Here’s Why… Women Can’t Seem to Reach their Orgasms!
We’ve all been there before one time or the other. We want to give her pleasure as much as she gives us and so we do everything we can for her in bed… and yet, she STILL won’t come! What are you doing wrong?
Well, actually you may not be doing anything wrong at all! But rather, SHE has some issues that are preventing her from reaching her climax. But that does not mean that there’s no hope. As always, knowledge is power! And so if you know what it is that’s stopping her from reaching her orgasm, then make it your duty to get rid of that obstacle!
HER Climax… What’s In It for HIM?
Now, you may be thinking ‘hey, if she’s predisposed to NOT reach an orgasm and she’s ok with it, why bother’? The answer to that question is this: you have absolutely NO idea how much more pleasurable sex is with a woman who can reach a climax!
You see, a sexually satisfied woman is a more-than-willing sexual partner. Put yourself in HER shoes. Really, how excited will YOU be about sex if you never ejaculate? On the other hand if she comes each and every time you touch her, then she’ll surely be more eager to have sex more often with you!
Also, a sexually satisfied woman is more likely to be more ‘adventurous’ in bed. Now that you’ve shown her just how truly mind-blowing sex can be, all the more she’ll be open to sex ideas from you! So you see? It’s a win-win situation.
Top 3 Reasons She Can’t Climax
It might shock you to know that around 70% of women DO NOT reach their orgasms during sexual intercourse. And there are really a number of reasons for this so read on!
She has body issues.
Most women have body issues that seem to occupy their minds especially when they should be focused on something else! For instance, if your lover hates her belly then you can bet she’ll be more focused on that during lovemaking that on the sex act itself.
This is easy enough to get around with. For example, if you know she has body issues, then make love with the lights OFF. From here you can move to having just the bedside lamp on and then drape her lingerie or silk scarf over it. This way, she’s not exposed but you’re already trying to get her used to the fact that lights can be on.
And of course, nothing beats you telling her how sexy and wonderful she looks! Really, most body issues are confidence issues so if you make it a point to tell her how turned on you are by her body, she’ll start seeing herself as the sex goddess you see her to be!
You’re not giving her enough foreplay.
Sex with women begins with their minds. Unlike what you see in adult movies, FEW women will be hot, wet, panting, and ready to climax the minute you touch them. In reality, women need to be mentally sexed up and the best way to do this is to spend enough time on foreplay. Really get her into the right sexual frame of mind and sex will be more pleasurable for you both!
She’s unconsciously preventing herself from reaching an orgasm.
This reason is also known as the “she can’t let herself go” syndrome. This is a true story: a couple has approached me for sex counseling because in the first two years of their marriage, she has NEVER reached an orgasm. Luckily, she was married to a man who really wanted her to experience just how much more pleasure she can get out of sex and so they called on me.
Well, as it turned out there were TWO reasons why she wasn’t reaching an orgasm. The first reason was that each time she felt something strange ‘down there’, she instinctively would just… stop. She would literally move to change positions or ‘overthink’ about the sensations that she’s feeling, which of course kind of kills the growing momentum to reach an orgasm!
To help her through this, she had to realize that she needed to just LET GO. The message was clear: Don’t think. Just let your body lead.
Now you can help your woman do exactly by doing this: goad her!
When you feel that she’s getting really excited, talk dirty. Whisper lewd words or flat out tell her something so hot that it’ll push her over the edge and you’ll see that that’s just exactly what she needs to reach her orgasm.
Good luck!
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Colorado Kid
Says:
She’s unconsciously preventing herself from reaching an orgasm. Very True! My wife has this saying
“I love the Emotional orgasm more than you making/controlling me in having a physical one.”
But after the first one she has chain mini O’s and then a Huge O. She then dashes to the toilet to “P” instead of Squirting in bed. She has a great time letting go after she lets go. When she comes back to earth she gets upset with me for sending her to the “Moon” as the flight controller.
She really loves it but doesn’t like physically loosing control of the O. She wants to Fly all the time so She knows where she is going, at what altitude, how fast, how long it will take and no detours. When I’m the pilot or take over the flying, I am a stunt man who like to fly like a vintage Bi-plane. Great Classic that can do all the tricks but slower. Ladies,,,, Am I in the wrong mindset?
Please advise.
Doc
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It depends whether she can have an orgasm alone with her hand or a vibrator.
If she can, the problem could be lack of technique on the part of the man… not stimulating the clitoris consistently enough.
You are right, dirty talking or even spanking can stimulate even multiple orgasms.
R.A.L. West
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Colorado kid: You are in a GREAT mindset!
You and your wife are fortunate to have attracted one another. Happy flights! I will be sharing your message with my partner.
All blessings to you both.
FRAnk ranft
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is so
Ray . C.
Says:
I am to small for penetration , so I have tried to give her oral and she does not like this I have tried to pleasure her with vibrators and she still does not like this , what do you think the problem is as I spend plenty of time in foreplay but she says that she prefers penetration. HELP,HELP,HELP.
Luke Giovine
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I have a question….
My wife enjoys foreplay and will have orgasms before penetration, but she always seems way too eager for penetration. Sometimes she will get too sensitive, but I am trying to figure out if I need to start slower or with less stimulating acts. Maybe I just spent too many years on enjoying foreplay that she likes to get to the act.
Nonoy D. Flores
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some men are not oblivious to the need of her sexual partner. They need to explore things for themselves. One should constantly experiment on new things in order to determine whether those experiences are true and correct.
One should continually study the physiological and psychological make-up and responses of a human person including his or her pattern of behaviour especially in bed. The above tips or recommendation is no exception.
Congratulations to Ms Gabrielle Moore for the time-consuming, though provoking and salivaring techniques that a couple should experience more often. This includes other researchers on this particular field. May your TRIBE GREATLY INCREASED!
Affectionately yours,
Nonoy D. Flores
amar
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I am married a women last 3 months back whenever i had sex with her. she will be normal postition after penetration also she din;t get any sense. i am fed up because i am very sex person. daily i used to have sex 3 or 4 times per day. please what to do……….
Vincent
Says:
Thanks Gabrielle, I always enjoy reading your newsletters.
Well, my wife is multiorgasmic. We indulge in a lot of foreplay, dirty talking and oral sex. She cums atleast two or three times when we make love and even squirts right into my waiting mouth. I know she cums ‘cos I eat her pussy after we have cum. Giving each other pleasure is our desire. It helps when two people are deeply in love.
sarah adams.
Says:
im a 24 year old lady, and no one but myself can make me climax… i have a great sex partner and i feel like im going to like im allmost there… but then i cant… we endure a tone of forplay & i get rlly turned on & he fucks me right, but i can never seem to get there. dont get me wrong it feels great but id ike to have an orgasm from someone else rather then myself…
Woody & Jessie
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to sarah adams,
we are recently married after many years of being single and having other partners who didn’t satisfy Jessie. She was able to give herself multiple orgasms and even squirt. But I had trouble being able to cause the same effect. It wasn’t until she finally began to talk to me during sex and even foreplay, telling me what to do differently and what to keep doing that would help her reach that orgasm. Now, especially because she likes it when I take controll, she has the most incredible tidle wave of orgasms and series of gushing sqirts that our sex life is absolutely wonderful. Her advice to you is to simply tell him what what feels good and what might irritate or bother you, even just a little.
P.S.
to the guy who says he is too small for penetration. I used to think I was too small to pleasure a woman properly, but found out that it was my own self conscious issues that were the problem. Just give yourself completely to the task with the equipment you have and have confidence in yourself and you would be surprised how much confidence will do to make a woman feel amorous toward you, while you are pleasuring her. The strength of a confident man skillfully stimulating a woman with his member, because he loves her does more to PLEASURE a woman than a man who is self conscious or a man with a monster cock but is only there for himself!