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Destress Your Relationship
Stress is one of the things that can really ruin a relationship. The problem with stress is that it seems to creep up ever so slowly on you and before you know it, there’s this gargantuan wall between you and your lover.
The worst thing you can do is to ignore this stress. The more you ignore it, the bigger it becomes and the more it would negatively affect your relationship. So what do you do? Read on for tips on how you can slowly but surely de-stress your relationship.
Five Ways to De-Stress Your Relationship
One: First of all, list down what’s stressing out your relationship. Is it money? Time spent at home? Time for each other? Are you or your partner bringing work pressure at home? Problem with the kids? Problem with in-laws? List down anything and everything that’s causing problems in your relationship right now. Seriously, nothing is too big or too small that should not be put down on the list.
Now make another list. Write down each and every single thing that’s GREAT about your partner and the relationship you have. Compare the two lists and think about them for a day or two.
Two: You need to talk to your partner.
If you think she’ll appreciate it more then tell her about the lists you’ve made and ask her to do the same before you guys talk. Now pick a quite moment to discuss such as late at night when the kids are asleep.
Since you’ve already made a list of ‘topics’, hopefully, this provides the right degree of calmness so that you don’t end up shouting at each other. Oftentimes, stress is simply like that ‘pea under the mattress’. It’s been so uncomfortable when in reality it’s only small thing that can be easily fixed after talking to each other.
Be open-minded and keep in mind that the discussion is not about ‘having your way’ but about finding solutions to whatever’s stressing out your relationship.
Hit a stalemate on something? That’s ok. Don’t expect to be able to solve everything in one go. In this scenario though, state a few options and that you and your partner can mull over and discuss again after a few days.
Three: Put words into action.
After you’ve discussed possible solutions to your stress problems, act on them right away! For instance, if something unfinished at home (a garage or bathroom renovation) is driving both of you nuts and you both agree that finishing off the project right away will get rid of that stress then get right down to it!
Talking is the first step, acting on your decisions is the second and last.
Four: Some things need time.
Granted, not all solutions can be implemented tomorrow. Still when you talk to your lover ask yourselves what you guys see happening to that issue in say, two weeks’ time. This way, you are both mindful that yes, this is a stress factor that you do need to solve or deal with soon!
Five: State your wishes/dreams/expectations.
Here’s a question for you and your partner: what do you want to happen in your relationship? Maybe, the stress is not caused by any external factor but rather a symptom of what’s going wrong between you and your girlfriend/wife.
For instance, she may be feeling stressed out and depressed because you don’t spend any time alone together whatsoever. You may be feeling stressed because when you go home, you don’t find peace after a long, already stressful day at work. Maybe you are BOTH unsatisfied with the state of your sex lives!
So STATE what you really want. You might be surprised at just how easy you can get it if only you communicate it with your partner.
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Long-Distance Sex 101
Sometimes, mostly because of work, you need to go and spend a few days from your lover. That’s ok. Nothing makes the heart grow finder than a little absence, right? But why don’t you do something a little extra to ensure that she REALLY misses you. You know, just the kind of things that will make her lust after you while you’re gone and make her rip your clothes off as you come back and cross the front door.
Make Her Horny Tips While You’re Away
The Sweet Approach – Send Flowers
Women love romantics! So while you’re away, arrange to have a bouquet of flowers sent to her, with an endearing note. If you want to increase the lust factor of this gesture, write down a naughty note and then put it in an envelope with one condom. Seal the envelope and ask the florist to be sure and send it along with the flowers.
The Naughty Approach – Leave Lewd Notes
This one is very easy to do. Leave behind sizzling sexy sex notes at home for her to see while you’re gone. Be as timid or as sizzling as you dare to be. Also, don’t put any preambles in your notes. Use the shock factor! For example, instead of saying “When I come back, I want to kiss you and then…” Boring!
Instead, write down something like this “Arriving: 8 PM. Licking you down there by 8:05…”
The Naughty Approach – Send Sexy Messages
If you prefer to slowly build up the sexual tension instead of shocking her, try this approach. Send sexy SMS messages to her mobile phone during the period you’re away. Start from the simple “missing you” and work your way up to “can’t wait to f$%^ you”. By the way be careful when sending mobile messages. You don’t want to accidentally send them to somebody else!
The Dirty Approach – Send Something Naughty
Ok, maybe you don’t want to go all Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob and send a vial of your blood or used underwear, but that doesn’t mean you can’t send something naughty. For example, why not go to a sex shop, but something simple and send it to her with your EXACT ideas on how you guys will use it when you get home.
The Dirty Approach – Phone Sex
Ok, this for me is the ultimate long-distance keeping the sex alive approach: phone sex! The approach you take here depends a bit on your woman. If she’s very shy, warm up to the subject so this means call her and talk about other things first. If she’s ‘game’, then call her up when she least expects it: at work, at her parent’s place, or even while she’s already fallen asleep.
The goal is not necessarily to make her come. Although if she’s on her way there, why stop it? Enjoy yourselves!
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Sexual Feng Shui 101
Feng Shui, the Chinese belief system for human improvement, has a lot to say about improving love and relationships. Right from finding the right kind of partner to enter your life to having wonderful children with them, Feng Shui has tips galore. Here we will concentrate on sexual Feng Shui which can be used to considerably enhance your relationships in life.
First of all, we need to understand that a relationship is sexually enhanced only when there is a considerable amount of love and passion there. Most of the tips of bringing about sexual Feng Shui harmony in your life that are mentioned below actually speak about how you can bring love in your life.
1. Prepare Your Room.
It is absolutely important that you disseminate the right signs if you want your current love life to last forever. For one, Feng Shui speaks about using the right kinds of colors in the room. Red is a very auspicious color; it is also the color of passion. But do not make the room too red; use red only for effect or it might indicate anger instead of love.
Also, pls. remember that Feng Shui can be a very personal practice. For instance, red may well be the general color for love but it may actually clash with your ‘stars’. Often your and your partner’s birth dates need to be considered so do read up on this first before you start changing in your room to red.
2. Organizing the Bed.
The bed is the place where most of the action takes place, right? Feng Shui dictates that you need to place the bed as far from the door as possible because that means stability. Place the bed near the window, but never directly below it. Having a strong head post for the bed indicates a stable relationship. Do not keep mirrors facing the bed because that indicates a third eye in your marriage, which means there’s a possibility that one of you may become unfaithful. You can also invest in sensual bedding materials.
One important point – beds carry the energies of the persons that have slept in them. So, if someone with whom you have had a not-so happy relationship has slept in the bed, you need to replace it to give your current relationship a good head start.
Also remember to keep both sides of the bed equal. It is ideal to keep the bed in the middle of the room with the head side propped against a wall so that both partners have equal ease in entering and getting out of the bed. This makes for a harmonious relationship.
3. Set the Right Sensual Mood.
The sexual act can be greatly enhanced with the right kinds of colors, lights, sounds and smells. Feng Shui is definitely in accordance with this. Place scented candles in your room with mood lighting for a wild night of passionate sex. Floral scents are always considered to be great. For sounds, you can use soothing music. The kind of music that gently lulls you to sleep when alone is considered to be best musical accompaniment when making love, according to Feng Shui beliefs.
4. Keep Distractions Out of the Bedroom.
We usually clutter our rooms with a lot of distracting things, but that is a definite no-no in Feng Shui. The bedroom must be kept as clean as possible if the vibes of love are to course through it. Keep out the television and the computer, two of the most distracting electronic items in a bedroom. Even if you are not using these, they can suck up a lot of the positive energy from the room, making you feel quite drained.
Sexual Feng Shui is a completely different art, in which people endeavor to make their sexual lives more fruitful by making a few changes in the environment that they are used to. You an also follow these tips and then see how they ignite the much-needed passion in your relationships.
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