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Why You Should ‘Look Back’ on Your Relationship
“You should live in the present for the future… and not in the past.”
In most instances, that is applicable. However, when it comes to relationships, it will actually do you well to look back at the start of your relationship often. This is especially applicable if you and your partner have entered the dreaded ‘routine’ phase of your relationship.
Although it’s great – and I, for one, surely recommend it – to explore NEW things in a relationship, sometimes looking back at the start of your relationship brings the same results. Confused? Don’t be. Read on and find out what I mean.
What attracted you to each other in the FIRST place?
Think about you and your partner’s very first meeting? Where was it? And what attracted you to each other?
After thinking about this for a while, a male client in my practice told me that he met his partner at work and what attracted him most to her was her ‘go getter’ attitude; to quote him “she was fierce… but she was ALWAYS smiling”.
So I asked him where is this ‘fierce yet seemingly happy person’?
He said “I don’t know.”
So of course, we set on a plan for him to communicate with his partner. A couple of weeks later, he told me that she somehow just felt it was her ‘duty’ to be at home. He said that was nonsense and encouraged her to undertake volunteer work or even a part-time job.
That small change gave his partner back her confidence… outside the house and inside the bedroom!
Bring back DATE NIGHT.
As couples settle into each other, date night seems to be the first thing out the window. Most couples I talk to say that it’s just not that exciting anymore to go out ‘on a date’; sort of like ‘been there, done that’. However, this is exactly the wrong attitude to take!
You see date night is all about being together alone and spending time with each other. Of course, you can make certain changes. For instance, don’t go to the pizza parlor anymore but have a sit-down dinner at a restaurant. However, do note that you don’t need to replace everything with something more ‘grown up’. Watching a movie, walking by the beach and eating ice cream are all ageless date night staples!
Look Back to the Romantic in You
Most women complain that their partners are not romantics anymore. It seems that with each passing year together, romance dies a little too. So look back to what you did when you were still wooing your partner.
When did you stop giving her flowers, chocolates, loves notes and what nots? Well, whatever the reason, bring that side of you back! And please, don’t think that this is just for her. This is for you too!
By being a romantic once again, you’ll see that she’ll be changing – for the better – too. She’ll be sweeter, kinder… and yes, wilder too!
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Top 8 Ways to Keep Her Happy
You often hear that as time goes by, lovers/couples tend to take each other for granted, which often leads to the demise of the relationship. So, on your end, what can you do to ensure that you keep her happy? Read on and be confused no more.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #1. Don’t pretend to be someone else.
It’s logical to ‘put your best foot forward’ during the courtship stage but be sure that she didn’t fall for someone completely different from who you really are. Remember that nothing can be sexier to women than a man who is relaxed and confident in his own skin. If you’ve already made the mistake of making her believe you’re different than who you are, then now’s the time to come clean. If you don’t, it would be near to impossible to keep her happy in the long run.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #2. It’s true; it’s the little things that count.
When was the last time you brought her flowers? Most men think that to make their women happy, they need to splurge and give grand gifts. More often than not, you need only to buy her some flowers, or call her mid-day for no reason whatsoever, or buy her favorite candy, to make her completely happy.
Also, when was the last time you COMPLIMENTED her? A simply comment like “your hair looks great today” or “that blouse looks great on you” will keep her smiling all day.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #3. Only have eyes for her.
Ok, I know that men like to look around at other women, but please do be cautious of your actions when you are with her. For you, this may be nothing at all but for her this is screaming “unfaithful!”. Women want partners they can trust and depend on… be that man by having eyes only for her when you go out.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #4. Humor her!
Seriously, laughter is so UNDER-rated. Take some time to share a joke or two. It will make her happy and strengthen your bond.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #5. Pick up a hobby you can do together.
When I mention this to other men, I get the classic roll of the eyes. However, there must be something you too like together. Otherwise, how did you ever get together in the first place?!? So, find some common hobby you can both engage in.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #6. Take care of yourself.
Who says that it’s only women who ‘let go of themselves’ when they are in a relationship? Most men develop spare tires, annoying toilet habits and lose fashion sense along the way too. Here’s an exercise, take good look at yourself in the mirror. Compare this person to the guy she met when you started your relationship. How different are you now from that man? Be honest with your answer and see what you can and should do about it.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #7. Get really acquainted with her friends and family.
You don’t need to fall in love with her family and circle of friends but you should at least show some effort in getting to know them. Your girlfriend/wife – and you for that matter –should not be put in a situation where she has to choose between them and you. It should feel like she’s adding you to her world. Besides, this can work in your favor too. During rough times, her family and friends can rally for YOU.
Keep-Her-Happy Tip #8. Keep things fresh and exciting!
Starting a relationship is always great because you have that giddy everything-is-new feeling. If you’re not careful, you and your partner can easily take things for granted, fall into a routine, and before you know it boredom is hitting you both hard! And this applies to inside and outside the bedroom.
As such, ensure that there’s always something new to experience and share. Take weekend trips to new places; continue taking dates, trying our different restaurants; and of course, explore your sexuality more and more by trying different positions, ‘accessories’, and so on.
Good luck!
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Top 5 ‘Relationship Bonding’ Activities
Anything that doesn’t get ‘upgraded’ gets stale and that includes relationships. Sure, you may have a great relationship now but if you’re not careful, things will become ROUTINE soon and with that… boredom. As such, it’s important to try new together. Besides, there’s another great reason to go out and do new things together: it creates opportunities for you and your lover to really bond with each other.
Plan ‘dates’ together. Sometimes, going out on dates don’t work anymore with ‘stable couples’ because your dates involve doing the same thing over and over again. Another reason is because either you or your lover ‘demand’ a certain type of date from the other. Not really fair, is it? Read on for some date tips to plan together.
- Go on picnics. It’s cheap, relaxing, and romantic! Why not plan a sexy picnic together? The key is to include elements you BOTH like. For instance, be sure the food and wine is to both your liking. Also, NO RULES. Be carefree and just see how the day develops!
- The ‘movie and eat out’ combo still works! To up the ante on this classic date, try to go out of your comfort zone and watch other types of movies like horror or even adult movies. That would give you something to talk about later!
- Experiment with new restaurants, bars, pubs. Stop going to the same places and be adventurous! Seek out newly opened restos, bars and pubs and make a goal to discover ‘the best mocktail’ or ‘the best nachos’, and so on.
Get fit together. Sometimes, getting too comfortable in a relationship means letting go of healthy eating habits. But instead of doing it alone, why not get fit together? Go get gym memberships together or take swimming lessons together. Pick an activity you both like so you guys stick with it.
Road trip time! Go out and enjoy the country. And yes, avoid making rules like you need to be at this place at this time. The purpose of the road trip is just to be ‘out there’ and it will make you re-learn how it is to be each other without any rules to follow and obligations to fulfill.
Meet new people. Sometimes, to re-awaken our energy we need the curiosity and fresh insight of new friends. Plus, this creates for new environments and new experiences too. So go to a local club, go online, or even do volunteer work and see if you can hook up with others in your community.
Discover your next ‘Best Position’ together! Nothing can liven up a dull sex life than trying out new sex positions! There are literally so many things you can do for this. You can try watching adult movies, venturing into a sex shop, reading an adult educational book (Kama Sutra for Dummies, anyone?), attending sex seminars, buying and trying out different sex toys, role playing, trying Tantric Sex, and so on! Let this be your goal: find the best sex position to bring about the most body-curling orgasm ever. THAT objective will surely keep things busy in the bedroom for quite a while.
Good luck!
