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4 Items to Consider Before You Try Swinging
You and your partner have thought about it, and you think that you want to swing, and we’re not talking about dancing here. While fantasies of having amazing sex with two women dance through your head, or any of the other sexual permutations that swinging would allow, you want to think long and hard before you take any steps to bring this plan to fruition.
Consider if this dream is special enough for you to roll the dice on your current relationship. Of course you will need a really solid relationship, but that may not be enough to stand the test of swinging. Once you take the plunge, it cannot be undone. It is like trying to “un-speak” a word or put toothpaste back into the tube. It’s just not going to happen.
It’s an “All In” Proposition
Here is the problem. You cannot kind of swing. It is like being pregnant. Either you are or you are not. The problem with swinging is that even with the most pure intentions, you are working with human beings, and there are so many variables and potential problem areas, that if you do decide to go down this road, you need to be mindful of how you navigate. Here are 4 items to consider before you try swinging.
Be Clear
When you and your mate are deciding if you want to give swinging a try be very clear as to what your reasons and expectations of this path are. There are as many reasons to try swinging as there are individuals who try it, but with so much as stake, it is important for you and your mate to be on the same page when it comes to swinging.
You may think that you sex life is too predictable and view swinging as a way to spice up the action a little. Maybe you both want to further understand yourselves as sexual beings. Maybe you have fantasies of man on man or woman on woman sex. Consider, before taking this step, that there are monogamous ways to satiate all of these cravings as well, so consider them before taking the next step.
A pitfall that many couples fall into when trekking down this path is that they assume that their relationship is plenty strong enough to survive a romp in the sack with another partner. However, no one knows how they will truly react to having their partner involved with another lover, and the results can be devastating.
Start Discreetly
If you do decide that swinging is the direction that you want to go, the Internet can be a great source for finding a swing partner. A quick search will yield more results than you know what to do with. From parties to clubs to discussion forums, everything that you need to get started can be found online.
There is even an international organization devoted entirely to swingers, NASCA, where you can locate anything in the world that has to do with swinging.
Follow the Rules
While the rules of swinging are whatever you want to make them, it is extremely important that you respect and follow the house rules always. One club or party may have few if any rules while another may have very specific rules of conduct. It is up to you to know the rules before jumping in and having fun, and it is important that you follow them. And it is not enough to follow the house rules, but take care not to assume that because you meet someone at a swingers party that they are looking for the same thing that you are. And remember, that they likely have a partner as well, and you do not want to offend on so many levels. So ask and get permission before crossing any boundaries.
Communication
If you are going to embrace a swinging lifestyle, you need to have excellent communication as a couple. You also need to be thoughtful and respectful to each other. Just as the decision to join the swinging lifestyle should not be made with undue pressure on each other, so too should each new experience be explored without expectations or pressure to perform. If one partner is uncomfortable or reluctant to try something, the other partner must respect their decision. This is the only way you have a chance at surviving swinging as a couple.
If your relationship has even a hint of jealousy or insecurity, then run, don’t walk, as far away from the swinging lifestyle as you possibly can, because it will eat you alive. However, if you and your partner are like minded in your interest in swinging, and you have amazing communication skills and not a jealous bone in your body, then you may find your niche in the swinging community. Remember, proceed thoughtfully, because once you start swinging, there is no undoing it.
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How to Striptease with Confidence
The tips provided in this article will get you started with the art of stripteasing in no time! Learning how to striptease would help boost your self-confidence; it is also sexually arousing for both parties and most importantly, it spices up the romance between couples. You have the power to bring back sexual excitement in your life, so what are you still waiting for?
#1: Slip into an exotic outfit.
Your choice of outfits here is unlimited; the important thing however is to go for a new and sexy outfit or one you use only occasionally. You could also experiment with fantasy themes including a schoolgirl uniform, a maid’s dress or a policewoman’s outfit (for women), and a cowboy or policeman costume (for men). The important thing is to use an outfit that will get your lover excited about the whole thing. Don’t forget that you also need to make yourself look tantalizing.
#2: Create an air of romance.
Make sure the lighting is perfect – it shouldn’t be too bright or too dark. You should also light a few candles and perfume the air. You also want to have romantic (or rompy) music playing continuously in the background. Open your favorite bottle of wine and leave it chilling in a bowl of ice.
#3: Getting started.
We’ve been assuming that up till this moment, your partner’s absent for some reason. So this is the part where he/she walks into the room surprised. This is no time for talk, only actions. So gently blindfold your lover and guide him/her to a couch. Let the music continue to do the talking.
#4: What to do next…
Take his/her hands and bring them to touch your thighs and gently raise them higher. Then slowly untie the blindfold and make sure your lover sees you cat-walking sexily into the distance. You’re already wetting his/her appetite with this and from this moment, everything you do must be perfect to have your partner’s complete and undivided attention.
#5: Erotic dancing is next.
The secret is to remain comfortable, maintain steady eye contact and move your body to the slow rhythm of the music. Slowly and steadily remove every piece of clothing until all you’re wearing is next to nothing. Let your lover fantasize about you. You may decide to give him/her a lap dance at this point.
Move seductively towards your lover to the rhythm of the music. Slowly run your hands over your body: face, neck, breasts/chest, abdomen and then from your behind to your inner thighs and then slowly to your genitals.
Remember that the purpose is to tease not to have sex so no matter how bad your partner wants you, remain in control. If you anticipate his/her won’t be able to refrain from touching you, you may use restraints like handcuffs / rope / tie / scarf.
The idea behind strip teasing is to have your partner turned on so much he/she us literally in the palm of your hands. How you decide to end things depends on what dancing techniques you use. You may decide to end up completely naked and since you’re a couple… what the hell! Torture your lover a little and enjoy wild sex after that.
