happy.
7. You make us laugh!
We just love men with a good sense of humor! The ability to laugh at things is just what we need to lift us up from our drama episodes. And sometimes, when we’re extremely mad, just the right joke or funny face is all we need to banish all those frustrations aside.
8. Foot massages! Bliss…
Sitting on the coach together, watching TV. You reach out and draw our legs up and on your lap. You remove our shoes/slippers/socks/stockings and you give a nice foot massage. Ah, we’re yours forever!
9. You take foreplay seriously!
It’s really ironic that during the times we need attention most, that’s when you stop and move to the next stage. STAY exactly where you are for a while! We like enjoying the journey just as much as the destination. And, truth be told, we actually reach our destination better when the journey is good!
10. You give great oral action.
Few men know how to conquer us with their tongues. But once we find the guy who can make us moan, groan and thrash about simply by using that small muscle inside his mouth, we’re soooo sold!
Hot Tips to Help Her Give You the Best Oral Ever
There’s no doubt about it. Men love to receive oral sex and for the most part, women do love to give oral to their men. So what if your partner is not too keen on giving you oral sex? Does that mean you need to beg for it all the time? Not at all…
How to Make Her LOVE Giving You Oral Sex
Be Clean
For the most part, if a woman does not like giving oral sex then it’s a hygiene issue. Hold on! Before you start protesting, consider this. Sure, you bathe every morning but by the time you come home to your lover, surely you have visited the men’s room a couple of times at least and maybe even perspired a bit. Even those ‘little’ things can be conducive to your aroma down there. Keep in mind that your manhood has been ‘locked up’ all day and the exact minute you pull down your drawers may not be the best time for her to go down on you. So what to do?
Take a shower! It’s the easiest and cheapest way to ensure you smell clean and fresh down there. If you’re right smack in the middle of foreplay then simply suggest taking a sensual bath together!
You Are What You Eat
In the TV show Sex and the City, there’s this very popular episode where one of the characters has an issue swallowing her lover’s cum because it was ‘funky’.
Now, you may say that you are not at all forcing your woman to swallow your cum but you do emit some wetness of your own during oral sex you know. It’s called pre-cum and if it’s funky too you can bet that your lover will not be too enthusiastic to give you oral.
Also, come on, you KNOW you want her to at least try and swallow it even once so it’s in your best interest to make everything easy for her to choose to do just that.
So, if your cum is funky, why is that? Most likely it’s your diet. If you love to eat food with a lot of spices in it or like garlicky food, then chances are your cum will be ‘funky’. If you chug down cups of coffee, then your cum may have a bitter taste too. To change all this, simple change your diet.
Try to incorporate more fruits like kiwis, berries and pineapple into your food intake to change your cum from ‘funky’ to ‘sweet nectar’.
Of course, you can also incorporate certain edible things during oral sex to sort of disguise the taste of your cum; for this purpose, liquid chocolate, whipped cream, edible lube, and other come to mind.
Avoid Making Oral a ‘Movie Sex’ Moment
Contrary to what you see in adult movies, most women do NOT actually like it if you shove your manhood down her throat. It can be quite painful you know! So be gentle and let HER be in control of just how far down she wants you to go.
Think of Her Comfort Too
If women take their time to reach a climax, men can sometimes take forever too though oral sex. And although your lover may be willing to see it through till you reach your orgasm, she might not do so simply because she’s uncomfortable!
For instance, Jean (real name withheld for privacy) once told me that she and her lover like to have showers together which of course ends in her kneeling down and giving him oral. She loves doing it but she can’t do it long because it hurts her knees!
Anyway, her lover thought she just doesn’t like to give him oral and really wanted to experience that with her. Suffice it to say that after this issue was cleared out, they found out together that the best – and most pleasurable – position for them was to have him lying in bed while she lies on her stomach and gives him oral. For ‘variation’ they do the 69 too every now and then!
