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How to Reach the ‘Big O’ Together
It seems that most of the talk lately centers on how to enable you to give your partner an orgasm. There’s the g-spot orgasm, the clitoral orgasm, and so on. But what about reaching an orgasm… at the same time?
True, men and women are built differently and it IS a fact that women take longer to reach an orgasm (hence all that liter5ature about how YOU can delay yours) but still most couples hardly ever climax at the exact same time. So instead of ‘taking turns’ wouldn’t it be great if you can reach the ‘Big O’ at exactly the same time? Of course, it is!
How to Have Synchronized Orgasms
There are several reasons why you and your lover don’t climax together, let’s go over them one by one.
She got (too) used to climaxing via oral stimulation.
Oftentimes, women can only reach an orgasm during oral stimulation on their clitoris. And although it’s absolutely GREAT that you can bring her to a climax this way, keep in mind that it’s not THE only way to orgasm heaven for her.
The problem here is both you and your lover tend to rely on this method all too quickly instead of continuing to explore other orgasmic options. So tonight, avoid oral sex as a means to reaching an orgasm for her.
So now the question is HOW to ensure her climax during intercourse. Easy, simulate oral loving during intercourse. For instance, use warm lube so that she feels as if it’s still your warm mouth on her down there.
Also, instead of penetrating her all the way at the beginning, do a little teasing and just insert your manhood just about half of the way and thrust this way for a few minutes. This mimics your tongue going in and out of her.
As you penetrate her fully, reach down and continue to massage her clitoris. This is double stimulation for you and will surely push her to the edge!
You’re not waiting for her…
It’s often said that to orgasm together, you must learn how to delay your own orgasm. This is a valid argument and there are various ways to do this. However, what about focusing on speeding up hers too so that you meet each other half-way?
To do this, realize that sex with women begins in their minds. Yes, you need to mentally sex them up! This is why foreplay is soooo important. I want delve into foreplay techniques here but one of the questions I often get asked is how much foreplay is required? Well, that really depends on how sexually stimulated your woman is.
For instance, say you’ve been teasing her all day; this means that she’s probably VERY HOT already by the time you engage in foreplay. On the other hand, say that you’re in the mood and she’s so-so about the idea, this means you may have to spend more time on foreplay to get her to the same sexual state as you are.
Either way, this is what I tell most clients: as a rule of thumb, engage in foreplay until she’s REALLY wet and panting. This way, by the time penetration occurs, she’s really near her climax already.
Good luck!
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Blended Orgasms
We women are so lucky. Not only can we reach a climax via our clitorises, we can also have one via our g-spots! But then again, it’s so hard – almost impossible really – to find a guy who can really give us out of this world pleasure.
We already consider ourselves darn lucky if you know how to give us excellent oral play. If you can find and stimulate our gspots, you’re a master lover in our books. And if – by some stroke of genius – you can bring us to both a clitoral and gpot orgasm at the same time… we will proclaim you a SEX GOD not just in the bedroom but to all our friends!
So, if you want to be a sex god, then read on and find out how you can give us a blended orgasm.
Combi Climax 101
The clitoris and the gspot are on two different areas of a woman’s body and each one can produce a different type of climax. So if you are able to make your partner climax from both areas at the same time then you can imagine just how forceful her climax can be.
But before you try and convince your lover to agree to allow you to bring her to a combination climax, it may actually be best if she does this on her own first. This way, she can guide you better as to what makes her really excited and this gets rid of any possible awkwardness or even discomfort for her later on when you guys make love.
So tell your partner to engage in some masturbation time. If she’s not one to do this often, encourage her by buying her adult literature, new sexy lingerie, or even a sex toy to encourage her to do so.
She should learn how to arouse herself by fondling her clit. Once, she’s wet and panting, she should go about locating and titillating her gspot. Once she finds it, she should use her other hand to fondle her clitoris again until she comes to a spectacular display of mental fireworks!
Now, it’s time for you to enter the picture…
Engage in heavy foreplay, keeping in mind that the more aroused she is, the easier it is for you to find her gspot. Treat her to the masterfulness of your tongue as you perform oral sex on her. When you feel she’s almost at the edge, break off and then insert one or two fingers inside her.
With her guidance, find her gspot and stimulate it. If she feels like urinating, put her at ease by saying that the feeling will soon pass. (It will!) The important thing is to keep at it so that the ‘build up’ of sexual tension goes on.
Gspot orgasms come faster so the minute you locate it, bend down so you can perform cunnilingus again on her clitoris. You can also use the thumb of your hand (use the same hand if your hands are big, or use your other free hand) to stimulate her clit. Another mind-blowing idea is to hold a small vibrator and treat her clit to this. She’ll be thrashing wildly in no time!
You can also induce a Blended O via intercourse!
Try doggy-style. Ask your woman to get on all fours. When you enter her at this angle, your penis is perfectly aligned to hit her gspot. Now, simply reach down with your hand and fondle her clitoris.
Try reverse cow-girl. You won’t have any issues asking your lover to go on top because we women love this position! In this one though, she should face your feet as she gets on top. This puts your penis at a great angle to hit her gspot and it’s easy for her to reach down and fondle her clit.
For variation, she can also face you but she should pull her upper body slightly away. This gives you great access to her clitoris as your penis hits and tantalizes her gspot.
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How to Get Her Ready for You
Most women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. In fact, some studies show that 10% of all women do not even reach an orgasm in their lifetimes! TRAGIC!
So if your partner reaches a climax now and then does that mean you’re already a sex god? Hell no! What you should do is aim to increase her level of orgasm instances. And following are my tips to help you along this endeavor.
How to Speed Up Her ‘Big O’
Encourage her to spend some ‘self-love’ time. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women really should be responsible when it comes to knowing what makes them tic sexually. Ladies, men are really not mind readers! To be more blunt, if your girlfriend/wife doesn’t know where her g-spot is, how the hell should you know that?!? So encourage your woman to engage in a little masturbation time.
Tell her that knowing her body is important so she can tell you EXACTLY what she wants and needs sexually. If she needs more prodding, give her gifts! Start with some hot and sexy lingerie, working your way up to a nice and small vibrator she can practice on. (Make sure you provide the batteries right away.)
Paint a lovely, wild and erotic story for her. We women are truly mental pictures. We need to be sexed up in our minds first and only then will the love juices come in droves! So here’s a tip for you: write down an x-rated story. If you think this is hard, it’s not at all; just like write down your sexual fantasy. If you like, you can even just record your voice instead of writing things down.
So start by how you envision her (maybe wearing that lingerie you gave?) and then how you just love watching her playing with herself (maybe using that vibrator you gave?), and how with all her thrashing and groaning and grinding, you couldn’t help but kneel down on the bed, bow your head and… to be continued!
This erotic script will make her thing of sex all day and wait in hot anticipation for you! And believe me, when she’s in this state already, it won’t take long for her to reach an orgasm when you guys finally do the deed.
Why focus on one hot button when you can focus on many? You have two hands, a mouth and you’re perfect penis so why not use them ALL at the same time during sex? Sometimes, you get so absorbed with their thrusting, that you forget that you can stimulate so many zones on her body.
For instance, while engaging in intercourse, reach down with one hand and play with her clitoris. You can also engage in oral sex and then reach up and fondle her erect nipples. When she’s buckling and moaning beneath you, replace your tongue with your manhood but continue fondling her breasts. She’ll be so dazed with pleasure that she’ll reach her orgasm soon.
Bring out the gizmos! I know we already discussed vibrators in my first tip above but this time, why not use one for your mutual benefit. They are many buzzing sex toys around now that you can position between the two of you.
For instance, place one of these buzz toys between you and have her go woman on top. As she grinds against you, a buzz is created stimulating her clitoris and your penis. Instant orgasms in no time!
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