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Are You TOO Quiet in Bed?
You often hear it said that women should ‘let go’ to reach their orgasms and this is indeed good advice but what about you? Are you truly letting go while having sex? Now a lot of men will say that they do. After all, don’t you always reach your orgasm? Thought so. But here’s where we women think men are NOT letting go: during the actual orgasm.
As far as I know (read: revelations from my girlfriends and women I consult with), most men simply scrunch their faces and let out a visible sigh when they’re coming. Now, mind you, we don’t want you to end up screaming like a hyena but you may want to explore being more ‘vocal’ when you’re about to come. Read on for the WHY part.
Top 3 Reasons Why Being Loud in Bed is Good for You
Ok, first of all loud does NOT necessarily mean scream. Loud can be dirty talk or really giving in to what you’re feeling while you’re cumming. You see most men will just give a short grunt and to be honest that’s not really satisfying for us women and we do feel that it’s not satisfying for you either. So here are a few more reasons why you should be louder in bed.
It’s good for HER ego.
Ok, so we’re being a little selfish here but it’s the truth all the same. You see, here’s what going through our minds when you’re quiet in bed as you climax: what is he really thinking/feeling? On the other hand, if you REALLY grunt or moan loudly or say something like “Yeahhhhhh!”, then this is what we selfishly perceive.
- I am a Sex Goddess because I am doing THIS to him!
- Oh yeah baby, this is pleasure you will NEVER get anywhere else.
We women swear… you will FEEL more powerful orgasms.
Women all over the world claim that if they let go and scream as they come, they do get more powerful, mind-blowing orgasms so the theory is… you will too! Actually – and I did ask my man this too – most men tend to be quiet because they are focusing (too hard?) on the ONCOMING release. So why not just ‘let go’ and focus on the actual release instead and if it means letting out the loudest groan, moan or swear you can ever emit… then so be it.
So, if you’re a bit lost as to what to shout out loud, here are a few examples to try.
1) God this is good. God this is good. God this is GOOOD!
2) Give it to me baby. Give it…
3) Oh [insert her name here], Oh [insert her name here], [her name]!!!!!
Hot, Sexy Picnic Ideas
Sometimes, the simplest ideas are the most romantic and/or racy ones. Just because times are hard these days do not mean that you should forego ‘eating out’. What to do? Try going out with your lover on a sexy, romantic picnic!
Before we dive on the tips below, consider if it’s best to surprise your woman or to plan it with her. Heck, why not try a both? Surprise her one time, and go another time with you two planning it together! Either way, consider the picnic tips below!
Tip #1 – It’s going to be warm… so dress less.
If the purpose is to titillate each other so that the other one can’t think of anything but sex, then dress for less! At least, you have the excuse of the weather being warm for not wearing a lot of clothes on. For instance, for guys, ditch the shirt. We ladies just love bare-chested hunks with nothing more than short shorts and sunglasses one. For women, put on your skimpiest tops. And ditch the bra of course!
Tip #2 – pack up on aphrodisiacs.
There’s nothing wrong with getting a little help from foods that are known to bring on the horny juice. Pack a bottle of wine or champagne. You don’t need a special occasion to indulge in them. The picnic IS the special occasion. As for the food, anything phallus-shaped rocks! So be sure you have some whole carrots, whole bananas or whole celery sticks. Cherries conjure sinful ideas too (such as a woman’s clitoris) so be sure you bring nice, shiny plump ones too. If you’re out to splurge, then oysters and salmon are great picks too.
Tip #3 – bring a naughty board game.
After teasing each other while gorging on the sexy food and drinks, bring out the sex-themed board game. Just keep in mind that you’re in a public place so nothing too racy please. (Before you know it, parents will be chasing after their kids who happen to go near you!) For instance, dirty cards (for say, strip poker) are out of the question but romantic dice cubes are ok.
Also, claim certain ‘penalties’ later and not while you guys are still in the park or picnic grounds. For instance, playing naughty twister? Some penalties such as sucking on a nipple are best done at home.
Tip #4 – bring a racy novel to read.
A great thing to do during a picnic is to just laze about and read a book. But since this is a sex-themed picnic we’re talking about here, bring in adult literature instead. Just be careful that you cover the front of known adult magazines such as Playboy or Penthouse. For women, it’s probably easier because there are a lot of ‘romance novels’ in the market that contain plenty of racy love scenes! Whatever erotic literature you bring, the idea is to look at your partner as the object of your naughty, racy thoughts.
Tip #5 – play your own naughty game.
If you don’t want to bring a naughty board game and reading adult publications don’t exactly turn you on, then why not play your own personal, naughty game? For instance, sit on opposite sides of your picnic blanket, with each one of you having pen and paper. Don’t talk to each other, just maintain eye contact. And then start passing really racy notes, detailing exactly what you want to do to your lover if you can right now. For example, say something like “I’m going to rip off that skimpy top of yours, bring your arms to your back around that tree your resting on, and eat your…” You get the picture.
A naughty summer picnic is something that’s easy to do and yet is great for bonding, romantic or otherwise. Go try it and see how much fun you’ll have!
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Sexy, Horny Gift Ideas
It’s that time once again: her birthday, your anniversary, you goofed up and you want to say you’re sorry. All these are occasions when you have to find a unique gift to give your woman. But what?!? You’re simply running out of ideas! Relax. My list below will surely help you.
Adult candies. Candies are always great gifts and are perfect if all you want to says is a simple sorry to your woman. What’s sexy about this? Well, for example, there are mints you can buy that come in metal boxes engraved with a Kama Sutra position at the top! Slip in a short note saying you’re sorry and that you’ll make it up to her tonight.
My personal favorites are adult chocolates. They can come shaped as female genitalia or the male penis. You’ll have fun licking and devouring it. And then, there are the ‘butt chocolates’. These bonbons look like someone’s – you guessed it – behind and the intention is for you to place one bonbon on her backdoor hole and lap it up!
A subscription to adult literature. Adult movies are not a great idea as most women find porn offensive. However, that does not mean they hate all adult literature! Give her a novel with A LOT of sex scenes in it and she’ll devour I in one afternoon. If she fancies a particular adult magazine, get a subscription for her. Trust me. This is as much a gift for you as it is for her!
Red, hot lingerie. Sexy lingerie NEVER goes out of style. Buy her some hot stockings or crotch-less undies and you’re good. If you want to be naughtier, give her a pair of exotic, silk blindfolds and experiment tonight.
Sex game paraphernalia. Give her a sex board game, x-rated cards and/or dice, a Kama Sutra coupon book (she can cut or tear a ‘position’ out anytime and ‘redeem’ it from you!), massage oil, special scented candles, and more! Not only are these gifts fun but they are literally an investment in your relationship.
Sex toys! Sex toys! Sex toys! Depending on how your woman feels about self-pleasuring, buy her her first ever sex toy… or add to her collection! There are a lot of adult online stores you can preview for this and they are sent discreetly (often in a plain, unmarked box) to your home or office.
Give her a (sex) call. When gifts need to be accompanied with words, then what’s better than giving your lady a sex call. Ring her up, greet her or say you’re sorry, and move on to more ‘adult talk’. A variation of this is to leave her a note saying that SOMEONE will call her later for an appointment to fix the garage or whatever. When the phone rings it’s you, she knows it’s you, but you insist you’re “Mark” and then you proceed to talk in a husky, sexy voice. Easing into adult talk should be easy then.
When it comes to gifts, think outside the box and don’t just rely on the old staples. Your woman will love you for it and you’re relationship will be spicier than ever!
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