Sensual Stroking – Why Don’t You Give Her a ‘Hand’ Tonight?
We all know that a good hand job can do the trick for guys, so why not try it on your girl and see what it can do for her? For the most part, men need only a few good strokes to get them to the end result, but women need a little more than that. Check out how to give her the sensual stroking of her life.
Some Do’s and Don’ts Before You Get Started
Do remember that this is not a race! Be prepared to spend some time down there if you really want to make her climax like never before.
Don’t go straight for her clitoris! Yeah, that may be where most of her pleasure-hungry nerves are, but if you get there too quick, your touch will feel more annoying than hot!
Do listen and make sure that your in touch (pun intended) with what’s working or not for her.
Don’t stop until you’re finished—or she’s finished rather.
The Hand Moves that Will Max Her Pleasure
• Start by having her lie on her back naked and begin with things like kissing and caressing her lips, face, neck, breasts, etc., and then SLOWLY make your way south. Once you’re down below the waist, take the time to rub and caress her all around her sweet spot until it seems that she can’t take the teasing anymore.
• When you’re ready to move to her womanhood, use your entire hand. With your palm down, rub the area lightly at first and then add a little more pressure.
• She should be getting wet by now, but if not, take some lube or massage oil and pour a little on just above her pubic bone and massage it down and around her vagina.
• Now you can move onto using your fingers. With your index finger; run it gently up and down along her slit and then around the sides of her ‘lips’. The point of this is to tease her and make her crave your finger inside of her. The teasing and anticipation will send her through the roof.
• Next, let your finger graze her clitoris for a second and tease the rest of her womanhood with it. Each time you pass her clitoris, let your finger linger a little longer until you can see that it’s swollen with excitement and rock hard. (Yes, women get ‘boners’ too!)
• Now that she’s really turned on; run your finger in a couple of tiny circles over her clitoris and then slide it down her slit and slowly push it inside of her and push it in and out slowly a few times before puling it back out.
• Now it’s time to focus even more attention on her clitoris. Use your index and middle fingers and put them on each side of her nub so you’re holding it between your fingers. Now start to move it up and down. This move is basically like jerking her off, only instead of your manhood, you’re jerking off a hard little nub! Keep at it until you can see that she’s getting close to climaxing.
• When she’s writhing around all over the bed and almost there; slide two fingers inside of her and use your thumb to start rubbing her nub as your fingers pump in and out of her. Imagine that you’re trying to get the pad of your thumb to meet and work in unison with the pads of the two fingers that are inside of her, the same way that you would to snap your fingers.
• Continue this move and add more pressure and speed as you go along. She’ll make it clear when you’ve found the ideal tempo and if not, then just ask her if it feels good. When you know you’ve got the right amount of speed and pressure then keep at it and don’t stop until she orgasms!
Extra Tips
• Pay attention to her body and her voice so you know when what you’re doing feels right. It can be a little hard to know if she’s loving it if she’s one of those shy girls who isn’t too comfortable making noise in bed, in which case you need to ask. A simple “You like that baby?” or “how does that feel?” should suffice.
• Keep the lube handy since some brands tend to dry up quickly and become a little sticky. You want stuff to be slick and smooth but not so lubed that she can’t feel your fingers!
• Try to use your other free hand on the rest of her body while you’re working your magic down below.
• Be patient!! Sensual stroking is about getting her off and that can take some time, so don’t start something that you’re not willing to finish!
Keith
Says:
This gave me a “Woody” just reading it. When she got home I let her read this and she said lets try this. Wow what a climax, her hips thrust up and her vagina and the little brown hole begin to like open and close, and she shivered all over and gasped for air.
I will try this again.
Thanks
Dan
Says:
Okay probably get the same comment from everyone on this one…yes this had my cock at attention for sure after reading it. However, I have already performed this feature on my wife on several occassions. The power of her orgasms each time do not compare to “any” of mine. Also, if you can concentrate on her breasts/nipples..that puts them over the edge. Every time we ’start’ I also make starting different but seem to end with a ‘bang.’
Always
Vern
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I love do oral sex I can make just yell with plsure while she pumps me off
Scott
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Hey, I will even try this on my fiance.
Charles Birtles
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Thanks Gabrielle
This is the kind of accurate and timely information we guys needed when we were teens. The world would be a much happier and better place to live in now instead of there being so many frustrated people.
Shahid
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ITS SO SENSOUS……….VERY TRICKY AND SAUCY.
Roger
Says:
I keep learning how to please my wife every day. She is a lot slower than me so have go to oral sex.
Paul O.
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when you work on her nipples put a piece of ice in your mouth and rub it on her nipple and then strock it fast with the tip of your tounge, this drove my wife crazy.
This is brought to you by Mr. O.
PenStar
Says:
This is a technique that I wish I had discovered over 40 years ago. When you get to the part where you’re using your thumb and fingers, I lock my hand. I don’t move the thumb and fingers independently. I move them as a unit. I move slowly at first, and as the intensity builds, I speed up the action. When she explodes I have to hold tight because the swelling and throbbing wants to push my hand out. I remain still until after the throbbing has subsided. Then I restart the motion, very slowly at first and then build to a creshendo. At first she has extremely wet orgasims, spraying all over the place. Further along they are just as strong but drier. I keep this intermittent arousal and climax up for quite a while. Now this is the fun part for me. After the fifth or sixth climax she starts begging “Put it in.” My response “Not yet.” What I’m doing while she is in extacy is counting. I always try for her to have 10 or more organisms before I stop. I go until she can’t take any more. When I do stop I can usually bring her to another organism by just rubbing her clitoris with my penis. And she usually has another organism when I’m in her. After we finish with this she usually has only enough strength to roll over and curl up in the fetal position and go to sleep.
This isn’t something that we do every night. We usually “Make a date” to do this every two or three weeks. She puts out so much juice doing this that I can’t see how we could do it more often. Oh yeah, one more thing. We’re both in our 70’s.
K. Arroyo
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I am considered one of the younger couples but this passage has done wonders for my sex life. I followed every instruction to the letter and wow did I get a response from her!!!
Charu
Says:
Just beautiful
Once down below there, with this info. I stay there hours together.
charu
india
Art Lorenz
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Gabrielle,
I did not realize how great this could be with the simple and direct directions and movements you recommended!! My haabit is to jack off a little bit before engaging in this activity so as to get her going. Maybe I shoule alter my routine and go direct for the pussy!!!!
Thanks for the tips and instructions. Art
Philip
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It is funny because I had done this last night( somewhat) and she loved it. Then I opened this link and read what you said. I will say Gabrielle is 100% correct about this idea.
sesz
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finally gabz someone needs to show da men hw to do it tats y im a leszy we already knw da important facts an more so sex al da time wen u knw hw to work her lads hehe!
Joe in MT
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It’s too bad they don’t teach these techniques to high school senior boys. I think women would be much better served in the lovemaking department if they were.
I might suggest one additional thing to assist in the teasing… grab her opposite leg (i.e. using your right hand, grab her left leg as she’s lying on her back) and gently pull it up to a bent position. Then take your wet fingertip and sort of do a slalom run from just inside her knee slowly up her leg to her vaginal area. As your fingers leave the surface of her leg, lightly graze them along her labia as you hone in on her clitoris.
During that little slalom run, you can vary the pressure just slightly each time you make a turn. It’s also fun to do this with your tongue.
I hope this drives your woman wild as much as it does mine.