Is Your Woman A Cunnilingus Virgin?
Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus!
This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ‘scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.
If your partner is a cunnilingus virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that cunnilingus brings.
How to Persuade Your Partner to Engage in Cunnilingus
Discuss, not dictate.
The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being muff dived yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, talk to her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding cunnilingus so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).
Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.
Try, not force.
As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think cunnilingus is not pleasurable at all!
Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.
So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together… that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked gentler to make her relax.
Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.
Explore, not just apply.
Although she may be a cunnilingus virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like being finger fucked while being licked, others don’t. And so on.
So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.
Encourage trust, not misgiving.
Again, since this is her first time with cunnilingus, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole cunnilingus thing anymore.
Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that cunnilingus is no big deal.
Make it all about HER pleasure.
Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.
Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.
Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!
wade Says:
also she’s likely to “return the favour”
Dan Novak Says:
Going down on my lady is my absolute favorite act. She tastes,smells like no one I have ever known. I am getting excited just writing this.
Johnny Ray Says:
No she is not, however I am a virgin of getting a blow job with a happy ending. I can get her off but she can not return.
marcy Says:
That is some very good advice. thanks and I hope more men read it.
arnie Says:
My Wife is a stubborn Catholic but I tried when we first got married and she said she didn’t like that so I have never discussed again.
Don Miller Says:
It is great she loves it . Wonts more and I like to do it to her.
Charles Birtles Says:
Gabrielle
Thanks again for telling us men like it is. I wish I had someone to teach me this simple biofeedback approach to pleasing women when I was a young man.
Rick Plumber Says:
Cunnilingus (we call it clit licking) can be great and it used to be the easiest and quickest way for me to get my lovely girl to reach orgasm. It usually lasted for a good length of time too and she would be aching for me to move up and come into her as the spasms smoothed back up towards her cervix. She was always ready for my climax as soon as I could make it.
However, we hardly ever do it that way these days. I don’t know why, but I started to get a sore top lip that swelled up a bit like a cold rash after about 30 years of doing it almost every night. I still love doing it and sometimes, when she is extra randy, she doesn’t try to stop me. The rash goes down quite quickly but we both get very randy at about six in the morning if we get to bed late the night before and don’t make love. So this is when the rash doesn’t go away overnight. Her girlfriends know why I get the rash and, as we are both over 70 and I don’t think the friends who still have partners get it more than about once a month, they pull our legs. I tease her and her friends by offering to experiment and find out if any of them would give me a rash on my lip. But I only fancy one of her friends and she is a vegetarian so she wouldn’t be a good test sample.
one of a kind Says:
After reading your article. It makes me wonder…
The facts are:
She won’t say anything.
She won’t dress sexy.
She won’t do blowjob.
She won’t get on top.
She will not do many things together. (eat out and sex is about it) Isn’t that sad
But I am the first to find her G-spot and can do sex when the time is right. I may not get to do it daily, but it bothers me to do all the action. She just lays there while I do it all. Get my picture….
When she first saw my tool, The first words out of her mouth was “OH my god! Is it real?” I could not stop laughing about it.
Mickeal Says:
MY LADY IS NO VIRGIN WHEN IT COMES TO THIS . IN FACT SHE LOVES IT . AND IF I CAN GET HER TO THE SECOND CLIMAX SHE LITTERLY EXPLODES . I CAN’T HARDLY KEEP MY TONGUE INSIDE HER AS SHE IS TRASHING AROUND . BUT ITS WORTH THE RIDE TO HEAR HER IN SCREAM OUT IS PURE PLESURE . AND WHEN SHE RETURNS THE FAVORS SHE DOESN’T STOP TELL SHE HAS GOTTON EVERY LAST DROP OF JUICE FROM ME
Ken Says:
I have practiced the art on my wife before. When she is in the mood, I can get her off in no time with her eyes rolling into the back of her head and experiencing a huge orgasism.
Rick Says:
I love the way you teach.I would love to take part in one of your classes.Do you have any classes like this where it is actually being done on a lady or male?,I AM NOT JOKING in any way.Thankyou
Mac Says:
Is it possible for a woman to only have an orgasm in one position and therefore not making it possible for her to have one during cunnilingus?
Kevin Says:
I NEED YOUR ADVICE i HAVE NOT BEEN LAID FOR A LONG TIME AND THE ONE TIME DID ALMOST DIDNT COUNT , THIS IS SERIOUS , NOT TO MENTION i AM SEX AHOLIC , PLEASE OFFER ADVICE AS TO HOW i CAN RECTIFY THID SITUATION WITH PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OR OTHERWISE SO THAT i CAN BEGIN A NEW LIFE OF CONSTANT PLEASURE
Rick F. Says:
My lady had never had it done before & now she begs me to lick her. She just explodes & jumps & squirms as she reaches climax. She absoultley loves it.
I always say “You show me a guy who does not lick his lady & I will show you how to steal her away.”
I just love licking my lady & she shows me that she enjoys it by returning the favor. I just love getting your emails & suggestions. Keep them coming.
Rick
Garry Says:
Has always i enjoy all the information you give here!
W.G. Says:
Your advice is great but so far after 11 years of marriage and countless discussions on the subject, the answer is still NO! I would love to pleasure her in this manner but she has some hang-up she will not divulge to me. She doesn’t hesitate to suck me but will not let me reciprocate. I envy all who can give their lady this pleasure.
Still hoping someday.
Miguel Says:
My wife in no virgin she likes to be eaten and she returns the favor one thing I can’t get her to do is a 69 I find that the most interesting part of cunnilingus when two go at it at the same time I know I will keep trying maybe some day we will enjoy each other at the same time
Dave Says:
I am probably one of the luckiest guys in the world. I dated my wife in college and then because of service (we were both in the Air Force) we broke up and went our seperate ways. thirty years later we found each other again, she was divorced and I was widowed, consequently we found our love for each other was still there and very strong - we married. She was always open to most things. Like Dan said, she has a very distinct and wonderful smell and taste; she loves it when I “go down” on her and she loves doing the same to me. We were always close, she is my best friend and we trust each other completely. We are both in our 50’s (she is 54 and I am 53); we are both Catholic - that takes care of most of the myths (old and Catholic). The real secret of love and romance is - put your soulmate first, don’t think of it as sex - it is really making love, don’t be selfesh, think of her first. Give your lady all the love you can; appreciate her with a card, a rose or anyway you can. Let her know that she is the most important person in your world. Be honest, don’t be a fool; I do love her with all of my heart and she feels the same way about me.
danny Says:
I go down on my misses and of recent its all she wants to do.I love her juices and i let her know it so she is always free when around me.
I have not been able to give her a vaginal orgasm though.Any ideas?i have tried all the techniques from Gabrielle to David shade.NOTHING
Emmanuel danquah Says:
thank you for your advice.my wife loves it,when i lick her.she always scream on top of her voice when she climax.what i love about her is she tells me when she is about to come which helps me to know that i’m doing it the right way.she let me lick her whenever we make love.she will never make love to me unless i lick for her.
thanks for your advice.i will always follow your advice when i lick for her.
mike Says:
its an unforgettable intimate experience;smelling and viewing the complex vagina at close range;probing around the G-spot spongy area with your tongue;sometimes your tongue becomes tired, sucking the clit-in like a baby sucking the feeding bottle is a wonderful pleasurable experience; you can feel the whole thing growing inside your mouth as your partner tries to COME.
John Says:
Along about the fifth or sixth orgasam switching of course between g-spot and clitoral, she finally can’t take any more. She thinks I’m a sex GOD.
Ellen Says:
Okay first I will reply to Gabby, I love this information. Now to danny’s response: you say that your wife (?) won’t have a vaginal orgasm. Perhaps she is afraid or just can’t have one that way. Many women are different. Try gently approaching the subject when your not in bed. Softly and remember to tell her you don’t think there is anything wrong with her or that she has to feel like she needs to have an orgasm that way. For truthfully, pressure and thoughts are the main killers of pleasure and orgasms.
Steve Says:
I have tried it twice with my wife and it felt nice for her. The only thing I wasn’t sure is whether she climaxed since she was begging me earnestly to enter her. However the next time I offered to do the same, she wasn’t as enthusiastic and couldn’t explain. What could have gone wrong? And how can I make her do a blowjob on me in return? Please advise. Otherwise I enjoy reading your tips as they are educative. Keep it up Gabby! Kisses!!!!
Carl Says:
Real men eat pussy! Good lovers love to eat pussy!
Johnny Says:
Thank You
tom W. Says:
My wife is a squirter and Yes, I may be the luckiest guy in the world. She still does squirt all over my cock, but I learned two new techniques from Gabrielle. Now, when I eat her pussy, she cums so hard that she fills my mouth completely with her pussy juice. This is truly the Nectar of the Gods! Im 41 and she is 43 and together, we have the best sex we have ever had, thanks alot to you Gabrielle.
SANFORD Says:
GABRIELLE, THIS IS A STIMULATING AND INFORMING TOPIC(BIG KISS). TO MY KNOWLEDGE, I HAVE NOT WENT DOWN ON A CUNNILINGUS VIRGIN-BUT I WOULD LOVE TO! MAYBE YOU CAN TELL ME HOW TO MEET ONE?? OR IF I DO, I WILL DEFINITELY LET YOU KNOW(SMILE)! THIS SEXUAL ACT IS THE MOST SENSUAL THAT I CAN THINK OF AND, IN DEED, MY FAVORITE(BECAUSE I AM GETTING MY PARTNER OFF WITH MY TONGUE/LIPS)!! (P.S.-THE MODEL, AT THE TOP OF THIS WEB PAGE, HAS A GREAT SET OF BREASTS-THAT I WOULD ENJOY SUCKING. MAYBE YOU CAN DEVOTE A WEB TOPIC TO THIS-BREAST LICKING/SUCKING!)
CONTINUE YOUR GREAT WORK, FRENCH KISS, SANFORD
Amber Says:
I love reading your advice, and have incouraged my friends to read it, but it seems most of the men I know are too “proud” to seek help…
While some clearly need it..
How should one suject more experientation without affending anyone??
A. xox
Leo Says:
69 is my favorite number.
Kenny Says:
Gabrielle,
Great article! With all thats said and written about cunnilinglus being the height of sexual experience for a woman, it’s a blow to us guys when we offer and get a squirrelly reaction. My lady is very self-concsious about it. Mostly she won’t allow me to do it. She can really cum when I do but she just thinks it’s dirty and just plain wrong. Frequently she’s afraid I’ll ask for reciprocation,(I never have)which she hates! So I don’t go there very often anymore. What’s the secret to switching on her psyche and allowing herself to enjoy it more often?
Kenny
Ron Says:
Hi Gabrielle, I never went down there on my wife. Something keeps holding me back from doing it. I have kissed her down there many times before but that’s as far as I’ve gotten? Help me take the big step. Do you like going down on a woman? Ron