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How to Striptease with Confidence
The tips provided in this article will get you started with the art of stripteasing in no time! Learning how to striptease would help boost your self-confidence; it is also sexually arousing for both parties and most importantly, it spices up the romance between couples. You have the power to bring back sexual excitement in your life, so what are you still waiting for?
#1: Slip into an exotic outfit.
Your choice of outfits here is unlimited; the important thing however is to go for a new and sexy outfit or one you use only occasionally. You could also experiment with fantasy themes including a schoolgirl uniform, a maid’s dress or a policewoman’s outfit (for women), and a cowboy or policeman costume (for men). The important thing is to use an outfit that will get your lover excited about the whole thing. Don’t forget that you also need to make yourself look tantalizing.
#2: Create an air of romance.
Make sure the lighting is perfect – it shouldn’t be too bright or too dark. You should also light a few candles and perfume the air. You also want to have romantic (or rompy) music playing continuously in the background. Open your favorite bottle of wine and leave it chilling in a bowl of ice.
#3: Getting started.
We’ve been assuming that up till this moment, your partner’s absent for some reason. So this is the part where he/she walks into the room surprised. This is no time for talk, only actions. So gently blindfold your lover and guide him/her to a couch. Let the music continue to do the talking.
#4: What to do next…
Take his/her hands and bring them to touch your thighs and gently raise them higher. Then slowly untie the blindfold and make sure your lover sees you cat-walking sexily into the distance. You’re already wetting his/her appetite with this and from this moment, everything you do must be perfect to have your partner’s complete and undivided attention.
#5: Erotic dancing is next.
The secret is to remain comfortable, maintain steady eye contact and move your body to the slow rhythm of the music. Slowly and steadily remove every piece of clothing until all you’re wearing is next to nothing. Let your lover fantasize about you. You may decide to give him/her a lap dance at this point.
Move seductively towards your lover to the rhythm of the music. Slowly run your hands over your body: face, neck, breasts/chest, abdomen and then from your behind to your inner thighs and then slowly to your genitals.
Remember that the purpose is to tease not to have sex so no matter how bad your partner wants you, remain in control. If you anticipate his/her won’t be able to refrain from touching you, you may use restraints like handcuffs / rope / tie / scarf.
The idea behind strip teasing is to have your partner turned on so much he/she us literally in the palm of your hands. How you decide to end things depends on what dancing techniques you use. You may decide to end up completely naked and since you’re a couple… what the hell! Torture your lover a little and enjoy wild sex after that.
How to Perform a Lap Dance
This one is for the ladies. Of course, if you men out there want to try it…
Lap dancing isn’t just for pros alone, anyone with the desire and determination to learn can begin bumping and grinding in no time at all. Spice up your romance life by learning these lap dancing tips.
#1: Be comfortable with your body.
The basic truth is that you can’t look sexy if you don’t feel sexy, and you cannot feel sexy if you’re not comfortable with the way you look. So have a good body image. If you feel and act sexy then your partner will look at you in a sexy way too.
#2: Get some ‘training’.
You don’t need to enroll in some fancy lap dance school. (Of course, you can if you want to.) If you don’t have any idea on how to perform a lap dance then simply rent some adult videos or movies you know contains a scene like this. Study the moves you see in private first if that helps you.
However, do note that there really is no hard-fast rules to performing a lap dance. As long as it’s sexy and your partner digs it, then you’ve accomplished your goal!
#3: Choose the right outfit.
A sexy outfit is needed to drive your man into the right mood – hot panties, skimpy lingerie, a see-through night robe or a hardcore cop outfit are a few of the options available. Basically, you could use any outfit you know would drive your partner wild. Remember also that you should be able to easily slip out of any outfit you choose.
#4: Create a romantic atmosphere.
Dim the lights, perfume the air and light some candles. The room shouldn’t be too hot or cold. Spice this up with slow and sensual music.
#5: Loosen up.
I recommend drinking a few sips of wine to help you loosen up. It’ll definitely set you sailing smoothly. It’s a great idea to also have your partner relaxed too. The idea here is to take just enough alcohol to help you relax and not getting drunk.
#6: Boundaries are important.
Before beginning, your partner should know what his boundaries are (if any). For instance, you shouldn’t allow him touch you or suck your nipples – no matter how badly he wants to - if you don’t want him to as part of the teasing aspect of your lap dance.
In fact, don’t give in even if he begs for it. You’re in control and the longer you make him wait for it, the better your coming together will be!
#7: Positioning.
Begin by slowly cat-walking toward him until you’re near enough. Gracefully lift a leg and place it between your partner’s wide-opened legs and then place the other leg on the arm of the chair.
#8: Teasing.
While moving seductively to the rhythm of the music, slowly run your hands over your body: face, neck, breasts, abdomen and then from your ‘behind’ to your inner thighs and then slowly to your vulva. The idea is to turn him on completely and have him fantasizing. You need to keep him spell-bound! Make his heart race!
Slowly and seductively take off your clothes – everything except for that sexy bra and G-string. By this time, he’s almost having a stroke. Always remember that innovation is important – new techniques are important to make him look forward to your lap dances.
#9: Don’t let the donkey have the carrot.
No matter how much he wants to grab you and make sweet love, you cannot give in. You want to keep him on the very edge. Eye contact is also very important as you need to make him want you so badly.
#10: Work it slow, then bump and grind.
Slowly lean toward his ears, making sure your breasts are right in front of his face. Nibble, lick, and bite his ears softly; you can also say naughty things into his ears. Softly nibble his neck while moaning softly. Communication is essential. Reposition yourself, slowly sinking yourself just enough for your sweet stuff to be in touch with his erect penis. This is where the bumping and grinding comes in. Don’t do this too long or both of you may give in eventually!
Remember the best lap dancers are those who know how to tease a man and remain in control – and their best kept secret is their power to be innovative. Good luck!
Six Ways Guaranteed to Get Her Turned On!
If your woman says she’s tired or has a headache and isn’t in the mood for sex, don’t question her. The worst thing you can do is question that she’s’ not feeling well or just too tired to get frisky.
The best thing you can do, by contrast, is to have some sympathy, some compassion. But you can mix that compassion with a desire to get her turned on. Sometimes women are tired and just think that having sex is too much effort, but once they begin to get turned on, they forget they’re tired, they forget the headache.
So, how can you turn your woman on when she’s convinced that she can’t be turned on?
Top 6 Tips to Turn Your Woman On…
1. Take some of the workload away.
Argue all you want, but the truth is women carry more of the workload at home. Most women do the bulk of the cooking, the cleaning and the child rearing. Often they pay the bills, handle the social calendar and oversee home renovations and decorating. Hey, we’re busy!
If you want to help your woman relax, offer to do some of the work for her one night. Offer to cook, or bring dinner home. If you have children, tell her you’ll be the one to give them baths and get them in bed. She can rest and read a magazine.
Not only will you help her with her fatigue if you do these things, but you’ll make her appreciate you, which often puts women in the mood to show you how much she appreciates it?
2. Run a bath for her.
You’re horny as can be, but she’s saying she’s tired, has a backache, and a headache. Run her a bath, complete with bubbles and perhaps even some soothing, sexy music. Then leave her alone. Let her relax and soak up the pleasure of the bath. Not only will she appreciate you for doing this for her, but the bath will help her to relax and it might even rid her of her headache.
If she’s amenable, you might want to offer to wash her back or wash her hair. Both can be sensual and sexy. You might turn her on just through the sheer pleasure of either activity, which can lead from a relaxing massage to a sexual massage. Hey, you never know.
3. Offer her a drink.
You might do this while she’s in the tub, but the idea here is to help her relax. Now, we don’t suggest using alcohol as a crutch, but if she has a healthy (non-addictive) relationship with alcohol, then by all means, offer her a cocktail or a glass of wine.
The alcohol will help her relax, forget problems and focus on other things (which, you hope, will be lovemaking).
4. Give her a massage.
Again, just offering this will give her some appreciation for your generous nature, but you can turn this into a sensual massage by using oils, or just by giving her a slow, full body massage. Don’t be obvious (such as constantly having your hands and fingers foray into ‘sensitive’ areas on her body), but you can use gentle strokes to remind her that you’re there.
Also, don’t ask for a massage in return! This is about a non-reciprocal arrangement designed to help her relax, to get her in the mood for lovemaking.
5. Offer to cuddle with her.
Sometimes when women are feeling tired, or they are in the midst of a killer headache, they forget how therapeutic the human touch can be.
But if you know how to cuddle her correctly, you can help her forget those concerns and focus on you. Offer to let her lay on you while you watch TV or a movie she likes. Gently caress her head (not so much, though, that she falls asleep) and gently fondle her breasts. Don’t do it like you intend for that fondling to go further, but rather do it because you enjoy it. If you are gentle, you’ll soon notice that her body will automatically react to you.
6. Watch an adult-rated movie.
Yes, this is the most obvious of all the tips I’m offering to get her in the mood, but hear me out – the right x-rated movie can make a woman want to make love sooner than you think.
If you choose the movie wisely (tip: we’re suckers for romantic, adult-rated movies), you create an environment where she can realize and say, “Oh, yeah, sex IS fun. Let’s do it.” It might sound simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how effective this method can be.
One caveat about this tip, however – be sure that it’s OK with her to watch a romantic, yet adult movie tonight. If you just turn it on, you run the risk of completely turning her off. This has to be something you talk to her about first.
Alright! Use these tips the next time your woman says she’s just too tired, or has too much of a headache to make love. You could do all six of our tips in one night (which will surely lead to some fun) or you might incorporate only one or two, holding the others for another time. Either way there’s a good chance your woman will respond favorably.
