Forget About The Vaginal Orgasm!

One of the biggest misconceptions people have about female orgasms is that they are all created equal. The truth is that not all orgasms are the same: they may all be equally pleasurable but they are generally arrived at through different means.
Basically, there are two types of female orgasms: vaginal and clitoral.

Today, we’re going to briefly discuss both types.

Enjoy a Clitoral Orgasm!

Vaginal Orgasm

This type of orgasm was the only type Freud and other men of his time felt to be legitimate types of sexual pleasure for women to experience. Unfortunately for women, only about 20% can receive an orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. The other 80% need something a little extra.

Before we get into that, let me explain exactly what we mean by vaginal orgasm. A vaginal orgasm occurs solely because of stimulation of the vagina. That stimulation is usually in the form of the thrusting of the male penis during vaginal intercourse.

The reason most women do not receive an orgasm just from penetration is that the vagina is not a highly sensitive area. This is actually a good thing. Remember that the vagina is not just used for sex but also for delivering babies. If the inside walls of the vagina were made up of concentrated nerve endings like we find in the nipple, the clitoris, or the penis, then childbirth would be even more difficult for women.

In fact, only the first two inches of the vagina are sensitive at all.

So why do some women have orgasms solely from vaginal stimulation?

The answer is they probably aren’t. Women who report vaginal orgasms benefit from their anatomy. In some women, the labia minora are formed in such a way that vaginal penetration actually causes the labia to rub against or gently pull on the clitoris.

This, not vaginal stimulation, is leading to the orgasm in most cases. Technically, however, this would still be considered a vaginal orgasm because there is not direct stimulation of the clitoris.

Another reason why some women report having vaginal orgasms is that the shape of the penis and their preferred position allow for stimulation of the G-spot. Because the G-spot is linked to increased pleasure and may also induce orgasms, this is another possibility worth considering.

The bottom line here though is that vaginal orgasms are not common. Men and women need to realize that penetration is often not going to be enough to accomplish the goal. The good news is that gives both partners an excuse to experiment with some new things and ideas!

Clitoral Orgasm

By far the most common way for a woman to regularly reach orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. First, let me share with you some information about the clitoris.

The clitoris is located just by the vaginal entrance and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh which contains a high concentration of nerve endings which make it highly sensitive. It is often covered by a clitoral hood. Many people don’t realize that only a small portion of the clitoris is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Two things are particularly interesting about the clitoris. First, all female mammals have a clitoris. This is interesting because the sole purpose, at least according to biologists, of the clitoris is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels.

Second, the clitoris is made from the same material as the penis. In fact, in men the clitoris becomes a full-fledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.

The only real difference between a clitoris and a penis – besides location in the body – seems to be that the penis is also used for urination while the clitoris is not.

With that said, it’s important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen. Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse could stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris as well and this can also cause orgasms.

What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually cannot stimulate it. Because of its position in the woman’s body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.

The question is how does one engage in clitoral stimulation. Some male partners take the approach that the women should be responsible for the stimulation themselves, which has always seemed a bit unfair to me since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. However, this is one way to deal with it.

Another method is by, what I like to call multi-tasking. Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris in one way or another (we’ll discuss those ways a little later). If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option.

Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to an alternative approach. One person reaches orgasm at a time. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility but it’s usually not the most satisfactory approach.

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships which may have become less enthusiastic over time.

And the key is experimenting because different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have masturbated will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

So, bottom line: Please understand: there is NOTHING wrong if your woman requires clitoral stimulation besides penetration to reach an orgasm. And actually, it IS more fun!

Once you understand this fact, you´ll both start to get more “creative” in bed. And trust me, she will NOT be frustrated anymore!

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7 Responses to “Forget About The Vaginal Orgasm!”

  1. Great article I will be sure to pass it on to my worldwide following on my online radio show for women.

    Passionate Ben

  2. Dear GABY;
    Can you inclose some pictures/Drawings to showing :

    1)Where Exactly The clitoris is located just by the vaginal entrance

    2)What and where is The labia minora

    3)The clitoral hood

    Thanks
    Respect&Kisses
    Ash

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  3. I’m just 60.

    My wife is nearly 59. We have a strong, fun, loving relationship, having endured the best and worst that life can offer.

    During HRT her interest in sex declined to 0 - I blamed my lack of technique which didn’t help.

    Then a bout with breast cancer, RT & Tamoxifen killed off any spark that may have remained so it’s been a sexless 5 years which she says she is happy with so I don’t push the issue - occaissional morning cuddles before getting out of bed are always terminated by a “hot flush”.

    These have remained since she terminated the HRT when the CA was diagnosed. At one stage she was able to get these under control by using bio-identical HT but she has weened herself of this because “they” say it will the return of the CA, even though she has been prescribed non-estrogen BHT, she is still wary.

    We can live without sex but if it could be part of our lives again, especially if with your help I could be a better lover, I think there is a possibility for me to reward her for many lost opportunity for both our sakes.

    Your advice and confidence in these matters would be most welome.

    Regards

    David Lark

  4. Gabrielle,
    Thanks for the useful information, in fact I have tried clitoral stimulation a few times but my partner sometimes prefers to use a vibrator. To be fair and at the same time enjoying seeing her manipulating herself, I have no choice but to let her go ahead doing it anytime she feels she likes.

    Of course, I do enjoy vaginal penetration but above all the ‘69 position’ is an alternative for both of us whereby I have the chance of reaching deeply the sensitive clitoral area of my partner which she enjoys very much.

  5. this is good advise ill have jessica squirting for me in no time
    iam intrested in finding out more about the g spot i want to know every thing about it as there is nothing better than making a pretty women cumm for me
    gabrielle was that you in the picture you look hot

  6. dear gabrielle

    i would like some describing pictures 2 were the clitorial hood is and finger placements in stimulating it plzz and ty

    john

  7. Great and truthful article. I will give it to my boyfriend to educate and clear up all the awful misinformation hardwired in his head, he’s in his late 50’s. His only education about female sexuality has been from watching porn for decades… Falsely believing the typical female has an Orgasm from quick penetration and no clitoral foreplay, just as the actresses in porn. Porn really wrecks men’s understanding of real women’s sexual needs to achieve orgasm. Believes the bigger the penis size makes for easier vaginal orgasm…That concept is so untrue, like a hoax perpetuated by porn. My vagina has never produced, or even close to it any sensations that would resemble a clitoral orgasm or create one. Penetration feels more like a dull, but satisfying full sensation I love, and feel close to him. A swept away bliss. However my clit needs distinct attention to climax, in an unbroken rhythm with a vibrator or tongue. It’s just the way it works for me. The nerves to build a powerful orgasm is in the clit, or on the side. I will say I faked 100’s of orgasms my entire life and cheated myself because I did not want to offend my partners self esteem, while I suffered. I will never do this again as I know what works for me. Thank you for finally telling the world about the truth of female Orgasms. I applaud your honesty and courage to print these articles so all men will come to know the truth! It’s just the facts of female physiology, we women must stop worrying about male ego and take care of ourselves.

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