Techniques To Excite Her (Without Touching Her)
“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it.” – Anonymous
Sex isn’t always about the rubbing and petting – it’s about that connection, at least for us ladies. While it’s true that sex can sometimes be just about the physicality of it all, women find it easier to engage in steamy sex when they feel that they’re connecting with their partner on a higher level. We thrive off of non-verbal cues. A quick wink or sly smile can make our panties wet (it’s the truth!)
Be vocal
Speak up! Tell her what you’re fantasizing about, what you love that she does to you, what you love to do to her. Hearing these devious acts put into actual words can be a major turn-on (just plan on what you’re going to say before you blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. And don’t be too smutty, unless your wife is that kinda gal, like moi!)
Act it out
Feeling turned on? Touch yourself while you catch her gaze across the room. Give her a mischievous wink. Lick or bite your lip ever so slightly.
When I know a guy is turned on just by looking at him, it gets my juices flowing. So don’t be shy to capitalize on these cues.
A naughty message
Busy lives translate into not having a lot of time for foreplay and to build up the momentum. I get that. So why not send your wife a dirty text, email, or even picture? A guy I was seeing once sent me on my phone an up-close shot of his soldier at full attention while I was at work – I don’t have to tell you how quickly I raced home that afternoon!
Go back to basics
Remember when you and your wife were first dating – there was all that lovey dovey stuff, with the hand-holding, the long gazes, the little expressions of affection? We thrive off of that. Try and recall the simple things you would do to get your wife all smitten, like a look across a room, and go back to the basics.
Sometimes, a guy being vulnerable enough to wink at me is the thing that sounds off bells in my head (not to mention elsewhere).
Whisper in her ear
A woman’s ears are highly sensitive to a variety of sensations, so the sound of you quietly relaying a message to her along with the warm feeling of your breath will send shivers down her spine. Afterward, gently blow on her neck. Then, well, brace yourself!
MWAH!
Gabrielle Moore
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8 Quick Opportunities For Quickies
“Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. ‘Yes’ is the answer.” – Swami X
Sex can’t always involve hours of foreplay, passionate caressing, and long, drawn-out sex sessions, especially when you’re married and have a busy family. That’s where quickies find their niche.
Quickies fulfill a very convenient, easy way of enjoying a satisfying release as well as a few moments of unadulterated pleasure. I’m talking about unplanned, spontaneous moments of passion where you and spouse unleash your prowess on one another without a second thought.
A quickie isn’t about being quick on the draw – rather, quickies are mutually fast and rushed form of sex, and it’s a great way to keep your sex life healthy as well as exciting.
Here are some quick opportunities for quickies:
1- You’re at a neighbourhood BBQ and the kids are busy playing with their friends. Ask a neighbour to keep an eye on them while you run home to get your sunglasses. Then, whisk your wife off for a quick sex session in the bedroom, living room, hell even the front hallway – no one’s home anyway!
2- Most people are rushed in the mornings, and since the majority of men wake up and are raring to go, it’s the perfect opportunity for a quick romp. Wake your wife up with a kiss or a “good morning beautiful” and then press yourself up against her so she knows where you’re headed (no pun intended).
3- Social engagements and company dinners can be a major snooze fest. Sneak off with your spouse to a public bathroom stall or even your car and add some much-needed excitement to your evening.
4- Going for a long walk or bike ride on a secluded path can present a unique opportunity for a quickie a la Mother Nature. Take a detour into the woods until you’re out of sight, use a tree for balance, and do the outdoor deed.
5- Movie theatres are surprisingly great spots for quickies – the bathrooms are usually near-empty during show time, and actual theatres are near-empty during crappy flicks, making a risky romp in the back of the dark room all the more possible (and thrilling).
6- Do it in the car. Whether you’re out running errands or returning from a social engagement, find a secluded parking lot, turn off the engine, and take a go at steaming up the windows.
7- When you’re at a house party with a larger crowd of people, it’s easy to slip away for a few moments unnoticed. There are lots of unoccupied rooms for your quickie – just be sure that the door has a lock.
8- Quickies at the office are always rousing. You and your wife know where you can get away with it, and a mid-day romp can be the unexpected excitement a couple needs to spice up their sex lives.
Because quickies are known for their speediness, they only require a very small window of time. Therefore, as long as there’s a will, there’s a way – find that empty closet, private restaurant bathroom, or abandoned parking lot and enjoy one of the simple pleasures of couplehood – the quickie.
Sweet dreams!
Gabrielle Moore
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Surefire Ways To Turn Her On Tonight!
“Sex is an emotion in motion” – Mae West
Let’s preface by saying that no two girls are ever the same. What turns some of them on is turn-off for others. (But hey, same goes for guys, right?) What we’ve got are some universal rules of seduction. The beauty of them is that they are flexible enough to adapt to your woman’s style – as well as yours!
So take heed, fellas. These tips will keep the sizzle in your relationship well after you’ve…em…reached your goal. Here are some tried-and-tested tips to ignite her fire. Read on:
Cook for Her
By “cook for her” we’re not saying you should bake a cake, and frankly, we wouldn’t even recommend it – unless you’re ready to exchange your hot plans for a cuddle-and-cake movie night.
That said, if you’re an exceptionally talented baker by all means make something ever-so-scrumptious for her. Yet, even if your culinary skills are moderate, don’t underestimate how impressed she can be at the effort you took to surprise and please her. This also gives her a chance to kick back and relax, without the pressure to cook for you.
However, this is a case of less is more. You want a delicious meal that is as low-fuss as possible. Ideally, you should cook when she’s around, pouring her a drink while you chop, dash a little of this and that, and mix and pour your goodies. Tip: stick to light, appetizing fare.
And speaking of appetizers, try offering choices. This is a fun, suggestive way to work up her appetite, showing that you have more than one thing up your sleeve. (Don’t sate her appetite yet – entice it!) If you master the art of serving appetizers, you may very well turn this stage into a prelude of actual foreplay. In the kitchen (hot hot hot!).
Word to the wise lover: Heavy food and too much alcohol won’t do you any favors.
Be generous with Compliments (Honest Ones!)
Few women can resist a genuine compliment. Sure, you already think she’s hot – and yup, you should definitely often remind her of it – but if you’re hoping she’d slip into that thong you got her, drop a hint about how great she looks wearing it. She might laugh it off at first, but the comment will linger in her mind.
In addition, if you can specify all the things you find irresistible about her, chances are she’ll get encouraged. If you dig the way she smells after the gym, tell her. If the cleavage drives you wild, say it. If her walk wiggle takes you on a ride, say, well…that her walk is very, very sexy. Women are verbal…they respond to hearing sexy things about themselves much in the same way as men respond to seeing sexy things on themselves.
Listen to her
Casanova is known to have said, “I don’t conquer, I submit.” One can take this statement in a number of ways. But for a lover as notoriously prodigious as he was, Casanova’s words may very well mean “I succumb to what women want.” Smart man. In seeing that his chances of getting what he wants is intimately tied with her getting what she wants, he throws in the towel, as if saying “Hey, I’m all yours. Lead me to the treasures…”
And lead she will…by listening to her cues, her body language, her pauses – as well as what she actually says – you’ll be that much closer to reading her moans.
Think of a Tango dance. Two people watching each other’s cues, matching moves, and slipping into a groove. The formula: tension, build-up, and release. As the expression goes “It takes two to tangle” – if your sex antennae is up and tuned into her, you’ll be tangling up the sheets in no time.
Focus on Foreplay
We can’t overstate the emphasis on foreplay. And by foreplay, we don’t mean three hours’ worth of it; rather, a strategic build-up of sexy moves. Unlike most guys, women are very aware of their erogenous zones (their neck, earlobes, shoulders, navel, inner thighs, as well as the more obvious nipples and clitoris). These erogenous zones provoke titillating sensations when gently, moderately, and intensely fondled. Although women differ in their level of response to certain areas, attention to her zones is crucial to arousal.
This is where listening to her comes in. The more you know and explore her body – and her responses to each part – the better. Sex experts advise men to realize how much touching their partners need before being hot enough for intercourse. (1)
But what kind of touching?
Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover (Broadway Books, 1999), recommends working her up with the so-called “swirl” – slow, circular motions and waves in her erogenous zones. The swirl is said to stimulate nerve endings more than caressing her in straight lines.
Working up her ecstasy, you’ll be primed for the final act, which may come much sooner than you think.
But before then, you have a few memorable courses to look forward to.
Enjoy your night!
Gabrielle Moore
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(1) Crain, Esther. How to Get Everything You Want (in Bed), Cosmopolitan.
