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How to Make an Office Relationship Work
The workplace is full of single, young professionals who frequently find themselves pretty much living at the office. As a result they really do not have a lot of time to get out and make new friends, so quite often their circle of friends is their work mates. As friendships develop into romances, sometimes the situations can get complicated. If you are into an office relationship, here’s how you can make it really work.
The Upside of Having an Office Relationship
There are actually several advantages to working with your lover. First of all, you work for the same company, so you already have a lot in common. Since you know and work with a lot of the same people, you already have a lot of the same friends. It is also really convenient to work together, because you get to see each other frequently. You can even commute together if you choose.
Another advantage of dating a co-worker is that you already know them. You have had a chance to see how your partner relates to other people, reacts under stress and behaves in general long before you ever asked her on a date. By assessing her traits before jumping into the relationship, the cards are stacked in your favor for a successful relationship.
Ok… the Downside of Office Romances
Of course, you must also consider that there can be a few problems with this type of relationship. Sometimes, being able to see each other all day every day is a little too much constant contact. A little separate time is good for everyone, so if you work together, you will need to carve out some individual time at home.
Another potential problem is this: romance at work could actually affect your job. Think how awful it would be to have to approve a layoff that cost your girlfriend or wife her job, or vice versa! In this regard, it would be wise to make sure that you do not succumb to a conflict of interest.
Also, if your office relationship is a secret, you may have to endure the advances of other coworkers on your partner (and she vice versa). You both need to understand that you are choosing to keep your relationship private, so office flirtations will occasionally happen.
If your partner is your exact peer, there is always the chance that healthy workplace competition or promotions may actually hurt your relationship. On the other hand, if your lover is a subordinate at work, you always run the risk of sexual harassment when you fall out of favor with each other, or you may have to endure accusations of favoritism while you are together. If you choose to date your boss, accusations of favoritism may still occur, albeit you’re on the receiving end of any ‘favors’.
Lastly, know that many companies have policies that address employees who find themselves in a relationship so be sure to check them out.
Office relationships can be great, and they frequently grow into a happy lifetime spent together. You should, however, be diligent to make sure that your romance does not interfere with your work, and that your breakup, IF it should occur, can be weathered by both of you with minimal workplace damage.
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How to Build Sexual Tension Gradually
You often hear it mentioned that foreplay is a crucial part to lovemaking. And this is really true. If you spend time on foreplay, you are slowly but surely building sexual tension. And the higher the sexual tension, the more mind-blowing the climax!
So do read on and find out what you can do with each of your senses… to blow her out of hers.
The Senses of Sight & Sound
Adore her with your eyes. Ask her to lie down and keep her eyes open (so she can see you). Now, slowly go over her body – from the tips of her toes to the roots of her hair – with your eyes. As you reach certain areas, feel free to ‘verbalize’ how you feel about that part of her.
For instance, tell her how you love STARING at the swell of her hips as it curves outward from the tops of her thighs and turns inward again at her waist. Tell her how the sight of her mound excites you and makes you drool. Say how the sight of her erect nipples makes you feel. Be as specific as possible. For instance, say that as your eyes focus on her womanhood you can feel your manhood getting longer and harder, and so on.
Even with the above, you will notice a marked change in her breathing and how she closes her eyes or clutches her hands closed. Try to pick out the items that really turn her on and focus on those.
The Sense of Smell
With the sense of sight and sound, you kept your distance but not so with the sense of smell. Approach her and start to gently smell her hair. Place your nose close to her neck and inhale her scent there. If your eyes went over her from her feet to hear head, do the exact opposite now, remembering to smell each pivotal part of her body (e.g., between her breasts, that hollow on the opposite side of her elbow, her wrists, hair down there, and so on).
The Sense of Taste
Now, it’s time to get a taste of her. You can either go the slow and torturous route and have a lick at various sensitive parts of her body, or you can shock her a bit by licking the insides of her thighs and simply trying to nudge your way between her legs with your tongue until you reach her ‘sacred place’.
The Sense of Touch
By now, your hands are probably itching to touch her! Go ahead and satisfy your sense of touch now. Start gently and simply run your hands all over her body. Note that while you do this, avoid engaging your other senses. By this, I mean don’t lick or smell her if you’re touching her with your hands. Let her feel exactly where your hands are at any given time on her body.
After the above, it’s time to indulge all your (and her) senses. For instance, lovingly gaze into her eyes as you run your hands all over her body; say just how much you love her taste in between licks; inhale her scent deeply as you slowly get on top of her and touch your bodies together. Make things as deliciously sweet and wickedly erotic as you possible can.
Enjoy yourselves!
Destress Your Relationship
Stress is one of the things that can really ruin a relationship. The problem with stress is that it seems to creep up ever so slowly on you and before you know it, there’s this gargantuan wall between you and your lover.
The worst thing you can do is to ignore this stress. The more you ignore it, the bigger it becomes and the more it would negatively affect your relationship. So what do you do? Read on for tips on how you can slowly but surely de-stress your relationship.
Five Ways to De-Stress Your Relationship
One: First of all, list down what’s stressing out your relationship. Is it money? Time spent at home? Time for each other? Are you or your partner bringing work pressure at home? Problem with the kids? Problem with in-laws? List down anything and everything that’s causing problems in your relationship right now. Seriously, nothing is too big or too small that should not be put down on the list.
Now make another list. Write down each and every single thing that’s GREAT about your partner and the relationship you have. Compare the two lists and think about them for a day or two.
Two: You need to talk to your partner.
If you think she’ll appreciate it more then tell her about the lists you’ve made and ask her to do the same before you guys talk. Now pick a quite moment to discuss such as late at night when the kids are asleep.
Since you’ve already made a list of ‘topics’, hopefully, this provides the right degree of calmness so that you don’t end up shouting at each other. Oftentimes, stress is simply like that ‘pea under the mattress’. It’s been so uncomfortable when in reality it’s only small thing that can be easily fixed after talking to each other.
Be open-minded and keep in mind that the discussion is not about ‘having your way’ but about finding solutions to whatever’s stressing out your relationship.
Hit a stalemate on something? That’s ok. Don’t expect to be able to solve everything in one go. In this scenario though, state a few options and that you and your partner can mull over and discuss again after a few days.
Three: Put words into action.
After you’ve discussed possible solutions to your stress problems, act on them right away! For instance, if something unfinished at home (a garage or bathroom renovation) is driving both of you nuts and you both agree that finishing off the project right away will get rid of that stress then get right down to it!
Talking is the first step, acting on your decisions is the second and last.
Four: Some things need time.
Granted, not all solutions can be implemented tomorrow. Still when you talk to your lover ask yourselves what you guys see happening to that issue in say, two weeks’ time. This way, you are both mindful that yes, this is a stress factor that you do need to solve or deal with soon!
Five: State your wishes/dreams/expectations.
Here’s a question for you and your partner: what do you want to happen in your relationship? Maybe, the stress is not caused by any external factor but rather a symptom of what’s going wrong between you and your girlfriend/wife.
For instance, she may be feeling stressed out and depressed because you don’t spend any time alone together whatsoever. You may be feeling stressed because when you go home, you don’t find peace after a long, already stressful day at work. Maybe you are BOTH unsatisfied with the state of your sex lives!
So STATE what you really want. You might be surprised at just how easy you can get it if only you communicate it with your partner.
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