Destress Your Relationship
Stress is one of the things that can really ruin a relationship. The problem with stress is that it seems to creep up ever so slowly on you and before you know it, there’s this gargantuan wall between you and your lover.
The worst thing you can do is to ignore this stress. The more you ignore it, the bigger it becomes and the more it would negatively affect your relationship. So what do you do? Read on for tips on how you can slowly but surely de-stress your relationship.
Five Ways to De-Stress Your Relationship
One: First of all, list down what’s stressing out your relationship. Is it money? Time spent at home? Time for each other? Are you or your partner bringing work pressure at home? Problem with the kids? Problem with in-laws? List down anything and everything that’s causing problems in your relationship right now. Seriously, nothing is too big or too small that should not be put down on the list.
Now make another list. Write down each and every single thing that’s GREAT about your partner and the relationship you have. Compare the two lists and think about them for a day or two.
Two: You need to talk to your partner.
If you think she’ll appreciate it more then tell her about the lists you’ve made and ask her to do the same before you guys talk. Now pick a quite moment to discuss such as late at night when the kids are asleep.
Since you’ve already made a list of ‘topics’, hopefully, this provides the right degree of calmness so that you don’t end up shouting at each other. Oftentimes, stress is simply like that ‘pea under the mattress’. It’s been so uncomfortable when in reality it’s only small thing that can be easily fixed after talking to each other.
Be open-minded and keep in mind that the discussion is not about ‘having your way’ but about finding solutions to whatever’s stressing out your relationship.
Hit a stalemate on something? That’s ok. Don’t expect to be able to solve everything in one go. In this scenario though, state a few options and that you and your partner can mull over and discuss again after a few days.
Three: Put words into action.
After you’ve discussed possible solutions to your stress problems, act on them right away! For instance, if something unfinished at home (a garage or bathroom renovation) is driving both of you nuts and you both agree that finishing off the project right away will get rid of that stress then get right down to it!
Talking is the first step, acting on your decisions is the second and last.
Four: Some things need time.
Granted, not all solutions can be implemented tomorrow. Still when you talk to your lover ask yourselves what you guys see happening to that issue in say, two weeks’ time. This way, you are both mindful that yes, this is a stress factor that you do need to solve or deal with soon!
Five: State your wishes/dreams/expectations.
Here’s a question for you and your partner: what do you want to happen in your relationship? Maybe, the stress is not caused by any external factor but rather a symptom of what’s going wrong between you and your girlfriend/wife.
For instance, she may be feeling stressed out and depressed because you don’t spend any time alone together whatsoever. You may be feeling stressed because when you go home, you don’t find peace after a long, already stressful day at work. Maybe you are BOTH unsatisfied with the state of your sex lives!
So STATE what you really want. You might be surprised at just how easy you can get it if only you communicate it with your partner.
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