Have Great Make-Up Sex
“Elaine, can I just explain something to you very privately here? Susan and I have been together many, many times now, and just between you and me, there’s really no big surprises here, so… make-up sex is all that I have left.” – George Costanza
George is only partially right – he has a reason to be excited about the prospect of make-up sex because, well, make-up sex can be pretty damn good! But he was wrong to say that it’s all he had left, because you have a lot more going on in the bedroom, right? (Thanks to moi!)
There’s something ultra sexy about make-up sex. After you and your partner have a fight, you’ve both had a chance to release your anger or frustration, which can be very freeing. But you’ve also probably gotten yourself worked up in other ways, and having a chance to unleash it on something (you) is a major turn-on. There’s a sense of animalism and raw emotion that takes place during make-up sex, so you want to make sure that you never let this opportunity pass you by. It’s the silver lining to the long-term relationship – you’re inevitably going to disagree, but at least you’ve always got make-up sex to look forward to!
Here are some tips on doing the deed after the storm has passed.
It’s all about the timing
If you and your spouse are in the midst of World War III and you try to cop a feel, you may want to duck! Make-up sex comes after the argument once you’ve both made up (hence the name of this forgiving act). So don’t try for the make-up sex until after the disagreement is over.
Let bygones be bygones
While part of your erection may be from the fact that you actually won this spat and got her to apologize, do not say anything more about this during sex. Things like “I’m so glad you were able to see things my way” or “Thank you for saying you were sorry” will be an immediate buzz kill. Resist the urge to gloat. Make-up sex means all has been forgiven – don’t rock the boat at this point. Just go with the flow.
Be just good enough
Your wife would kill me for letting you in on this little secret, but I’m here to help you, so here it goes: you always want to excite and pleasure your wife – that’s a given. But you also don’t want to pull out any extra stops during make-up sex, and I’ll tell you why: we’ll associate great sex with heated arguments, so if you’re looking to avoid a repeat offense next week, give her just the right moves to make her cum, but save the mind-blowing orgasms for another time.
Make-up sex is charged with lots of energy and can be a great way to “decompress” after a disagreement. Life’s too short to dwell on why she was being pissy with you or why you always leave your wet towel on the bathroom floor – get over it (and under her) and move on already!
Kisses!
Gabrielle Moore
Anal Play – Yes Or No?
“Regular sex will make your day, but anal sex will make your whole week.” – Unknown
Anal play – couples who haven’t tried it are mostly afraid of the unknown, and those who have done it (blush, me) love it (blush, me).
My motto is: don’t knock it till you try it. Until you’ve explored anal play in a comfortable environment, you might not know what you’re missing.
Anal sex has the potential to be as enjoyable, stimulating and satisfying as “conventional” sex – but it is something that requires patience, excitement, and a whole lotta lube! If anal play isn’t in your usual sexual repertoire, then you need to proceed with caution. Talk to your partner, work your way up to it, ease into things slowly, and make sure you communicate throughout. Once you experience back-door play, you’ll add a whole new form of erotic pleasure to your arsenal.
Yes to starting with your fingers
If you and your partner never engage in anal sex, then it may be best to work your way up to full-on penetration. So begin with a little rim action – use your fingers to lightly rub her anus in a circular motion. You can do this while you’re engaging in sex (doggy style), oral, or even during foreplay.
Then start by inserting one finger, and gradually work your way up to two. Make sure your fingers are well-lubed (saliva won’t do – it’s not a long-lasting lubricant, so make sure you’re stocked up with your favorite lube, like KY).
No to sudden movements
Nothing is more of a turn-off than an unpleasant surprise during sex, and anal sex is probably at the top of that list. Anal sex can be extremely painful if the receiver isn’t prepared, and if you’re hoping to start engaging in anal more often, then scaring or hurting her will be your one-way ticket to an anal-free marriage.
Before penetrating her, make sure she’s relaxed – that’s number one. Also, as mentioned, make sure your penis is good and lubed. Talk to her – ask her how she’s feeling, if it feels good, if she wants you inside of her. Gently let the tip of your penis touch her anus so she’s aware of what’s going on behind her. Slowly (verrry slowly) start to insert it and pay close attention to her physical reaction – if she tightens up, startles, or makes any sort of painful noises, withdraw. Her body language should be as fluid and rhythmic as yours if she’s enjoying it.
Yes to enjoying the sensations
Let yourself glide in and out of her slowly and steadily. Avoid any initial rough thrusts. Allow yourselves to adjust to the new sensations and work your way up to stronger, harder movements.
No to anal, then vagina
A final word: Don’t ever go from anal sex back to inserting your penis into her vagina – you could pass bacteria on, so prepare for a back-door finale.
Bottoms up!
Gabrielle Moore
Turn Her On In The Morning
“Men wake up aroused in the morning. We can’t help it. We just wake up and we want you. And the women are thinking, ‘How can he want me the way I look in the morning?’ It’s because we can’t see you. We have no blood anywhere near our optic nerve.” – Andy Rooney
You usually start your day with a hard-on. Most guys do. And us girls know this. We realize you’re raring to go from the moment you open your eyes, however when we wake up, we usually feel fuzzy, disheveled, and pretty non-sexy… at first.
Curling up behind us and thrusting yourself into our backs is not always the best “move.” Sure, it might get us aroused one in 30 times (sometimes 50), but it’s certainly not the most exciting way to come on to us. So here are some ways you can turn her on in the morning.
Kisses
If you both haven’t had a chance to brush your teeth or swish with some mouthwash, you may want to avoid deep-throat kissing first thing in the morning, but that doesn’t mean you can’t kiss her softly on the lips, cheek, earlobes, neck, arm, etc., etc. Give her some affection – help her wake up slowly and get those juices flowing. Sometimes a gentle kiss on my shoulder or the inside of my wrist, or a caress on my thigh or down my back, is enough to get me wet and willing.
Never, ever under-estimate the value of a simple kiss.
Undress
Married couples take a lot of shortcuts with their sex life. One of the worst is not undressing fully (you know you’ve done the deed in your black dress socks!) So in the morning, take the time to get into the buff. Let her wake up by feeling your bare skin against her body. Then start undressing her as well. There’s no need to rush – it’s the morning and she’s just waking up, so slip her clothes off slowly and seductively.
Then, hold her. Let that skin-on-skin contact bring you both to arousal.
Be playful!
Sex doesn’t always have to be so serious, especially wake-up sex. Sneak under the covers for a little sub-thermal-blanket fondling. Have a pillow fight. Use a feather to tickle her nose. Bring her breakfast in bed (which should really be just about any type of fruit, which you can eat, feed her, or eat off of her).
What a fantastic way to kickstart the day – with a good romp! Turn her on in the morning by waking her up slowly, seductively, and even playfully, and put a hop in both of your steps all day long.
Ta-ta for now!
Gabrielle Moore
