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Caution: Adult Entertainment Can Numb Your Sex Life
I often encourage lovers to go ahead and ‘sample’ adult entertainment at home. There are so many benefits to doing this! In addition to majorly spicing up your sex life, you get to open the doors to many sex adventures that you and your girlfriend / wife may not consider before.
For example, she may hate the idea of a specific sex position but after watching a particularly enticing adult movie, she may reconsider. Oftentimes, just being open to such new things in bed is really what keeps relationships HOT.
However, as in many things in life, there’s always a pro and a con to previewing adult entertainment so do read on and be warned.
Warning: Adult Entertainment Disadvantages
You may actually turn her OFF trying new things in bed.
It all depends on how exposed your lover is to adult entertainment prior watching them with you. If she’s NEVER watched porn before, then watching a triple X-rated adult movie may be too much that she gets turned off watching porn again with you. Furthermore, the ‘shock’ may be too much that any suggestions on your part to try something ‘new’ in bed will be flatly turned down because she thinks that the kind of ‘sex adventures’ you like are the triple X-rated variety.
The solution to this dilemma is easy, KNOW your lover and adjust the level of initial previews of adult entertainment accordingly. You can increase the level of sexuality as you go along; it’s a lot harder to tone it down and try to encourage her to watch again with you if the first viewing is a really bad experience.
You both may have unrealistic expectations about each other in bed.
Don’t forget that adult entertainment calls for a lot of ‘acting’ in front of the camera. So not all those ooohs and aahhhs and yes, yes, yessssss! are true. In fact, one client of mine once told me that he and his lover tried to emulate one ‘scene’ and they ended up really getting annoyed with it. It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t sexy and it turned them off in the end.
My reply to this? At least you tried something new!
Adult entertainment may be ‘fake’ but it DOES give you new ideas to try. So go ahead and watch and get ideas folks.
You may end up substituting adult entertainment for the REAL thing.
One of the main problems I come across with couples watching adult entertainment is that they get addicted to it; so much so that the highlight of late Friday nights (or whatever night) is not making love but watching porn. DON’T let this happen to you and your lover!
At the end of the day, adult entertainment should simply enhance or inspire you on how to spice up your relationship. It should never be something that should replace the real thing.
Top 5 ‘Relationship Bonding’ Activities
Anything that doesn’t get ‘upgraded’ gets stale and that includes relationships. Sure, you may have a great relationship now but if you’re not careful, things will become ROUTINE soon and with that… boredom. As such, it’s important to try new together. Besides, there’s another great reason to go out and do new things together: it creates opportunities for you and your lover to really bond with each other.
Plan ‘dates’ together. Sometimes, going out on dates don’t work anymore with ‘stable couples’ because your dates involve doing the same thing over and over again. Another reason is because either you or your lover ‘demand’ a certain type of date from the other. Not really fair, is it? Read on for some date tips to plan together.
- Go on picnics. It’s cheap, relaxing, and romantic! Why not plan a sexy picnic together? The key is to include elements you BOTH like. For instance, be sure the food and wine is to both your liking. Also, NO RULES. Be carefree and just see how the day develops!
- The ‘movie and eat out’ combo still works! To up the ante on this classic date, try to go out of your comfort zone and watch other types of movies like horror or even adult movies. That would give you something to talk about later!
- Experiment with new restaurants, bars, pubs. Stop going to the same places and be adventurous! Seek out newly opened restos, bars and pubs and make a goal to discover ‘the best mocktail’ or ‘the best nachos’, and so on.
Get fit together. Sometimes, getting too comfortable in a relationship means letting go of healthy eating habits. But instead of doing it alone, why not get fit together? Go get gym memberships together or take swimming lessons together. Pick an activity you both like so you guys stick with it.
Road trip time! Go out and enjoy the country. And yes, avoid making rules like you need to be at this place at this time. The purpose of the road trip is just to be ‘out there’ and it will make you re-learn how it is to be each other without any rules to follow and obligations to fulfill.
Meet new people. Sometimes, to re-awaken our energy we need the curiosity and fresh insight of new friends. Plus, this creates for new environments and new experiences too. So go to a local club, go online, or even do volunteer work and see if you can hook up with others in your community.
Discover your next ‘Best Position’ together! Nothing can liven up a dull sex life than trying out new sex positions! There are literally so many things you can do for this. You can try watching adult movies, venturing into a sex shop, reading an adult educational book (Kama Sutra for Dummies, anyone?), attending sex seminars, buying and trying out different sex toys, role playing, trying Tantric Sex, and so on! Let this be your goal: find the best sex position to bring about the most body-curling orgasm ever. THAT objective will surely keep things busy in the bedroom for quite a while.
Good luck!
Five Things That Make a Man AMAZING In Bed!
So often do we hear of relationships breaking because “he was not exciting enough”! It is indeed sad but true that most men in the world do not know how to satisfy their women. Even the so-called Casanovas usually do not have a clue about it. And then the blame is squarely laid on the female mind most of the time. “Women are so unpredictable!” they would say. But did you know that most women think in a uniform manner and even respond almost similarly when they are with their men?
If you read that again, you will see that there are some tricks that you can use with every woman on earth to make her feel that you are the greatest gift she has ever got. Here are five things that can make any man amazing in bed. Go give all of them a try!
How to be AMAZING in Bed
1. The Right Mood
There is no need to emphasize the importance of the role played by the mind in any sexual act. Most sexual acts that turn out to be ‘mediocre’ are largely because the people involved were not in the right mood. Now, you can be a real amazing man in bed if you could turn on the right mood for your woman. Do you think you can do that? Of course, you could!
What does a woman need to get her into the right mood? Oftentimes, just a few complimentary words can work wonders. Sometimes, even words are not necessary. The right touch, the right look… they can be enough. If your woman gets physically tired during the day, you can begin by massaging her body. You don’t know how much this touch can work her up and make her ready for what is to come.
Simple, thoughtful things you can do around your home works wonders too! For instance, tell her that there will be no cooking tonight. You’ll order out, buy some wine, (if you have kids, even offer arranging for the baby-sitter), rent a nice movie, etc. Do anything that will make her relax… and put her in the right sexual mood.
2. Sensitivity
Yes, men need to be sensitive when it comes to love and sex. It is absolutely essential for women. Women expect men to be considerate about their needs in bed too. In fact, most women will try to tease you when you attempt to go close to them. They might want something but say something else. If you are sensitive enough, you will be able to break through their words and actions and see the real truth behind them.
And most of all, a sensitive man will try to pleasure his woman as much as he receives pleasure. Foreplay is an extremely important part of the sexual act for women and ensuring that you engage in this thoroughly first will make you look simply amazing for her!
3. Affection
How affectionate are you with your woman? Do you touch her where she wants you to? Do you make eye contact with her when you are in bed together? Do you kiss her when making love? These are essential ways of showing affection. When you are making love to each other, some nonsexual things that you do can go a long way. You might caress her hair, for example, or you might just give her a look that you really love this. Most women would remember these ’signs’ for much longer than the actual sexual act.
4. Follow The Signs
Women are basically coy creatures. They will not mouth what they really want. This is where the man must cue in and understand what she needs. These will be very subtle signs – like a leading of the hand somewhere or a slight kiss on a sensitive part of the body. If you want to be labeled amazing in bed, you need to stop and read into these gestures. They are never done in vain; the woman wants something and you must understand it and give it to her.
5. Afterglow
They say love really happens in the moments a couple lies idly on their bed after making physical love. A man who just gets up and goes to get a sandwich after the act is over will never be remembered fondly by his partner. If you want to be called truly amazing in bed, really bask in the afterglow of sex; gently caressing her body with yours, cuddling, and others are important as women want to feel that you just didn’t use them as a sex toy. The best topic is to tell how good the sex was. That always paves the way for more and better sex later on!
In many ways, to be considered amazing in bed, you need to go beyond the sexual act itself. You must be sensitive to your partner’s needs and not just be concerned with your own climax.
Follow the tips above and your partner will truly consider you AMAZING.
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