How to Bring Back that Horny Feeling
It’s a very common occurrence. After some time in ANY relationship, the passion tends to fizzle out a bit. This is because you guys know each other. I mean, admit it, a big reason why everything was sooo exciting then was because everything was sooo new, right?
The problem is, once couples slide down the passion meter, they simply let things go until one day they wake and realize they haven’t had sex for five months. Although a lot of couples are OK with this (i.e., it doesn’t mean they want to cheat or anything), why settle for just OK when you can get back to those hot, can’t wait to see and touch you and make love to you days?
FIVE Ways to Bring Horny Back
So, when you look back to those first few days of your relationship, what made you guys so lustful for each other? For many, it was because everything was so NEW. So, to make things thrilling again, introduce NEW. This is not to say that you change your whole persona! Just do something new that you’ve always wanted to try anyway but never did.
For instance, fancy fishing but never got to it? Pick up the sport now. As you engage in this new hobby, it will excite you and the changes that happen to you will excite your partner. Of course, encourage your lover to do the same. What’s that something she always wanted to try but never did? Once she gives her answer tell her to go for it too. These changes will revive you both.
Now, another reason people don’t have too much activity in the bedroom is because they’re not as fit as they used to be. Seriously, all that effort and work just drains out desire. So, now is the time to be healthier. Again, noting drastic. Don’t aim to run a marathon. Just get rid of bad eating habits slowly and introduce a few more physical activities; up your efforts as you go along. I guarantee that the energy you will feel from being fit will translate in the bedroom.
Get out of the ‘you and me against the world theme’.
Although couples don’t mean it, they do tend to drift away from friends and family as they form their own bonds. The thing is, this ‘alienation’ may not seem harmful at the start but it can be later on. Faced with no one but each other day in and day out, couples tend to take each other for granted in the long run. Also, realize that contact with others means being able to talk about so many other things other than work and home stuff.
So, if you’re guilty of having stayed away from friends and family before, make the effort to reconnect now. It will enable you guys to see others, experience other things and make you stop taking each other for granted.
Bring back romance.
If you’ve noticed, with the above tips it’s mostly about changing yourselves a little bit first. It really must come from within to start with. Once you guys feel revitalized about life, you can now turn into each other.
For starters, go out on dates more often. One couple I work with who has been married for 36 years told me that they ALWAYS go out for dinner at least once a week. It’s a reason to go out, dress up for each other and just enjoy each other’s company without having to think about the kids, the dog, and the dishes after dinner!
When I asked them what if a couple can’t afford to dine out once a week, they pretty much told me B.S.! They said they too had rough times so what they did was keep the date but not the trimmings. How? They still dressed up for each other but instead of going to a restaurant, she would pack some sandwiches and a bottle of cheap wine and they went to the park. The moral lesson here: you simply must take the time to go out of the house and be with each other.
So start with this. Make a weekly date with your partner but DON’T make it the same day, like every Friday. Make it spontaneous! Also, don’t make any rules apart from a weekly date. It can be the movies; it can be dinner; it can be a long picnic, whatever!
Now that you’ve breathed more life in to you and are trying to romance your lover, up the heat factor a bit by being more lustful. Buy some erotic magazines to be enjoyed by you both. Buy her sexy lingerie. Watch some adult DVDs. All these will surely fire up the sheets again!
ritah
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awesome!!!…i love your articles girl.