Keep Fit to Keep Sex ALIVE
I hear it often enough…
She Says: he’s not that into me because I’m not as sexy as I used to be.
He Says: my spare tire get’s in the way sometimes so it’s kind of a turn off.
She Says: now that I’ve gained weight, I seem to have lost my sex drive.
He Says: dammit, I can hardly catch my breath after a few minutes so how can I wait for her to reach her orgasm?!?
When it comes to weight gain, a lot of people claim that their partners should love them nonetheless because love is not about one’s waistline. Well, this may apply to LOVE, but not really for SEX.
I cannot put it simpler than this: if you are overweight, you do not have the energy to make love with real gusto!
You see, if you’re overweight, you don’t have a lot of energy. And since lovemaking requires a lot of ‘activity’, it can indeed dampen your bedroom life to a very high degree.
Again, we’re not talking about love here because yes, your partner should love you even if you’ve gained some weight. However, sex will not be as fulfilling. And here’s where it becomes such as vicious circle.
At first, you don’t make love as much as you guys used to because it’s harder to do so. I know a lot of couples who do say that just the thought of all that ‘work’ makes them opt to sleep instead! Now, that can’t be goof for any relationship.
So they start off as skipping lovemaking sessions every once in a while. And then, they either lose interest in lovemaking altogether or gain even more weight that it almost becomes a physical impossibility to do so. And so one morning you wake up and you feel bad about yourself because you’re overweight; you feel bad about your sex life because you hardly have one; and you insecurity comes in because you keep wondering that your partner will surely fall for someone new, exciting and fit!
So, how do you get out of this rut?
Realize how much better it will be if you’re fit and healthy. Changing bad eating habits is only successfully if you truly realize the benefits of being healthier. So thing about these: you’ll look and feel better about yourself AND you’ll have the energy for making love and reaching lots and lots and lots of orgasms!
Take baby steps. You didn’t gain the pounds overnight so you won’t lose them that fast either. Accept this now. So instead, take small steps. Fit in 30-minute WALKS everyday starting today; up this to 45 minutes, the week after; add a bit of strength training the following week. As for the food you eat, during the first week see what you can cut off. Don’t do anything drastic like half your eating portions. Just don’t buy chips or cookies on your next round of grocery shopping. And then as the weeks progress, make more small, healthier food decisions.
Give yourself a sexual goal. For women, this can mean buying lingerie NOW and make fitting in to it your weight loss goal. For men, this can mean aiming to last x minutes more than you currently do.
If you’re doing this together, then you can also set a reward for you both. This can be a romantic weekend getaway where you treat yourselves to the pleasures your new and healthier bodies can bring to each other.
Make your sex life truly exciting again. As you get more fit and feel more energy, make sure that you take steps to revive your sexual life as well. For instance, learn a new sex position or introduce sex games, or learn about Tantric Sex. In short, make healthy changes too in that avenue of your life. All these will contribute to a more vibrant well being in and out of the bedroom.
Good luck!
Mark H.
Says:
Gabrielle,
Hit a home run with this one. Most couples forget that staying in shape affects our relationships more than we realize. It is about putting onself in line with longevity, not only in the sexual arena, but in all aspects of our relationships and lives. It just makes good sense. Not to mention that fact that it has been documented and stated by experts that with the loss of so many pounds a man ‘gains’ an inch of length to a very vital part of his anatomy…That is very good news for those fixated on the ‘length’ issue. This avenue of ‘gaining’ length is much more safe and is healthy all the way around. Keep up the good info Gab…
Mark
myomyo
Says:
really good.
it is very useful.
Jerry
Says:
I know exactly what you are telling me. My partner has gained a lot of weight in the past 2 years, it seems our sex life got less and less with each extra pound she gained. Lately it’s been very rare, she falls asleep immediately upon hitting the pillow, and she’s always tired. Only thing is, I expressed my concern over our intimacy situation, I got called a sex fiend, and now we have split up. Mabe it’s still not too late, but only if she can lose the weight that she has been trying to for a year now, she can’t stick to a diet, and has no desire to go walking, she’s too bushed after a day at work.All I can do is hope, it’s up to her now if she wants to get back together….
loverboy
Says:
So very true. For sex to be fulfilling both partners need to be physically fit. Both my wife and I go for brisk walks, exercise and watch what we eat. Sex is great fun for us. In fact we need to fuck at least once a day and never wear panties at home so that I can finger my wife’s clean shaven swollen wet pussy at any time. She too can reach under my shorts and hold my stiff cock. With this kinda foreplay sex ia amazing for us.
Thanks for your tips!
Bill
Says:
Hey Gaby, Couldn’t agree more. I’d like to add that an easy way for an overweight man to ‘gain an inch’ is to simply lose 20 pounds. I prefer to make weight control much more of a priority than ’starting out slow.’ After unsuccessfully trying myself to get back below 205 (I’m 5′-6″, 63 years old) for over a year, it became obvious that professional help was in order. I finally parted with the bux and have had great success. After 2 months the scale now tips at 175 and still dropping. There are several great programs out there, I went to Medifast. The point is that they’re all expensive, but what on earth could be more important?
steve ernest
Says:
yes I can totally relate to this article. I started to do yoga about 8-9 months ago. It has totally transformed my body mass. Ive lost about 5 inchs in my waist. It also keepsyou younger, someone thought Iwas 35 years old. though I am a 50 some greandpa. The moisturizer from Luzier helps with that also. Im way more flexible sowe can try new things in bed also.
amandeep sodhi
Says:
hi i liked the mail i loved it
but in my opinion i experimented all the things and i have ben xprimrnting thetantrik sex thing in my life before even i read all these articles , all these things need not to be practised exactly the way they are told
love u all be a man makeyour own ways
Loverboy
Says:
In this area we r ok.
Health freaks!!
Work out. And eat right
MT Guy
Says:
Hey, Gabby… good one here. A guy gets double benefits from maintaining a healthy weight. Not only are you more attractive to your partner – so she’ll want to have sex more often, but you’re a better lover because you can take the time she needs to feel completely satisfied.
There’s one comment above that alludes to increased flexibility with a lower weight, and that’s what allows you to provide variety as far as positions to your partner.
Good article here, Gabby… on several levels
emon
Says:
Dear Gaby,
It is the key secret of our sex life. My lady and me are absolutely fit Physically and maintaining our weight and shape by reqular zem and balance diet. For 11 years we are living together with tender sex like teenagers. Your article strengthened our determination to continue discipline life for better sex.
thuy tran
Says:
Dear Gabriel,
With me and my Wife, we love sex very much,and we both physical fit and thin,no fat so,although we areold age,me:68 and my wife:64,but we still make love everyday,sometimeat daytime ,sometime at nighttime,at
least once pr day.We never wear panties at home,so,Ican
lick and suck her wet pussy anytime and make her horny,and we make love,We have 44 years happy loving and never adultery never…Thank you so much ,we love to read all your articles
TOTO
Says:
Thanks a lot Gabi,
Luckily enough both of us are thin and slim and even no tendency of
putting weight.Thank God we are enjoying our fitness to the maximum
possible and investing it in foreply and(……………………..).
Please keep us regularly enlightened.